State, Private Or Home Schooling?

[Seity]

My parents scrimped and saved so we could go to a private catholic school that did 1-8th grade. The education was phenomenal, but I was miserable because I had no friends and most of the kids attending were stuck up or bullies. Many were kids that had been kicked out of the public schools, so their parents had to pay for them to go to the private school or leave them in juvie. We were looked down on for being 'poor' although we were actually fairly middle class. My parents let me switch to the public school for 7th and 8th grade and I was at least 2 years ahead of what they were being taught there and I learned bad study habits because I didn't actually have to study any more. However, I did finally make some friends, so it was a bit of a trade off.
That was just my experience with both systems and I can see benefits to both depending on what's available in your area and your financial situation.

 

[freckleonear]

I was home educated and I will be home educating my kids (I believe home education to be very different to home schooling btw). I watched my sister, who chose to go to school at 8, change from a kid with a love of learning to a child that wouldn't leave the house without make up and who thought she was stupid. I don't want my kids to lose their love of learning.

Interesting point, thank you. I've always used the terms interchangeably but now that you mention it, there is a big difference!

 

[vaniilla]

good grief did nobody read wobbles' post?

 

[LankyDoodle]

good grief did nobody read wobbles' post?

Oooh no, I was on my phone so just read the OP and the last page. Eeeek. Am I to take it this thread turned ugly somewhere between OP and now?!!!

 

[vaniilla]

good grief did nobody read wobbles' post?

Oooh no, I was on my phone so just read the OP and the last page. Eeeek. Am I to take it this thread turned ugly somewhere between OP and now?!!!

something like that

 

[Kimmer]

I always wanted to be home schooled. My mum removed me from my school when I was 15 because I was so badly bullied SS got involved and I couldn't handle it.

As soon as I was taken out of school, I learnt how to spell, punctuate and everything properly. I'm Dyslexic and while in school I was almost illiterate.
My teachers couldn't teach me properly, but a 19 year old Greek man taught me everything I know.

If Skye was in the same position, I would home school her. I'd much rather home school her than send her to a private school.

 

[aob1013]

I reckon jealousy is a major factor and a lot of ignorance. I actually think deep down if people did have the money alot of parents would send their children to private school!

And this here is the exact attitude I would work damned hard to ensure my child did NOT foster if he were to go to public school. I think it takes a certain kind of person to think that others are jealous of them, and unfortunately a great many of them are to be found in public schools, or are the product of a public school.

I have been lucky in my life in that I was awarded excellent grades in my GCSEs, A-Levels and in my degree and the only part of that education that had to be paid for was my degree. I would never be so bigotted as to think that someone would be jealous of me and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that I have always been surrounded by family and friends who are extremely well grounded and for that I am thankful.

In fact, reading some of the opinions on here has helped me make my mind up that I will be searching for a good local state school for my son and any subsequent children.

Have you read the rest of my posts with regard to this subject, or just concerntrated on that quote? Hmm.

Anyway, what you quoted me on is in fact true. Bigot No, it's true. People have said on here if they had the money they would, people openly admit it in real life, one person infact told me they were jealous .. It's not an attitude, it's a belief that people would do it, and obvious fact that people do get jealous.

As I said, my Father grew up on an extremley rough council estate, they had nothing - and he's worked his way up to the top. As has my OH, he's come from a very poor background, and is doing so well. So I am thankful to have lots of different experiences, with down to earth people.

I really think you should have a read through all of my posts in here, as I don't think you quite understand where I'm coming from.

 

[aurora]

Oh Lellow, you are all over the potentially controversial topics these days.

My OH was homeschooled, and believes strongly in it. He was homeschooled more out of neccessity though, while the family was living out in remote camps for work. We live in a place where home schooling is quite common, even though we have a fantastic school system.

Autumn will probably be homeschooled as this is the one area hes had strong opinions about. I'm on the fence, as we have an amazing elementary school about 2 blocks down the road in our rural area. Usually kids home schooled here end up going to public high school.

If shes does end up being home schooled, she'll be in good comapny, a couple of my friends will be home schooling as well. One with a daughter 1 month older and one due in July.

