So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[Marzipan_girl]

I'm going back to work part time-my oh works full time. I wish I could be a sahm but to be honest, I think going to work will save my sanity and I will appreciate my time with her even more

The thing that upsets me the most is when I see people (not necessarily on here) saying there a "full time mummy" because they don't work, just because I work doesn't mean I'm a "part time mummy" ??! Iykwim? X

I agree with this bit

Me three! I say i'm a stay at home mum...not a "full time mum!" Because that's not a job...well i'm not EMPLOYED to be a mother am I? And those who DO have jobs and ARE employed are still just as much mothers as me!

 

[Hayley90]

I dislike full time/part time aswell... as if we ever switch off from parenting mode when we go to work I still text home countless times everyday, call home, think about him, buy things for him, plan meals.... im still being a parent, im just not in the room with him!

 

[gemabee]

Woah! twice now I have read about people wanting their children to have a work ethic (and this is just me scanning over the thread)
Do you really think that because a mum doesn't work a child isn't going to have any sort of work ethic?

if the mum was a single mum then my answer would be yes.
same if 2 parents where at home nd neither worked.
i think ur seein what u want to see here tbh - no-one has said that.

I don't think I am just seeing what I want to see, I'm not the only one who spotted it for a start. I'm also going to put a spanner in your theory as neither of my parents worked on a regular basis (many personal health issues) yet I was employed from the age of 15 and have only ever been on JSA for a couple of weeks. Even when I went to college I was working. My brother and sister are the same, apart from the fact that my sister is now a SAHM. If anything I would say that made us more determined to work and stick at it

i wish peope wouldn't take things so personal... why should my opinion get u so wound up.
in households where no-one works where there is every ability to do so can in no way instil work ethics into their children.
ur parents couldn't work... they didn't scrounge... thats not even remotely what i was referrin to... again - ur seein what u want to see.

 

[Hayley90]

^ I agree with Gemabee, there is a big difference between claiming because you have to, and claiming because you want to! One is not a choice. One does not instill work ethic (unless, like me, your kids hate it so much they promise to do better!!)

But, thats OT.

 

[polo_princess]

#workingmumsrule #justsayin ... oooops, this isnt Twitter

 

[lozzy21]

There is a differance in not being able to work and not wanting to work.

My step dad walked out and left my mum with 4 kids and paid no maintanance. Before he walked he earned enough for her to be a SAHM. She couldent afford to work, she had no qualifications to fall back on so any jobs she could have got would not cover mortgage,bills and childcare. If she could have afforded it she would have got a part time job.

When we left school she made us go and get a part time job and untill starting ml iv worked ever since.

That is differant so some one who has no desire to work and is happy on benefits

 

[Lellow]

As the saying goes...

''A mothers work is never done''...

 

[Hayley90]

As the saying goes...

''A mothers work is never done''...

So true!!!

And LOL PP... #workingmumsrule retweeeeet!

 

[xemmax]

i think every person in this country should contribute where they are able to. having a child isn't a reason not to work as long as that child can be cared for while the parent is out, and having parents who work is not a detriment to the child as long as the child is cared for by them when they are home.

 

[Seity]

I'm one and am proud to be able to support my family. When I got pregnant it was very planned. I'd go back to work after 6 weeks and my OH would stay home full time because I made more money. Then he lost his job the month before we started ttc, so it was like fate telling us it was meant to be. I honestly can't imagine staying at home. I love my job and I like working and I love coming home to my family.

 

[Kalah]

My honest opinion of women who work.........

If you really want to know!!

I think....

they work.

 

[NG09]

This is something DH and I have talked about a few times. As much as I love my LO I am looking forward to going back to work, just for 2 days though. We are lucky enough that the option is there for me to be a SAHM if I change my mind. I personally feel it will do LO and I the world of good. It gives my LO the chance to spend a couple of days with my parents and his cousins and it gives me something else to focus on too. I have loved my time off but by the time July comes (will have been off for a year) I'll be glad to get back.

I would hate for anyone to then class me as a part time mummy, just because I won't be with him for a few hours in those 2 days doesn't mean I won't be thinking of him, missing him and totally excited to get home for cuddles x

 

[indy and lara]

Woah! twice now I have read about people wanting their children to have a work ethic (and this is just me scanning over the thread)
Do you really think that because a mum doesn't work a child isn't going to have any sort of work ethic?

if the mum was a single mum then my answer would be yes.
same if 2 parents where at home nd neither worked.
i think ur seein what u want to see here tbh - no-one has said that.

