Our two will have just over 4.5 year aye gap, way way bigger than we wanted but it actually worked out well for us, since.Jamie's autistic he's needed a lot of therapy, and attention it would of been stressful during diagnosis with two. But he's sorted in school and he gets regular therapy but my mom lives near the center so she could baby sit baby while I take Jamie. Also because Jamie's in pre school til 2 every day I'll have some time.with baby and time.to nap with baby if it's long nights.
Jamie's not sleeping well so I've had to start sleep training, sounds awful but I've run out of ideas so I'm looking at starting him on melatonin! Hopefully it helps