 

[aliss]

Sure it's gotten ugly. It's like a benefits/welfare/housing thread - always turns into bickering about money and social class. The divide and attitudes between the haves & have nots seems to be very overwhelming here on BnB, something I haven't seen on North American-based forums.

Kind of breaks my heart TBH to see such a divide.

 

[New Mrs W]

Perhaps I will them aob. TBH, education is something that is so very close to my heart that sometimes my mouth can run away with me. I am never normally drawn into arguments or debates on here and so I apologise for doing so this time. It was bad manners of me to do so.

 

[NaturalMomma]

We homeschool. We are homeschooling our oldest right now. Homeschooling is a lot better for our family. ds1 gets proper socialization and he is capable of socialising with kids of all ages and adults. He has no problems with that. He is advanced for his age and is very bright and loves learning. Homeschooling allows us a better freedom to educate him. We don't have to stick with traditional book learning. We can go on a feild trip each day to learn, we can teach him outside in fresh air (which helps him pay attention better) etc. School is 8 hours long, which in my opinion is far too long, that's a full time job. We school about 4 hours a day, every day, including the weekends. We have checks and balances, so it's not like we're blindly teaching him. He takes a test every year just like school kids do, we hand in our cirriculum to the state education board and they approve it, etc. Studies show that properly educated homeschooled children are usually a little more advanced and have better social skills. Many colleges, even ivy league schools take homeschoolers and they usually do better than their peers. Saying that, it's not ment to be a smash on private or public schools. DH was private schooled I was public schooled, we both have advanced degrees, so clearly both of those types of schooling work as well.

 

[Dragonfly]

I reckon jealousy is a major factor and a lot of ignorance. I actually think deep down if people did have the money alot of parents would send their children to private school!

And this here is the exact attitude I would work damned hard to ensure my child did NOT foster if he were to go to public school. I think it takes a certain kind of person to think that others are jealous of them, and unfortunately a great many of them are to be found in public schools, or are the product of a public school.

I have been lucky in my life in that I was awarded excellent grades in my GCSEs, A-Levels and in my degree and the only part of that education that had to be paid for was my degree. I would never be so bigotted as to think that someone would be jealous of me and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that I have always been surrounded by family and friends who are extremely well grounded and for that I am thankful.

In fact, reading some of the opinions on here has helped me make my mind up that I will be searching for a good local state school for my son and any subsequent children.

Have you read the rest of my posts with regard to this subject, or just concerntrated on that quote? Hmm.

Anyway, what you quoted me on is in fact true. Bigot No, it's true. People have said on here if they had the money they would, people openly admit it in real life, one person infact told me they were jealous .. It's not an attitude, it's a belief that people would do it, and obvious fact that people do get jealous.

As I said, my Father grew up on an extremley rough council estate, they had nothing - and he's worked his way up to the top. As has my OH, he's come from a very poor background, and is doing so well. So I am thankful to have lots of different experiences, with down to earth people.

I really think you should have a read through all of my posts in here, as I don't think you quite understand where I'm coming from.

Did I read right that people who want private school have attitude? maybe I read that wrong.

 

[Lellow]

Oh Lellow, you are all over the potentially controversial topics these days.

I enjoy discussing interesting topics, and most have been civil

 

[louandivy]

Sure it's gotten ugly. It's like a benefits/welfare/housing thread - always turns into bickering about money and social class. The divide and attitudes between the haves & have nots seems to be very overwhelming here on BnB, something I haven't seen on North American-based forums.

Kind of breaks my heart TBH to see such a divide.

Its actually still really prevelant in the UK. Much more so than North America.

 

[New Mrs W]

I reckon jealousy is a major factor and a lot of ignorance. I actually think deep down if people did have the money alot of parents would send their children to private school!

And this here is the exact attitude I would work damned hard to ensure my child did NOT foster if he were to go to public school. I think it takes a certain kind of person to think that others are jealous of them, and unfortunately a great many of them are to be found in public schools, or are the product of a public school.

I have been lucky in my life in that I was awarded excellent grades in my GCSEs, A-Levels and in my degree and the only part of that education that had to be paid for was my degree. I would never be so bigotted as to think that someone would be jealous of me and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that I have always been surrounded by family and friends who are extremely well grounded and for that I am thankful.

