septembryos baby area (09 babies)

[firegal]

10thSept, you're not a wuss. We're told all our lives that labour is scary and terrifying and hugely painful and horrible..... it's pretty hard to just leave those preconceptions behind! The thing you need to remember (I think, bearing in mind this will be my first child) is that this is completely differerent to any other painful experience - you're bringing a child into the world, and your body is designed to do this.

You might find doing pregnancy yoga helps you know. I've just started it and it's really soothing. You do a lot of breathing practice while you're exercising so that it becomes second nature, and it's all designed to help give you a sense of calm and a bond with your child so that the giving birth bit is easier. Might be worth a try?

x

PS. I'm 31, nearly 32. I know that's not HUGELY older than you lot (well, I've got a good 10 or 11 years on some of you!) but I was born in a different decade and I think I am the oldest here so that's bad enough

 

[star-dust]

OK, see I'm such a wuss I'm now crying and my heart rate is through the roof
I don't think I deserve to be a mum if I'm such a whiny pathetic wuss!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for your support, it's reassuring to know people go through it a second time, but still freaks me out.

 

[faun]

I wouldn't worry about the birth because by the time it gets here you will be so glad to get the baby out everything else is insignificant. I'm not going to lie yes it does hurt but not in a unbearable way and you get the best thing ever at the end of it I always cry when bubs is born as its such a relief and its such a happy time. If it was as bad as you think its going to be no one would have more then one child, all the pain is overshadowed and quickly forgotten when you hold bubs against your skin for the first time. I would have to say though the more you know before going into labour the easier it is as you are prepared for it which is why you are encouraged to speak to your midwife and have a birth plan even if it doesn't get followed to the tee.

 

[babytots]

aww hunni bless you its only natural to be scared and frightened. your entering the unknown when you get pg you know its going to be painful getting the baby out but not sure how painful and where the pain will be. you deserve to be a mummy like anyone else. you are not a wuss you are normal.

the pain honestly isnt that bad. the only thing i can compare it to is having a really dodgy stomach the contractions feel similar to that sort of pain. (and trust me i do compare it to labour as i think well at least when i laboured i got a baby at the end of it with this i get a toilet bowl full of la de da lol!) sorry wayyyy tmi flmao!

my advise whenever you get a dodgy stomach practise the breathing techniques they tell you to use when in labour and it will help when it comes to the real thing.

right i really best go as my girls are fighting x

 

[firegal]

Oh and good luck with the m/w Star-dust, you young whippersnapper!

 

[sunshine_nic]

Hey ladies

it's been a few days since I last checked in.... way too much migraine, sickness and general unwellness going on in my world... i'm feeling very sorry for myself at the moment

good to see that all's still as mad as ever here though

i have a confession... ... i think I may be the granny of the group... born in 73... my mum dressed me in purple flares and green home knitted jumpers i truly was a child of the seventies....

anyway, back to the bathroom for me...

 

[firegal]

I'm not the oldest, I'm not the oldest!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[firegal]

Hey ladies

it's been a few days since I last checked in.... way too much migraine, sickness and general unwellness going on in my world... i'm feeling very sorry for myself at the moment

Hope you're feeling much better soon hun xx

 

[sunshine_nic]

ooh and in all my stupid sickness I didn't get to celebrate my transition to tri2!

I'm officially here!!!!!!! yay!!!!!!

 

[star-dust]

ooh and in all my stupid sickness I didn't get to celebrate my transition to tri2!

I'm officially here!!!!!!! yay!!!!!!

welcome to tri2 !!

 

[firegal]

Yay and welcome!!!!!!!!!

 

[10thSept]

Ok, I've had some chamomile tea and have read through all your lovely messages and feel a bit more positive - perhaps not yet ready to read the banned portion of all my books yet, but certainly a bit less freaked.
I know it'll be amazing when the baby is here but doesn't anyone wish there was another way of getting it out????!!!
Still, it's going to happen so I think I might as well get used to it!!

sunshine_nic - mine was awful until I reached 2nd tri, but really did ease up after about 14 weeks, so good luck - I still have bad days but it really does get better.

 

[sunshine_nic]

i've just discovered that Babybels with Krackawheat are fan-tas-tic!!!

Begone sickness - bring on the cheese!!!!!

 

[sunshine_nic]

ok I take that back

if i slept for a week do you think it would be gone when i woke up? this is really getting me down now... i thought it was all finished

 

[10thSept]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry, I went through exactly the same thing - around 12 weeks, it al disappeared and I was all, hurrah! And then around 12.5/13 weeks, it all came back and I was like, what IS this?? but like I say, I think that' normal and it should disappear again.
Just try to stay on your safe foods and think, MS means healthy baby!
SOrry you're going through this
xx

 

[badunkadunk13]

Hey 10thSept, I'm just like you...I HATE pain and I suck at dealing with it. But to be completely honest with you, birth wasn't that bad. The contractions hurt, but just breathing through them (and not that hee-hee-hoo breathing, just regular breathing like a regular person) made them not so bad.

I'm also with you about the whole epidural...I had one my first birth and COULDN'T FEEL A THING!!! It was great!! And my son is a healthy, happy, smart 2 1/2 year old, there were not adverse effects on him. I tore some, but honestly, they give you great (safe for when you're breast feeding) drugs to deal with the pain which really isn't too bad. Of course the reason it's not so bad is because you're so exhausted from trying to satisfy the new little stomach in your house along with all the visitors that will just casually drop by. Last time for 6 weeks after I had my little one, my husband put a sign on the front door that said,
"Welcome visitors for the new baby! Please be prepared to do one load of laundry, wash one load of dishes, or cook one meal in addition to cuddling, cooing, and coddling the baby."

But basically 10thSept, birth really wasn't as bad as it's made out to be. The only bad part was the contractions before the epidural, and like I said, just breath through them. You'll do fine and have a wonderful bundle of baby to show for it afterward!!!

 

[10thSept]

Thanks so so much budunkabunk, that makes me feel so much better. I have to say, I'm sooooo going to steal the idea of that sign!!!!!!

 

[xdaniellex]

me too lol its genious!!!!!!! x x x

 

[Scally]

10th Sept, i am exactly like u, when anyone around me talks about it i put my fingers in my ears and la la la la la la!!!! I am also going for major pain relief, epidural i think, but am sick of people around me frowning upon it!!!!! I am trying to deal with it slightly by looking occasionally at the birth section on here, but slowly slowly....

 

[firegal]

That's the way to do it Scally, read little bits at a time! Eventually you'll find yourself getting less and less freaked out

I don't think anyone has the right to frown on other people's pain relief choices... ultimately if you feel comfortable then the baby is likely to have the easiest entry into the world. Personally epidural's gross me out - it's not that I'm dead keen on going natural for my birth, there's just something about them that freak me slightly! I've got a good pain threshold so I'd actually rather deal with the pain. But that's just me

Btw... has anyone noticed that this thread is quite sane today? And Star-dust is at the the midwife appointment.... hmmmmmm... any connection????