Hey girl - glad you got to check in. Wow, what a month for you! I can relate to so much of that, it's uncanny.
I fully understand you need a month off - kinda like a recharge. This takes so much out of us. Back in Sept when we were first going to start the RE stuff, that's when I had the epiphany that I was forging ahead without really asking how DH thought of things. More like 'doc said do this, so we do this' and not thinking that we had much of a choice. So I stopped and asked him if he'd want to wait, give it the full year, and he was on board with it. Kinda like you said - let's give it a couple more months and then go for it. But I was having the same thoughts as you - we BOTH need to be on the same page for this, even though it's my body and the doc will basically go along with me calling the shots. This is a huge life decision and needs to be a 100% partnership. So I set aside my 'instant gratification' needs and waited for him to be ready.
So, thankfully (I think) he's onboard now. I feel more comfortable too, I suppose. Though I feel like I'm failing at this on my own and need to call in the pinch hitter b/c I can only dribble the ball to the pitcher and they can knock one out of the park each time. Or at least get on base!

But whatever, I'll get over my ego quickly enough.
re: your cramping - that was probably from the trigger shot too, i'd think. If you've been virtually cramp-free and then that was the only new thing introduced, I'd bet money on it.
I wish you luck and am sending tons of support and hugs for your decisions you are making over the next month or so. Clomid, no clomid, RE/no RE. Ugh. Speaking of, I see your DH's point as well on the IUI vs natural.
And most of all, hopefully you'll conceive naturally while making these decisions!
I'll be thinking of you! Please check in as often as you'd like!
little - still thinking of you, girl! And Bumpy - if you're checking in at all - thinking of you too!