I was with my friend the other day for coffe and she bought her friend along who has a 4 week old baby. We were talking about sleeping through the night, and I said Sophie has slept through night since she was 5 a bit weeks old. Her friend *Tess* asked me what I did to "make" her do it, and I said nothing really, she just started doing it but if she woke up and cried, and I knew she was warm, fed, etc I would "shhhh" her back to sleep and stroke her head (I don't have to do this anymore she just goes to sleep/ self soothes!) Anyway, she then replied "Oh, well *Bob* gets put to bed in his cot at 7pm and then I don't go to him until 8am the next morning. I shut the door and that's that, if he cries, then tough shit. Crying won't kill him. I was up all bloody night for 2 weeks of him whinging and crying and I'de had enough, he demands me all day so I think he needs to learn to sleep and let me sleep".... NOW - I am NOT against using controlled crying or the "shhhing" method.....but shutting a new born baby in a room for 13 hours straight...? She then told me she has been doing it for 2 weeks and the last 5 days or so she puts him to bed at 7pm and she doesn't hear a peep out of him until 8am then next morning...so "it worked"......Urgh.... do I say anything to anyone? I said at the time I thought maybe she should ask her doctor on it, as I was sure he might need a feed in the night...but she just shrugged and said he drank enough milk during day, and changed the subject. So, do I say anything? And if I do, to who?