some people!

[suzanne108]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

This is how I've been trying to describe it for so long, but the words were on the tip of my tongue! You hit the nail right on the head

Not having a partner around because they are working or whatever doesn't really compare to not having anyone, at anytime.

I'm pretty awesome like that

Thats what you think.

Gema you didn't sound angry, I think every one of us single mummies has felt the same as some point. Its hard when you're pregnant but when your baby is here and you get little cuddles it makes it all worthwhile & things probably won't get to you as much. Good luck!!! xxx

 

[bloodbinds]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

This is how I've been trying to describe it for so long, but the words were on the tip of my tongue! You hit the nail right on the head

Not having a partner around because they are working or whatever doesn't really compare to not having anyone, at anytime.

I'm pretty awesome like that

Thats what you think.

Gema you didn't sound angry, I think every one of us single mummies has felt the same as some point. Its hard when you're pregnant but when your baby is here and you get little cuddles it makes it all worthwhile & things probably won't get to you as much. Good luck!!! xxx

Humph.


Gosh, i'm sooooooo tired. Bella woke up once last night for 10 minutes and now i'm soooooo knackered! I only got 8 hours sleep last night! And tonight she grumbled for about 30 seconds before she went to sleep, and though she's been fast asleep since 7, i am worried that she might wake up again tonight. I'm like a zombie. I just don't know how to cope on 8 hours sleep.


Mwhahahahahaha

 

[suzanne108]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

This is how I've been trying to describe it for so long, but the words were on the tip of my tongue! You hit the nail right on the head

Not having a partner around because they are working or whatever doesn't really compare to not having anyone, at anytime.

I'm pretty awesome like that

Thats what you think.

Gema you didn't sound angry, I think every one of us single mummies has felt the same as some point. Its hard when you're pregnant but when your baby is here and you get little cuddles it makes it all worthwhile & things probably won't get to you as much. Good luck!!! xxx

Humph.


Gosh, i'm sooooooo tired. Bella woke up once last night for 10 minutes and now i'm soooooo knackered! I only got 8 hours sleep last night! And tonight she grumbled for about 30 seconds before she went to sleep, and though she's been fast asleep since 7, i am worried that she might wake up again tonight. I'm like a zombie. I just don't know how to cope on 8 hours sleep.


Mwhahahahahaha

Shut up you man stealing whore

 

[bloodbinds]

Damn, can't think of anything else!

 

[AppleBlossom]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

Agree with this Being a mum is hard full stop. It is harder being a single mum but not always because there is no-one there to look after them while you have a shower or eat something. The feeling that even at the end of the day you watch tv alone, you go to bed alone, you have nobody to talk to (except faceless people online) and all of that is probably the hardest

 

[bloodbinds]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

Agree with this Being a mum is hard full stop. It is harder being a single mum but not always because there is no-one there to look after them while you have a shower or eat something. The feeling that even at the end of the day you watch tv alone, you go to bed alone, you have nobody to talk to (except faceless people online) and all of that is probably the hardest

Ah-ha! See! Other people think i'm awesome (sort of).




Ohh, wait Suz, yes i can!


Why dont you just do CIO Suz? For god sake! Don't you know that to be a good parent involves letting your baby cry needlessly for hours?!

Ohhh, and formula is posion!

And...er... ok, now i'm out!


(apologies Gemabee for going off on one!! Lol)

 

[rburke]

I am so nervous because I am about to become a single parent in January.....and the other day I had just mentioned to the father's sister (who is one of my best friends...it's a long story...he left me but I am still on good terms with his family) that it was going to be hard being a single parent and she got MAD at me! she said i should never feel that way because i have so many people supporting me! I know I have support but it still doesn't change the fact that I am going to be RAISING my daughter on my own... should i not feel this way?? Because I still feel like a single parent....even with family support!

 

[gemabee]

But being a single mum is worse than looking after LO on your own. It's the knowledge that you are on your own in this. That every night you are lying an empty bed (unless you co-sleep of course! Lol) and you have no one to talk to about the little things your LO does. The little things only a parent would care about.
So even if your OH isn't there most of the time, at least you know you are loved, and you have that support if you need it. Single mummies don't have that xx

Agree with this Being a mum is hard full stop. It is harder being a single mum but not always because there is no-one there to look after them while you have a shower or eat something. The feeling that even at the end of the day you watch tv alone, you go to bed alone, you have nobody to talk to (except faceless people online) and all of that is probably the hardest

Ah-ha! See! Other people think i'm awesome (sort of).




Ohh, wait Suz, yes i can!


Why dont you just do CIO Suz? For god sake! Don't you know that to be a good parent involves letting your baby cry needlessly for hours?!

Ohhh, and formula is posion!

And...er... ok, now i'm out!


