Achelois, when I met my OH he was in a relationship. He had been with her for 7 years and was very unhappy. The year before we met me he tried to end it with her but she talked him in to trying again. We started to see each other and after a few months he broke up with her [with lots of pressure from me]. They owned a house together and had a dog so it was never just a case of walking away.
7 months after breaking up with her and sleeping in seperate rooms he still hadn't put their house up for sale. In the end he told me he couldn't go through with the split and that we should just be friends. I was seriously fed up and went on a night out with another man. The following day he put his house up for sale and moved out shortly afterwards. He decided that he wanted to be with me even thought it was going to be a difficult process to seperate their lives. It took nearly two years for their house to sell and she got the dog which he was heart broken about.
When we met he told me he didn't want to get married and he never wanted children. Well two years after that we got engaged, then shortly afterwards I was pregnant. As soon as we had ds he wanted another one and its been me who has had to be the practical one about waiting.
What I am trying to say is if he had stayed with her because it was so hard to leave he would never have had children and it would of been the biggest mistake of his life. It was a very hard time but he was in his early 30's and didn't want to waste anymore of his life. It was made worse by the fact that his ex is best friends with his sister but he took the hard steps and made a fresh start.
My OH and DS adore each other. DS first question every morning is 'where is my daddy?' followed by 'I want my daddy!' OH loves being a dad so all the difficult times have been made worth it by a little person!
If you decided to stay with your OH and you have a child do you think your relationship will cope with it? Having a baby puts so much stress and strain on a relationship.
Maybe ask yourself if you were a couple who both owned seperate properties would you still be together? If not, then you are probably still together now because you live together. Life is far to short to be miserable and you deserve to be happy. Maybe some time apart is what you need. Could he go and stay somewhere while you both have sometime to think?
I really hope that things work out for you, what ever you decide. Big
Sorry for the long post!
I think its fine to feel normal 4dpo. I am keeping every crossed for you 
its right above his nipple and I just freaked out. Turns out DF of mine has noticed it a week or so before hand and just didn't want to say anything. I have been fighting with him for the last week to book a drs appt and today he finally did (after me me crying down the phone at him might I add) and now he has an appt in a few hours. He doesn't want to go alone so I said I will go with him (very unlike him) and even wants me in the room with gin (even more unlike him) girls I'm so scared. I'm sure its just a cyst or a fatty lump... but there's always a chance its something worse. I'm sat at home feeling so sick. I just don't know what to do. Trying to be supportive but bloody terrified 
