Some interesting points made Redpoppy, but I still disagree with the introduction of Sharia Law/Sharia courts in countries. There are a number of reasons for my opinion (in no particular order!):
1. You mentioned about the fact that courts should recoginse all Muslim marriages, which at the moment they don't. Im unsure whether you mean polygamy or that its just marriages between 2 people that have not taken place in a registry office? If its in reference to husbands taking more than one wife then I dont see how any country should be forced to accept that. I dont know much about Canadian law but if we talk about UK law then it completely goes against what is in our legal system, I dont agree with one rule for one one rule for another, it goes against the core beliefs that our judicial system is set upon. If its the second point then lots of religions have to have 2 ceremonies (one religious & one for the formalities) so I dont see why one group should have things different to everyone else
2.Abilities for women to divorce - maybe we should be focusing more on the rights of these women so that they are able to divorce in a 'normal' court. If we accept that Muslim women can only go to a Sharia court to divorce then things will never change.
3.I think it segregates communities even more - there are already a lot of tensions in society this makes it worse
4.It increases misconceptions against Muslims (see the original post for proof of this!)
5.I lived for year in a Muslim country, I did not expect to have a different set of laws applied to me because I am a Chrisitian, if you live in a country you have to accept the rules that are there.
6.If you live in a country you have to accept the rules and laws of the country, I dont believe you can expect a country to change their laws because of your religion - there are Muslim counties that practice Sharia law where people can live.
7.I cant help but remember recently one of the top people in the UK Sharia court saying it was ok for husbands to rape their wives - I think we need to be working on equality of women not accepting the treatment of women and by allowing these courts we are.
Its a hard balance because I completely agree with keeping cultures when you move to a new country, that is what I love about the UK, the mix of people. My husband is Indian and so we are bringing up our daughter with a mix of the two cultures. Having lived in both Rural India and the Middle East where there was no acceptation of other cultures I love that we are so mixed...BUT I do not agree with changing the legal system/ adapting it for different groups of people. I think we should all live by the same rules otherwise it leads to splits in communities
Well firstly I didn't say countries should accept Sharia law. I just clarified the issues of what that meant. It's not "oh no they're throwing all our laws away and instead we'll be forced to follow Islamic law!!!" type hysteria that MANY people think it is.
Thanks for you points and if I sound annoyed its not at you but atteh horrible problem that sharia is and the fact that nothing is ever going to be done about it because people are more concerned about ideologies than the lves of women and the realities.
I am very passionate about this topic.
1. No I didn't mean polygamy as I meant and suggested (although I suppose I could have been clearer) that by recognising the first marriage as a LEGAL one then men COULD not commit bigamy and end up treating their first wives like crap because they felt like it. Not that Islam allows treating your wives differently as the biggest stipulation is that you treat them equally. But that's a whole other issue.
2. That is exactly my point. We need to be able to give these woman access to divorce but you try dealing with a woman who comes in to a sharia court crying every single time because HER OWN family have vowed to disown her and never speak to her again if she DARES dishonour them by divorcing her emotionally and more importantly PHYSICALLY abusive husband.
How do we go about enlightening her? How do we empower her? When in her eyes her only saving grace is that she is getting a divorce which is not immoral because it is sanctioned by her God?
I LOVE the fact people start talking about these women in Sharia issues as that is my BIGGEST concern but I find people don't actually tend to care. They like the idea of giving women freedom but don't realise that these women have ideological issues which can't be brushed away with a lecture on the pros and cons of Mary Wollenscraft or the waves of feminism. It seems like some people say "well if we ban all sharia law courts then these women will HAVE to go to a civil lawyer" but they wont!!! They will either stay in abusive relationships or they will have nowhere to go and IN fact will not even be able to remarry when their husbands kick them out of their home because they have been married by an imam who has not registered their marriage and then they have a husband who will not provide a letter stating he has divorced them and so they can't get remarried according to THEIR OWN religious beliefs.
