So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[gemabee]

NO-ONE said sahm mum's aren't instillin work ethic into their children. I've re-read the entire thread nd ONE person said they worked to instill work ethic... plus me because i'm single nd feel i should work. But no-one said that them not workin did the opposite.
NO-ONE said sahm were wrong.
NO-ONE said workin mums were wrong.
some people like forcin an argument when there wasn't one in the first place.

 

[polo_princess]

I work 16 hours.a week.....its my break ha ha ha ha ha

This is entirely my logic .. ahhh its like a little holiday

 

[indy and lara]

NO-ONE said sahm mum's aren't instillin work ethic into their children. I've re-read the entire thread nd ONE person said they worked to instill work ethic... plus me because i'm single nd feel i should work. But no-one said that them not workin did the opposite.
NO-ONE said sahm were wrong.
NO-ONE said workin mums were wrong.
some people like forcin an argument when there wasn't one in the first place.

I have no interest whatsoever in creating an argument. I am putting forward a different point of view, that's all.

As far as the full/ part time mum thing goes, who knows? As I said, I have never seen someone call another a part time mum. I would prefer to be called a 'full time mum' as I feel that describes me better because it is what I do all day. That would be what 'full time mum' means to me, simply that I don't work anywhere else. I don't see working mums as part-time mums though and I find that phrase really odd. We are mums just the same, regardless of what we do.

 

[kirmal12]

I'm a SAHM and I'm having a great time!. We do something everyday, i never get bored, quite the opposite TBH!!. I would have hated going back to work and I'm lucky enough not to have too. And i still get a holiday!

 

[DanielleM]

When I had my first son I went to university a year after I had him and put him in nursery full time and I truely believe that I lost that bond with him as he was in nursery from 8am-5pm, he used to cry when I picked him up from nursery because he was used to being there more than being at home, which really upset me. Now I am a fully qualified teacher, not working as a teacher but I am actually my son's full time carer (he has cerebral palsy, a wheelchair user and a metabolic condition called MCADD) and I always said I would never put another child of mine into nursery full time.

However, I do also believe the reason why I felt so distant from Evan was because from the age of one he was diagnosed with all of him problems (CP and MCADD) and my coping mechanism was to put him in nursery and try to forget about the whole situation, now he is 6 and I have come to terms with all of his problems, so I understand this is probably a completely different situation to 99% of people!! (sorry to be a bit off topic)

But in response to the OP, no I don't think that working mums are bad, you will get a bit of a break and also will enjoy your mum and baby and family time a lot more instead of it being an everyday thing which can make it more like a chore!!

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I'm a (part-time) working mummy & tbh I LOVE it..When I'm at work I'm a human being not just "mum"..Don't get me wrong I love being a mum but it's nice to be an individual as well.

By no means does this make me a "part-time mum" though

 

[gemabee]

NO-ONE said sahm mum's aren't instillin work ethic into their children. I've re-read the entire thread nd ONE person said they worked to instill work ethic... plus me because i'm single nd feel i should work. But no-one said that them not workin did the opposite.
NO-ONE said sahm were wrong.
NO-ONE said workin mums were wrong.
some people like forcin an argument when there wasn't one in the first place.

I have no interest whatsoever in creating an argument. I am putting forward a different point of view, that's all.

As far as the full/ part time mum thing goes, who knows? As I said, I have never seen someone call another a part time mum. I would prefer to be called a 'full time mum' as I feel that describes me better because it is what I do all day. That would be what 'full time mum' means to me, simply that I don't work anywhere else. I don't see working mums as part-time mums though and I find that phrase really odd. We are mums just the same, regardless of what we do.

sorry i wasn't referrin to u hun... u were in fact doin the opposite of creatin an argument.
my post was an attempt at clearin up the points people were pointlessly arguin over.

 

[Lu28]

I think your friends are incredibly closed minded. So many of us, including myself, don't have the option to stay at home. Before now, it's what I would have preferred but now I've gone back to work, I don't think I could stay at home full time either.

As far as work ethic is concerned, I think that if as a family you can afford for one parent to stay at home without having to rely on any state benefits at all then that's great. The kids will see work ethic from one parent which is all that matters. But if it's a situation where the only way to afford staying at home is to rely on benefits to top up income then I think it's important that if you can go back to work, you should. For me, the economy is in a bad enough situation without people who can work deciding not to and relying on state benefits instead. That to me does not instill a good work ethic in a child.

But I haven't seen anyone on this thread so far who would fit into that category

 

[RinnaRoo]

I'm a SAHM and I love it. I like being able to be with my LO all the time.
I know girls that have 6 month olds, and work 18 hour days most of the week. And I think, thats gotta be really hard.
I have opened a studio, and have been making money off that, so I love that option too. I want to give Gabriel as much time as I can, and I am so blessed to be able to do that.
Big ups to working moms!

