How do you feel about people other than yourself and OH doing skin to skin contact with your newborn?
I ask because I had a pretty bad experience with my MIL after birth. Things were so stressful I ended up back in hospital when DD was 4 days old having a blood transfusion. Ive not spoke or seen my MIL since DD was 7 months old (there were other issues). My OH takes her once a week to see her for an hour. Ive never stopped her from seeing her despite our issues.
Before things got so bad, when DD was a few weeks old, I left MIL holding her whilst I nipped for a shower. When I came back down, my tiny newborn baby was down her top doing skin to skin contact. I went crazy to my OH. 20 months on and I am still seething. Being pregnant again has brought it all back, I hate the fact that she will have to see my newborn when Im not around and its just OH. Am I overreacting or was it not her place to do that? Skin to skin is about bonding for mother and baby, initiating breast feeding, to regulate the babies core temperature, theres so many advantages for mother and baby. I feel like she took something really personal away from me. Any thoughts? Sorry about the rant x
I ask because I had a pretty bad experience with my MIL after birth. Things were so stressful I ended up back in hospital when DD was 4 days old having a blood transfusion. Ive not spoke or seen my MIL since DD was 7 months old (there were other issues). My OH takes her once a week to see her for an hour. Ive never stopped her from seeing her despite our issues.
Before things got so bad, when DD was a few weeks old, I left MIL holding her whilst I nipped for a shower. When I came back down, my tiny newborn baby was down her top doing skin to skin contact. I went crazy to my OH. 20 months on and I am still seething. Being pregnant again has brought it all back, I hate the fact that she will have to see my newborn when Im not around and its just OH. Am I overreacting or was it not her place to do that? Skin to skin is about bonding for mother and baby, initiating breast feeding, to regulate the babies core temperature, theres so many advantages for mother and baby. I feel like she took something really personal away from me. Any thoughts? Sorry about the rant x