In fact, reading some of the opinions on here has helped me make my mind up that I will be searching for a good local state school for my son and any subsequent children.

Have you read the rest of my posts with regard to this subject, or just concerntrated on that quote? Hmm.

Anyway, what you quoted me on is in fact true. Bigot No, it's true. People have said on here if they had the money they would, people openly admit it in real life, one person infact told me they were jealous .. It's not an attitude, it's a belief that people would do it, and obvious fact that people do get jealous.

As I said, my Father grew up on an extremley rough council estate, they had nothing - and he's worked his way up to the top. As has my OH, he's come from a very poor background, and is doing so well. So I am thankful to have lots of different experiences, with down to earth people.

I really think you should have a read through all of my posts in here, as I don't think you quite understand where I'm coming from.

Did I read right that people who want private school have attitude? maybe I read that wrong.

Not attitude as in "attitooode" but a certain attitude towards something.

 

[venusrockstar]

Bella will go to a public school. It's literally a 2 min walk down the street from our house. It couldn't be more perfect.

 

[Dragonfly]

I reckon jealousy is a major factor and a lot of ignorance. I actually think deep down if people did have the money alot of parents would send their children to private school!

And this here is the exact attitude I would work damned hard to ensure my child did NOT foster if he were to go to public school. I think it takes a certain kind of person to think that others are jealous of them, and unfortunately a great many of them are to be found in public schools, or are the product of a public school.

I have been lucky in my life in that I was awarded excellent grades in my GCSEs, A-Levels and in my degree and the only part of that education that had to be paid for was my degree. I would never be so bigotted as to think that someone would be jealous of me and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that I have always been surrounded by family and friends who are extremely well grounded and for that I am thankful.

In fact, reading some of the opinions on here has helped me make my mind up that I will be searching for a good local state school for my son and any subsequent children.

Have you read the rest of my posts with regard to this subject, or just concerntrated on that quote? Hmm.

Anyway, what you quoted me on is in fact true. Bigot No, it's true. People have said on here if they had the money they would, people openly admit it in real life, one person infact told me they were jealous .. It's not an attitude, it's a belief that people would do it, and obvious fact that people do get jealous.

As I said, my Father grew up on an extremley rough council estate, they had nothing - and he's worked his way up to the top. As has my OH, he's come from a very poor background, and is doing so well. So I am thankful to have lots of different experiences, with down to earth people.

I really think you should have a read through all of my posts in here, as I don't think you quite understand where I'm coming from.

Did I read right that people who want private school have attitude? maybe I read that wrong.

Not attitude as in "attitooode" but a certain attitude towards something.

that something being?

 

[marie73]

I think in all the arguments or debates that go on here is the misconception that money necessarily makes the biggest difference in a child's life which is completely wrong. Having parents who are interested in you and your education and ensure that your happiness is paramount will always be the most important factor. That's what was the common thing in my life and those of my friends and we have all achieved i.e. degrees, careers etc. Money will never be a panacea for every issue that faces you in life and it certainly does not buy happiness (although being comfortable does help to some degree).

 

[venusrockstar]

I think in all the arguments or debates that go on here is the misconception that money necessarily makes the biggest difference in a child's life which is completely wrong. Having parents who are interested in you and your education and ensure that your happiness is paramount will always be the most important factor. That's what was the common thing in my life and those of my friends and we have all achieved i.e. degrees, careers etc. Money will never be a panacea for every issue that faces you in life and it certainly does not buy happiness (although being comfortable does help to some degree).

Well said

 

[cabaretmum2b]

I would love for LO to go to a private school. OH went to a lovely pre-prep and prep school, and he loved it. I went to a state school, and I feel I could have done so much better if I'd gone for the scholarship I would have got if I didn't want to stay with my friends in senior school. I'm already saving for Scarlett's schooling, and I'm doing a management diploma so that I can have a high-paying job so she can definitely go. I'm not snobbish at all, but I just know how much I hated school, and how much of a different view OH has of it, and I'd love her to feel like that about her education, instead of dreading it.