Sophie so sorry to hear about your family troubles, last thing you need at such a hard time. It's hard to say what the best way to tackle the situation is, as both yourself, your dad and step mum are clearly going through the most stressful situations possible. Do you think your step mum is saying things like going shopping for baby as a way of trying to keep close to you as a bond to your dad? Or maybe it's just her way of trying to show you that she's being confident that it will work? Either way, I know it's hard so hear stuff like that but I really do think that she's trying to help.
My mum used to be like that, when we were TTC and failing she kept telling me stuff like a cousin (who is 36 and suffers from MS) being pregnant, such and such a body who had azoospermia and had an operation, well his girlfriend is now pregnant, her mate's son had a baby with IVF.... In the end I went mental and told her to stop it as hearing how everyone who was in a worse situation than mine is having a baby was NOT helping
in fact, it was just making me feel more shitty and unlucky and sorry for myself!
I spoke to my counsellor about it and she reckons that often it's a way for the person (in this case my mum) to make themselves feel better about the situation, because they feel like they are trying to help. The sad truth is of course no one can help much, but if it's upsetting to you, you're right to tell them.
Sorry that's me trying to get deep, I hope it makes sense?
Wallie that cake looks INCREDIBLE well done you clever
! Not huge on coffee cake myself, but what you ended up making sounds lovely and it looks even better, I'm well jealous of your granny
Samba happy OTD!!!
and most important, happy
on OTD!!!
Traskey, PG, Mazak and Kitty how are you feeling?
AFM, getting quite paranoid as it's symptom central here!
I woke up in the early hours of the morning with quite strong AF like pain, it only lasted for about 20-30 seconds but it was bad enough to wake me up.
I thought it's officially over so went to the loo, but no bleeding, no spotting, nothing!
Got another bad AF like cramp later in the morning after getting up properly and since then I've had an ache around my left ovary, which then turned into a dull ache for a few minutes, also a dull ache in my pelvis that lasted for about 20 minutes or so and a 10-20 second stabbing pain (sharp) in my left side. My lower back also feels a little achey too. Of course I am driving myself crazy wondering but not much to do other than that I guess? The next week will tell. Of course the first thing I did this morning was to Google '6dp3dt period like pain' and it looked good rather than bad, but I will try not to Google stuff like that again as I only drive myself crazy with it. Of course I am now REALLY preparing for the worse... Thank goodness for this forum and B&J's ice cream
.
Another dilemma I'm having is following a bit of a row with the DH yesterday about testing. He is DEAD against me testing next Sunday, he got really angry saying it's stupid of me going against the advice of medical professionals and if I do it he doesn't want to know!
I was thinking that a possible solution could be to ring the clinic tomorrow morning and pester them to know why they've given me a test date at 20DPO and ask them if I can do it sooner than that, but if they say no, I think I'm gonna have to stick with the original plan and POAS on Sunday 19th but I will be on my own
. Of course if it's good news easy peasy, I can hold a secret for 4 days but if it's bad and I go into meltdown then we might have a problem.... What to do?
Hope all is well with everyone xx
for you all instead!
