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Omg ladies I just have to share, I had a very heated dream last night...about Harry Potter!!! Lmao! Geez these hormones are crazy!
lolol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Omg ladies I just have to share, I had a very heated dream last night...about Harry Potter!!! Lmao! Geez these hormones are crazy!
Really irritated right now with my MIL. Love her to death and she would do anything for us, but right now she's sort of stepping on my mother's toes about the nursery furniture set my mom was going to gift us, and is trying to "out-do" her, and I'm really quite bothered by it. I've already picked out the set I want and my mom was going to take care of most of the cost, and MIL is taking DH to lunch today and i KNOW she is going to try to take him crib shopping to convince him to let her buy a different set instead. Ughh I'll write more about it in my preggie journal so I don't bombard this thread with 1,000 words, feel free to read on there if you wish, I'll stop for now on here.
Really irritated right now with my MIL. Love her to death and she would do anything for us, but right now she's sort of stepping on my mother's toes about the nursery furniture set my mom was going to gift us, and is trying to "out-do" her, and I'm really quite bothered by it. I've already picked out the set I want and my mom was going to take care of most of the cost, and MIL is taking DH to lunch today and i KNOW she is going to try to take him crib shopping to convince him to let her buy a different set instead. Ughh I'll write more about it in my preggie journal so I don't bombard this thread with 1,000 words, feel free to read on there if you wish, I'll stop for now on here.
That is definitely annoying. I understand her wanting to be involved and feel significant to you both during this process, but sometimes people overstep their boundaries. My MIL wanted to do this with our wedding china; we picked a kind out (one even my husband liked!), people bought us many sets, and then she tried to convince us to switch types b/c she found this set that *she* liked and was a 'good deal' in her mind. I am like-"buy what the couple wants..it is NOT about you!?!". :/ Hopefully your DH can convince her to contribute to another major purchase. Hang in there!!!
Really irritated right now with my MIL. Love her to death and she would do anything for us, but right now she's sort of stepping on my mother's toes about the nursery furniture set my mom was going to gift us, and is trying to "out-do" her, and I'm really quite bothered by it. I've already picked out the set I want and my mom was going to take care of most of the cost, and MIL is taking DH to lunch today and i KNOW she is going to try to take him crib shopping to convince him to let her buy a different set instead. Ughh I'll write more about it in my preggie journal so I don't bombard this thread with 1,000 words, feel free to read on there if you wish, I'll stop for now on here.
That is definitely annoying. I understand her wanting to be involved and feel significant to you both during this process, but sometimes people overstep their boundaries. My MIL wanted to do this with our wedding china; we picked a kind out (one even my husband liked!), people bought us many sets, and then she tried to convince us to switch types b/c she found this set that *she* liked and was a 'good deal' in her mind. I am like-"buy what the couple wants..it is NOT about you!?!". :/ Hopefully your DH can convince her to contribute to another major purchase. Hang in there!!!
yes! its exactly the same feeling!! and truth be told, if it were up to me i'd just let my MIL get us the set she wants to get us just to avoid a conflict, because my mom is a hot-headed person, and I know as sure as my name is Kaity that as soon as my mom finds out what has happened if we let his mom buy the furniture, she's going to cause a scene and get all offended.
I really do appreciate that my MIL wants to buy us the set, its just that she doesn't always comprehend the circumstances that it creates when she does these kinds of things. Same thing happened at our wedding, my husband is an only child, so she doesn't have a daughter, and she wanted to go dress shopping with me, and help pick out linens, and do all the planning, but I'm my mother's first daughter, and my mom wanted the whole "alone time mother daughter bonding experience" part of it, so i was put in a position where I had to tell my MIL that she couldn't come with us, and for me it was really awkward. As I said I really do love her to death and I really do appreciate everything she's ever done for us, but I don't always enjoy the stress that comes along with the family aspect of it. Partly my mom's fault as she's got a short temper, and I'm more inclined to concede as a loss for myself to satisfy the two of them.
Looks like in this situation, the solution is going to be to LIE to my MIL and tell her my mom paid for it herself (and then give the 500 in secret) or convince my mom to pay for ALL of it... I'm not one to ASK for assistance, so the lying option seems a better route to me. I'm not a liar but in cases like this sometimes it makes things simpler.
yep, my own mother is 1.5 hours away, while my MIL is literally 5 minutes down the road.
i heard my husband upstairs shouting in Chinese and went upstairs to see what was going on, he was yelling at his mom who had apparently called to say the crib we want SUCKS... she's doing the thing she does now where she gets an idea in her head and she won't quit til she gets what she wants and is irrationally rationalizing... let me just show yall:
https://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/larkin-4-in-1-crib/?pkey=bcribs
https://ab.pkimgs.com/pkimgs/ab/images/dp/wcm/201310/0009/img4o.jpg
thats the crib I want. Her rationale is currently: ITS UGLY, IT LOOKS CHEAP, THE BABY WILL HURT HIMSELF ON THE SHARP EDGES.
first of all, its not ugly, second of all, its expensive AND made out of solid wood (unlike the one she wants to buy that is made out of man-made plywood), and thirdly, if the baby will hurt himself on the sharp edges, I might as well just keep him in a cage, because wall edges and bookshelves and things that are already in my house are going to be DETRIMENTAL.
Omg ladies I just have to share, I had a very heated dream last night...about Harry Potter!!! Lmao! Geez these hormones are crazy!
lolol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![]()
My MIL is driving me crazy too. She wants to be 'more involved', but I have no idea what she means by that. I mean she wants to know about my doctors appointments and she's always asking me questions. I bought a glider rocker off the local classifieds and she freaked out saying that her mom had a rocking chair that she was going to give us....yeah wish I'd known that! (turns out the rocker is so low to the floor that I wouldn't want to use it anyways). She wants to know our short list of names too! DH is feeding into it too and it's driving me crazy. I'm SO SICK of trying to make this woman happy. She needs a huge reality check and a grow up.
This is the crib we bought.
https://www.toysrus.ca/product/largerImage.jsp?productId=11985919&largeImageURL=https%3a%2f%2fTRUSCA.imageg.net%2fgraphics%2fproduct_images%2fpTRUCA1-11077618dt.jpg&imageIndex=0
Bah. I hate being sick! Typically I just load myself up on medication but can't do that now. This cold is relentless. Can't. Stop. Coughing.![]()
Really irritated right now with my MIL. Love her to death and she would do anything for us, but right now she's sort of stepping on my mother's toes about the nursery furniture set my mom was going to gift us, and is trying to "out-do" her, and I'm really quite bothered by it. I've already picked out the set I want and my mom was going to take care of most of the cost, and MIL is taking DH to lunch today and i KNOW she is going to try to take him crib shopping to convince him to let her buy a different set instead. Ughh I'll write more about it in my preggie journal so I don't bombard this thread with 1,000 words, feel free to read on there if you wish, I'll stop for now on here.
Y'all are making me glad that I haven't told my FIL and MIL that I'm pregnant yet!My MIL is driving me crazy too. She wants to be 'more involved', but I have no idea what she means by that. I mean she wants to know about my doctors appointments and she's always asking me questions. I bought a glider rocker off the local classifieds and she freaked out saying that her mom had a rocking chair that she was going to give us....yeah wish I'd known that! (turns out the rocker is so low to the floor that I wouldn't want to use it anyways). She wants to know our short list of names too! DH is feeding into it too and it's driving me crazy. I'm SO SICK of trying to make this woman happy. She needs a huge reality check and a grow up.