(apologies Gemabee for going off on one!! Lol)

its fine!!
xx

 

[gemabee]

I am so nervous because I am about to become a single parent in January.....and the other day I had just mentioned to the father's sister (who is one of my best friends...it's a long story...he left me but I am still on good terms with his family) that it was going to be hard being a single parent and she got MAD at me! she said i should never feel that way because i have so many people supporting me! I know I have support but it still doesn't change the fact that I am going to be RAISING my daughter on my own... should i not feel this way?? Because I still feel like a single parent....even with family support!

u are a single parent hun nd how bloody dare she have a go at u!
i have fab friends nd family (not to mention the great support network on here)... but none of them will be doin the night feeds or helpin me pay my bills.
it doesn't change the fact that u will be laid on ur own in bed on a night, wishin u had someone to cuddle nd discuss the tiny nd pointless aspects of ur day with.
they aren't gonna be there all the time even if they are amazingly supportive... they aren't gonna be able to give u the support u so desperately crave.
i would have given her a slap!!
but i dunno if anyone's noticed that i'm slightly hormonal at the minute

 

[winegums]

grrrr... if i see one more post of this forum (obviously not the single parent section) off non - single parents saying things like they feel like a single parent because their partner isn't communicating as much, or as affectionate, or works a lot... or even wishin they were a single parent because they are arguin with their oh's over baby's name nd want their own way... i am actually gonna explode.
do people not actually understand how much we would give to be in their position!?
what a kick in the teeth.

sorry but have you actually thought about the people have been in both a situation of being a single parent and being with a partner?

sometimes *shock horror* it's easier to do things alone than have someone critisising you, making the house UNTIDIER, making things HARDER, you having to see them ignoring your children everyday having it rubbed in your face that they don't give a sh*t.......... i could go on

but why is it ok for you to complain about other peoples situations you know nothing about?

 

[bloodbinds]

grrrr... if i see one more post of this forum (obviously not the single parent section) off non - single parents saying things like they feel like a single parent because their partner isn't communicating as much, or as affectionate, or works a lot... or even wishin they were a single parent because they are arguin with their oh's over baby's name nd want their own way... i am actually gonna explode.
do people not actually understand how much we would give to be in their position!?
what a kick in the teeth.

sorry but have you actually thought about the people have been in both a situation of being a single parent and being with a partner?

sometimes *shock horror* it's easier to do things alone than have someone critisising you, making the house UNTIDIER, making things HARDER, you having to see them ignoring your children everyday having it rubbed in your face that they don't give a sh*t.......... i could go on

but why is it ok for you to complain about other peoples situations you know nothing about?

I think what Gemabee (and the rest of us) dont like is when people compare themselves to being a single parent when they are very much not.
And i don't think there is any need for that atitude, we are all friends on here!
The single parents section is here for us all to join together and to rant and to moan. She hasn't posted on a thread where people are complaining about being in a relationship, she has come to this section to moan about being single. I don't think she expects to have anyone else come onto her thread and be judged on her opinion.

We are all quite aware that there are abusive relationships in the world, and i'm also quite sure (tell me if im wrong) that Gemabee wasn't talking about them.
But when the worse thing your OH has ever done is leave his dirty socks on the floor, then it's hard for us single mummies to comprehend. We'd rather put up with a few dirty socks, and have someone there who loves us and our LOs! Lol.

 

[gemabee]

grrrr... if i see one more post of this forum (obviously not the single parent section) off non - single parents saying things like they feel like a single parent because their partner isn't communicating as much, or as affectionate, or works a lot... or even wishin they were a single parent because they are arguin with their oh's over baby's name nd want their own way... i am actually gonna explode.
do people not actually understand how much we would give to be in their position!?
what a kick in the teeth.

sorry but have you actually thought about the people have been in both a situation of being a single parent and being with a partner?

sometimes *shock horror* it's easier to do things alone than have someone critisising you, making the house UNTIDIER, making things HARDER, you having to see them ignoring your children everyday having it rubbed in your face that they don't give a sh*t.......... i could go on

but why is it ok for you to complain about other peoples situations you know nothing about?

i think u'll actually find that i actually stated myself later than i was angry nd hormonal on my original post (even tho the general consensus was that people agreed with me).. i stood by my original point but went on to say - 'i have no problem with people moanin bout their oh's nd wishin they supported them more ... the only problem i have is when people say stupid thoughtless things... throwaway comments... like wishin they were single mums so they can have their own way'.
so how dare u have a go at me when i said that i wasn't havin a go at people who had rubbish oh's, that i believe everythin is relative nd non single mums also have a hard time nd that it was only the silly little throwaway comments that annoy me nd i actually see how i am lucky to be a single mum in some respects.

read everythin before u judge.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I was in a loveless, abusive relationship. I did everything on my own until we finally split when LO was 7 months old and I don't find anything anyone has said offensive This is the single parents section where single parents can come to moan, I don't think there is anything wrong with that?

 

[gemabee]

i'm so upset now... the single parents forum is a place i come to find solice nd support... nd yes have a bloody good moan...
not to be judged nd have someone try to make me feel rubbish.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Don't feel bad hun. The poster that wrote that has just posted in another thread saying how her and her partner only argue like how any normal couples do, so I doubt she knows much about being a single parent or in a relationship that can make you feel like you are a single parent

 

[bloodbinds]

Don't let one person get you down Gem

I've had people in commited relationships come on here and try and put me down too. I don't know why they do it this is the single section, they have to expect to see Single mummies complaining about all sorts of things and discussing lots of single mummy type things - i don't know how people in relationships can be offended by us at all

Seriously, it is only one persons view, we all know you didn't mean offence, because we can see it from your point of view. People who haven't been there just can't understand sometimes xx

 

[gemabee]

thanks guys... feel a lot better after my rant nd momentary wobble!
xx

 

[Blah11]

I dunno tbh. It depends how much the dad helps with the baby. my OH didnt help me with Amelie whatsoever when she was a baby. He does now (he plays with her and gets up with her on a sat morning) but when she was little I seriously did EVERYTHING.

 

[Blah11]

p.s. hope my post didn't offend anyone!

 

[AppleBlossom]

It couldn't have been anymore offensive than the post on the previous page!