I don't think I am just seeing what I want to see, I'm not the only one who spotted it for a start. I'm also going to put a spanner in your theory as neither of my parents worked on a regular basis (many personal health issues) yet I was employed from the age of 15 and have only ever been on JSA for a couple of weeks. Even when I went to college I was working. My brother and sister are the same, apart from the fact that my sister is now a SAHM. If anything I would say that made us more determined to work and stick at it

i wish peope wouldn't take things so personal... why should my opinion get u so wound up.
in households where no-one works where there is every ability to do so can in no way instil work ethics into their children.
ur parents couldn't work... they didn't scrounge... thats not even remotely what i was referrin to... again - ur seein what u want to see.

I don't think Bubbles is 'seeing what she wants' at all and neither does she sound 'wound up'. Disagreeing with something does not make you either. Sometimes you just simply disagree.

In several places earlier on in the thread posters did say that by working they were instilling a work ethic in their child. I agree with Bubbles that just because you are a SAHM it does not mean that your child will not have a work ethic. Within most families there will be other working role models for a child and I do believe that a work ethic comes from more than just seeing someone work. It is a deeper thing than that. There are lots of young adults from privileged backgrounds who do not have a work ethic despite seeing their parents work very hard for all they have. Someone's own personality will play a huge part in their future path.

I have never heard people refering to working women as 'part time mothers'. Very odd phrase.

 

[katieandfras]

Woah! twice now I have read about people wanting their children to have a work ethic (and this is just me scanning over the thread)
Do you really think that because a mum doesn't work a child isn't going to have any sort of work ethic?

if the mum was a single mum then my answer would be yes.
same if 2 parents where at home nd neither worked.
i think ur seein what u want to see here tbh - no-one has said that.

I don't think I am just seeing what I want to see, I'm not the only one who spotted it for a start. I'm also going to put a spanner in your theory as neither of my parents worked on a regular basis (many personal health issues) yet I was employed from the age of 15 and have only ever been on JSA for a couple of weeks. Even when I went to college I was working. My brother and sister are the same, apart from the fact that my sister is now a SAHM. If anything I would say that made us more determined to work and stick at it

i wish peope wouldn't take things so personal... why should my opinion get u so wound up.
in households where no-one works where there is every ability to do so can in no way instil work ethics into their children.
ur parents couldn't work... they didn't scrounge... thats not even remotely what i was referrin to... again - ur seein what u want to see.

I don't think Bubbles is 'seeing what she wants' at all and neither does she sound 'wound up'. Disagreeing with something does not make you either. Sometimes you just simply disagree.

In several places earlier on in the thread posters did say that by working they were instilling a work ethic in their child. I agree with Bubbles that just because you are a SAHM it does not mean that your child will not have a work ethic. Within most families there will be other working role models for a child and I do believe that a work ethic comes from more than just seeing someone work. It is a deeper thing than that. There are lots of young adults from privileged backgrounds who do not have a work ethic despite seeing their parents work very hard for all they have. Someone's own personality will play a huge part in their future path.

I have never heard people refering to working women as 'part time mothers'. Very odd phrase.

I have not heard anyone refer to working mums as "part time mummys" but I have heard the phrase "full time mummy" (from people who dont work) on countless occasions! Again - not necesserily (sp?) on here but on fbook/in conversation

 

[mum2b2009]

i admire them

 

[Murphy98]

I think working mums do what they have to do and shouldn't get any flack for it. If we as a society want more stay at home mums and dads then we need to make more provisions to support such. There is no way my OH and I could pay our bills and our very average mortgage without both of us working. I wish it weren't so as I would love my husband or I to be home to raise our son full time. I'm sure this is not always the case, but my SAHM friends (of whom we know very very few) have husbands that have to work a LOT away and overtime to pull it off - so I don't know if that is what I would want either - one of us missing out so much (and LO missing out on that parent as well). This topic causes OH and I so much worry and hair pulling...we just cant afford it. Makes me so sad.

 

[jogami]

Don't worry about what people say hun! Each individual circumstance has a difference of opinion. I wanted a child and thought "if we have to wait til we have money, we'll never have children!" So yes I hate having to work and I hate that I leave him for 8 hours a day, but I promise you when he sees me he knows who is Mommy is; and I treasure our evenings and weekends together x

 

[Lena]

This thread seems to be bashing SAHM's to make working mums feel good about themselves. Everyone's circumstances are different. I was due back in April but DH got a higher paying job so we can now afford for me to be a SAHM which is all I've wanted since Nathan was born. If he didn't get that job, I would be back at work 3 days a week so we wouldn't have to sell our house. This wouldn't have made me any less of a good mum, equally, now that im staying home that doesn't mean my son will have a poor work ethic. I'm not staying home forever either, I'll work part time once he starts school.

 

[polo_princess]

TBF ive seen "full time mummy" like a trillion times on this forum, which does infer that others are "part time"

 

[Sam9kids]

I work 16 hours.a week.....its my break ha ha ha ha ha