 

[Windmills]

At the moment, I don't have to go back because we're okay. Hopefully things are about to pick up a lot as we're about to open a new club. But I'm going back to college in September and hopefully uni the following September, I still want to chase my own dream as well as being mummy

 

[Lu28]

I'm a SAHM and I love it. I like being able to be with my LO all the time.
I know girls that have 6 month olds, and work 18 hour days most of the week. And I think, thats gotta be really hard.
I have opened a studio, and have been making money off that, so I love that option too. I want to give Gabriel as much time as I can, and I am so blessed to be able to do that.
Big ups to working moms!

You're in America aren't you? I feel so bad sometimes for American mums because the hours do tend to be so much longer. My dad's living in America and the hours tend to be insane

 

[bubbles123]

Each to their own I say. I'm a SAHM as I have no interest in a career. I've never been career minded, we can live on OH's salary and I enjoy being at home with LO. However, many women have to work and others love their careers and choose to work. All are fine. Mums needs to be happy in their choices, being a SAHM is not for everyone. I greatly admire women who work - it must be so hard to work and look after children too.

 

[lilbumpblue]

We rock lol!

Its one of the hardest things we will returning to work...i HAVE to return fulltime to cover bills and give James the best possible start in life! Luckily for me and James im a nursery deputy manager so he will be coming with me! The amount of parents who have cried on leaving their child for the first time that have seen and comforted is beyond belief and no doubt i will be the same! x

 

[MrsGlitz]

Being a full time working mummy is by far the most exhausting job I have ever had.

I work 35-45 hours a week, sometimes 5 days sometimes 6 (work have a massive backlog!). I've only been back at work for about 7 weeks but I've spent half of every weekend in bed due to stress headaches and migraines, meaning I only really get one day a week with Harry at the moment. On the Saturdays I don't suffer with headaches I go in for a few hours but it's 45 minutes each way.

Shortly after I returned to work DH lost his job, when he was working I couldn't do the overtime I'm able to do now. And DH is actually a far better SAHD in terms of keeping on top of housework etc than I was a SAHM while on maternity leave. I literally don't have to do a thing at home and for that I am very grateful. Also, DH was earning such a low wage (granted not much less than me) that we're not actually that much worse off now than we were both working and paying for childcare, even taking into account the tax credits we were getting.

 

[MrsGlitz]

Oh and to add (on my phone so I keep forgetting what I said!) the reaction I get when I come home is almost worth working for in itself! Harry is so excited and happy to see me even if I've had a horrid day it cheers me up immediately!

 

[andbabymakes3]

I've done both. Went back for a few months when Alex was 12 weeks then at 5 months became a SAHM. Dr. Sears has a good article about this ~ you can be a full-time mother when working and you can be a part-time mother staying at home ~ what matters is how you use your time with your baby

If you are a working mom, you put your career. before your baby. If you are a stay at home mom, you are lazy and eat bonbons all day. CAN WE EVER WIN???

I wish!

Can I stay at home and eat bon bons too? Please? That sounds fun
I love bon bons. Especially the powdery covered toffee ones. Yum

 

[Windmills]

I've done both. Went back for a few months when Alex was 12 weeks then at 5 months became a SAHM. Dr. Sears has a good article about this ~ you can be a full-time mother when working and you can be a part-time mother staying at home ~ what matters is how you use your time with your baby

If you are a working mom, you put your career. before your baby. If you are a stay at home mom, you are lazy and eat bonbons all day. CAN WE EVER WIN???

I wish!

Can I stay at home and eat bon bons too? Please? That sounds fun
I love bon bons. Especially the powdery covered toffee ones. Yum

I need to tell my OH. This is where we've been going wrong! I need strawberry bonbons immediately.

 

[andbabymakes3]

I don't think working mums are bashing SAHM's at all on this thread? I admire all mums, we all work incredibly hard whether we 'work' work or 'mummy' work. It's all work and we are all doing the very best we can in raising our children.

And as for the work ethic thing, that isn't why I do what I do. My mum was financially reliant on my dad, and when he upped and had an affair, it ruined her - both emotionally and financially. I swore then that no man would ever be able to put me in that position, so I work my little socks off to make sure that I don't have to ask anyone for anything. Whatever we need, I will provide.

 

[andbabymakes3]

I've done both. Went back for a few months when Alex was 12 weeks then at 5 months became a SAHM. Dr. Sears has a good article about this ~ you can be a full-time mother when working and you can be a part-time mother staying at home ~ what matters is how you use your time with your baby

If you are a working mom, you put your career. before your baby. If you are a stay at home mom, you are lazy and eat bonbons all day. CAN WE EVER WIN???

I wish!

Can I stay at home and eat bon bons too? Please? That sounds fun
I love bon bons. Especially the powdery covered toffee ones. Yum

I need to tell my OH. This is where we've been going wrong! I need strawberry bonbons immediately.

No no no. The strawberry ones are wrong. Toffee or nothing

 

[babyjiva]

i'm a sahm. i miss my career so much, but my husband makes enough for us to get by. there is no luxury, but for me and my baby the greatest luxury is being together... could never leave her all day