Changing religious beliefs isn't a walk in the park. Its not about accepting women can only go to sharia court but about becoming aware that YOUR sensibilities can not be applied to these women. It's their belief system. Of the Sharia courts VERY few educated, middle or upper class people use them from whichever country their culture originates form. I would NEVER use one for divorce and I would NEVER allow any of my female relatives to. I come form a long line of liberal, educated, middle class, city dwelling women. It's not about me. We don't need your help. It's the economic immigrants from these cultures who are from working class and many times rural settings who have a culture which is ancient and their beliefs are ingrained. Such issues are so difficult because it's a HUGE system. In regards to forced marriages: How do you convince girls or boys being forced into marriages that they should send their parents to jail? It's not that easy. These people don't hate their family. They love them.
3. I don't know what this point has to do with the issue of the women. The sharia courts will be there whether they are recognised or not. It seems people are more concerned about them NOT being recognised so they can live in peace and go back to not worrying about something which will never in realty affect them than confronting the issues of the abuse these women face. It's a better headline. It's more media friendly. Let get everyone shocked so they oppose this. But at the end of the day. it will NEVER effect you. I don't think recognising them is the answer but I wonder if they are given some support then PERHAPS they will be held up to scrutiny more and be answerable? who knows?
4. No ignorance increases misconceptions. I don't think the first post is full of misconceptions because sharia courts are legally recognised. It's full of misconception because people read snippets and media stories and rarely in life do they have the chance to meet someone like me (and I am rare in my knowledge of this topic) who can lay down the issues.
5. Absolutely, but its not about rules, its about culture.If you are an abused woman who is married but not legally recognised as married or in fact not even abused but just VERY unhappy in in a loveless marriage and you do not have the backing or courage to report your abuse or to leave the marriage because your whole family (extended and beyond!) culture, and ingrained belief system do not allow you to but the Sharia law court is sadly your only personal hope then what? Please answer this question above all else!
6. Same as above. It's not about laws. It's about belief. As for "well move to a sharia country". That's not only childish but impractical. If you grow up in a country and live there it is your home. You are a citizen. As much as people hate the reality, culture changes (shock shock horror!). It is an organic thing and an immigrant minority WILL effect your culture as it ALWAYS has. The culture in the UK is not the same as it was 200 years ago. Technology, cultural influences, progress, art, music, film ALL take their toll and culture is never fixed. It is fluid. A new influence will not overpower it or change it completely, it will add and the culture will meld into something new. Without the asian culture in Britain you wouldn't have curry (imagine life without curry people!!!
) or influence of bhangra beats in pop music, or many other smaller things. I am British. You can't change that. Just as these people are. We can't deport the problem. The problem is here and has been for at least two or three generations if not longer. Cause and effect.
7. Again I agree. WHO WANTS to accept bigotry and ignorance? But as I keep saying, it's not about us it's about the women and by ignoring the issue or opposing it fiercely so we can go back to our lives the real issue is not dealt with and the abuse is still there.
I would like to add that I was interviewed recently about this issue and my opinion didn't make the final cut. WHY? They said it was because of so and so but the reality is people don't want to see the real women. They just want to oppose and move on. I am not in favour of Sharia law and never have been and never have stated that I am. I am FOR a solution which gets to the problem of women opting to go to an unfair system as its is in their "free" adult minds their ONLY hope.
Instead of going ON and ON about Sharia and how wrong and terrible it is, why can't we discuss this? Or in reality is it a case of "well they're adults and should take responsibility for themselves" and hence we let them rot? or "lets just make sure sharia isn't in the news or enters my brain spoiling my lunch so I can go back to work in peace of saving
my culture from tyranny".
Sorry to go on but its a very messy topic and I feel people mention the abuse of women and how banning legal recognition will STOP abuse but in reality that's is completely wrong. Not that legal recognition will stop abuse but people just like to talk without thinking or knowing the realities in my opinion and ALWAYS without trying to think of another solution.