So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[bubbles]

NO-ONE said sahm mum's aren't instillin work ethic into their children. I've re-read the entire thread nd ONE person said they worked to instill work ethic... plus me because i'm single nd feel i should work. But no-one said that them not workin did the opposite.
NO-ONE said sahm were wrong.
NO-ONE said workin mums were wrong.
some people like forcin an argument when there wasn't one in the first place.

The only person I see doing this is you. I have made my point, you're the one who keeps trying to defend what you said when it is pretty clear what you meant

 

[vaileasmama]

well tbh, its important to me that my child sees me working.
i saw my mum working as well as my dad, and i admire them for it.
i have nothing against sahm's, i mean im on mat leave at the moment and am really enjoying it.. but its not a situation that i would want forever.
plus, i have a stuuupid mortgage!

 

[bky]

I love my job. I remember in 3rd tri someone said I was selfish and awful because I knew then I wanted to go back to work. I know what's good for me mentally, surely that's also good for my baby? If I had to leave my job I'd be a SAHM though (I'd need to find lots of activities though!). Maybe a WAHM. It's just another damned if you do damned if you don't situation. Down with mommy wars!

 

[ttc_lolly]

I think working mums are great! As I do SAHM's!! We are all mummies doing the best we can, and that's all that matters!

I'd love to work, just for a bit of adult company & conversation My OH works ALL the time, bless him so a lot of the time it is just me & LO. But I wouldn't swap all the time I get to spend with her for the world!!

I have no family close by, only OH's and they all work so no one could take care of LO for me even if I did want to go back to work. I'm too paranoid to leave LO in the care of strangers, so that rules out creches/nurseries so will be back at work when she's school age and can talk! x

 

[freckleonear]

In my family's culture and beliefs, mothers with young children don't work outside the home. My husband has always been on quite a low wage so we've had to make a lot of sacrifices for me to be a SAHM, but we'd willingly make more before even considering me going back to work. I do love it most of the time but just occasionally I wish I could go back to work for some sanity! I do some office work from home which helps but it's so difficult finding the time to get anything done with young children around!

 

[jakey1]

I was a SAHM in the beginning but as much as I loved being at home with the kids, I also really missed having some adult company and conversation and therefore, I decided to work part time at weekends. It's worked out brilliantly for us as a family - my OH works Monday-Friday and earns enough for us to get by and pay the bulk of the bills. I then work Saturdays and Sundays so that I can contribute a little to the running of the house and also, so that I don't have to rely on my partner to give me pocket money. I have always been a very independent person and had never been unemployed. I like that I am now able to earn a little of my own money, but also it is important for me to get out and do something that isn't baby related just for a few hours a week for the sake of my sanity lol. Neither myself or my partner work long hours so we still get to see each other every evening. But we are very fortunate in the fact that we can both earn, and don't have to pay any childcare costs as there is always at least one parent at home to look after the kids. I have a huge amount of admiration for people who return to work full-time though. Keeping up with the house work when you have a young baby (or in my case 2 young babies lol) is hard enough when you are at home all day, so I can't even begin to imagine how tough it must be on full-time working mummies xx

 

[EmmaM2]

I don't have to work and could be a sahm if i wanted as we are very fortunate that my husband is a high earner - however i want to. I am looking for a job as i feel it is important for me to have something for me. I only want to work part-time so i can still have most of the week at home with lo. I see this as a perfect balance for me - my work is important to me and my identity - as is having some adult company and opportunity to use my brain. I think it will make me happier and therefore my lo happier. just my situation though, i think it is whatever works for you. x

 

[MilitaryMummy]

Im a full time working mum!!!!!
I went back to work when LO was 6 months so been back a month now..
We couldnt live without my wage as i get paid more than DH so being a SAHM wasnt an option for me...
Also my mum went back to work when me and my sister where really young and it never done us any harm... we both have strong work ethics and id like that for little one too.
Dont get me wrong if i could have the money i earn on lesser hours or as a SAHM i would haha xx

 

[Lellow]

In my family's culture and beliefs, mothers with young children don't work outside the home. My husband has always been on quite a low wage so we've had to make a lot of sacrifices for me to be a SAHM, but we'd willingly make more before even considering me going back to work. I do love it most of the time but just occasionally I wish I could go back to work for some sanity! I do some office work from home which helps but it's so difficult finding the time to get anything done with young children around!

Hello,

If you dont mind my asking, what is your religion/culture...? Sorry to be nosey but im just curious, feel free not to answer fo you'd rather not

 

[Lightworker]

Haha Lellow I was also curious about Freckleonear

 

[Lellow]

Haha Lellow I was also curious about Freckleonear

We're so nosey!

 

[teal]

I'll be a working mum when I return to work next week! *cries*

 

[kirmal12]

My Mum never worked as she had 4 of us to deal with, so i grew up with a SAHM. I have always worked, never claimed any benefits ever and grew up with a great attitude to work. I'm a SAHM and will be for quite sometime, i don't need to work to teach my child a strong work ethic? (as some are suggesting!), but on the other hand if i needed to work, then i would no questions asked. All mum's have to do what's best for them and there families.

 

[freckleonear]

In my family's culture and beliefs, mothers with young children don't work outside the home. My husband has always been on quite a low wage so we've had to make a lot of sacrifices for me to be a SAHM, but we'd willingly make more before even considering me going back to work. I do love it most of the time but just occasionally I wish I could go back to work for some sanity! I do some office work from home which helps but it's so difficult finding the time to get anything done with young children around!

Hello,

If you dont mind my asking, what is your religion/culture...? Sorry to be nosey but im just curious, feel free not to answer fo you'd rather not

Christian but my family were exclusive brethren on one side and Plymouth brethren on the other.

 

[Lellow]

In my family's culture and beliefs, mothers with young children don't work outside the home. My husband has always been on quite a low wage so we've had to make a lot of sacrifices for me to be a SAHM, but we'd willingly make more before even considering me going back to work. I do love it most of the time but just occasionally I wish I could go back to work for some sanity! I do some office work from home which helps but it's so difficult finding the time to get anything done with young children around!

Hello,

If you dont mind my asking, what is your religion/culture...? Sorry to be nosey but im just curious, feel free not to answer fo you'd rather not

Christian but my family were exclusive brethren on one side and Plymouth brethren on the other.

Thank you.

I used to school with 2 sisters an a brother who were Plymouth Bretheren. so that now makes sense to me

 

[fluffyblue]

Ive just had my third child but have always worked, my first I went back at 10 weeks, second at 12 weeks but I am taking a little longer with this one, although my SMP is pretty crap I am going to try and take 6months, I will go back when we begin to struggle financially. I am the main breadwinner so its important I go back to work.

Im lucky because I work out on the road as an Account Manager so I can work from home etc if one of the kids are ill or need care etc.

I would love to be a SAHM and I think regardless of what we all do, work or stay at home we have great jobs "simply being a mum" !

 

[Laughing Girl]

I am very proud to mother Isla 100% of the time. This is my job and I feel more empowered as a woman doing this than I have done at any point in my life so far. I have never considered leaving my daughter in the care of someone else and don't expect to do so for some considerable time yet. (She's 10 months now). I have had successful careers in business spanning 20 years prior to Isla's birth, and its only now that am I doing something that I feel is worthwhile. For me, mothering is a way of life. I certainly don't feel any need to work outside of the home to give myself an identity. If we have another baby, I will mother him/her 100% of the time as well.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I am a SAHM and will be for the foreseeable future x

 

[aliss]

My kids are so proud of me at work, look at what they drew!!!

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(I sell garden supplies at Home Depot)

 

[louandivy]