i havnt posted in here in a while but feeling pretty rubbish atm.
i have really had it with being a step mum to a spoilt child and my MIL is going to push me over the edge.
my daughter went camping with MIL, her partner and SD.
all weekend SD has been a spoilt, horribly behaved girl according to my DD.
firstly MIL would buy them both a toy but SD would then want what DD has so kick and scream until she got it. DD would ask for the same to even it out to be told no. baring in mind my DD is not related to MIL by blood as she is from a previous relationship, but i STRONGLY believe the kids should be treat the same. this is not the case with MIL. the things i could write about her would more than likely have eyes popping out of their heads.
MIL often gave SD more money than DD,
SD was vile to DD saying things like my son with my current partner (SD's dad) is not DD's real brother but is SD's brother.....just daft kids stuff like this but at the same time very nasty. my daughter was miserable the whole time.
other stuff happened like if my daughter was singing in the car or said she liked a song SD would tell her nannie she wanted it turning off and they would.
SD would eat all her chewing gum then ask for DD's even though she didnt like them and instantly spat them out.....she would ask, spit out and ask and spit out. if DD said no then MIL would say don't be so selfish, give her one, she has none left and you do.
SD would cry when she had anything less than DD even though DD had saved what little money she got for the arcades. SD would spend all and get more, DD would be careful but when all was spent, ask for more and be told no, she has had enough.
MIL was asked by DD to save some money and MIL would not give it her back when DD asked.
i am disgusted by all of this behaviour....
i spoke to OH last night after DD confided in me about what a miserable time she had.
he said he would speak to his mum but DD said "NO she will blame me and be horrible to me when i go there next time"
which in the past has been true.
MIL clearly doesnt want my ten year old daughter around but knows it would cause problems if she had my son and not my daughter as in the past we have had disagreements about her trying to take over with my son, feeding him beer, smoking in the car with him and then calling me a bad mum for picking him up at 12am after an argument about hearing the above. i hate that my son goes there, she is a vile woman who drinks too much and treats my OH like crap.
she has on many occasions spoken to DD like a piece of rubbish from the floor and i have witnessed it yet to keep the peace i keep my mouth shut.
it really makes me soo soo angry! all of this! luckily SD moaned to go back to MIL's before OH went to work today, i am so so relieved as she was supposed to be here yesterday and today.
sometimes i feel like i am overreacting and its all in my head but OH has started noticing all of this. my friends have too.
i give up to be honest. i can discipline SD when she is here with me but i have no say how she behaves with MIL, all i can say is i wont let my DD go again when SD is there.
this morning my SD and DD were watching tv, OH was asleep on the sofa with DS, SD began to shout her dad becoming increasingly louder.
DD said be quiet sis please, dad is asleep and so is little bro, if you want to get dressed you can.
so SD carries on shouting, pulling faces at DD, raising her hand to hit her and making rude remarks about DD.
DD said she is telling dad.
SD walks out and OH says its ok, i heard all of that. i will speak to abbie.
i didnt see any of what has happened only from what DD and OH have told me.
SD is a very selfish little girl. she hates my daughter, hates me and doesnt want us around. she constantly wants attention from her father, hounds our 7month old to the point where i have to remove him from the room as he is trying to sleep and she wont leave him be.
she doesnt like anyone else holding or playing with DS unless its me, whom she cannot act the way she does with.
i have taken to hiding in the bedroom sometimes when she comes for hours on end because i get so anxious about being around her i just feel its best to avoid her.
i feel that she fears me because i dont stand for the crap everyone else does even though i fear her. she knows she cant get away with that stuff with me though and doesnt try until she thinks i am out of the way.
as a mother i am fair, i am strict but i am kind, with SD i dont lose face, i treat her exactly the way i treat my two children who live with me. i act as any parent would around her.
she must smell my fear though because if looks could kill........
SD's behaviour is mainly around MIL as they do not discipline her but she tries it here around her dad too. the only person she wont act up around is me strangely enough but she has her own ways of p***ing me off. if she is asked to speak to me for any reason she speaks through gritted teeth or stares at me with a chilling death stare, when alone with me she moans about how everything i do is not good enough, for instance her dinner tasted rubbish and she wished she was at nannies.
its making feel like utter crap. i dread the weekends she comes. i can't stand MIL because she undermines us and treats DD like crap and to top it off we are paying maintinence to SD's mum who is the biggest bitch on planet earth. talks to my partner like scum saying i want my money paid NOW....then goes running to MIL if there is a problem who then gets on at OH saying how can HE be so rude to be late paying her. we can barely afford food let alone these payments to her but i understand OH has his responsibilities.
i feel all this will break us.
above all of this i raised my DD right, she is polite, caring, helpful and responsible. she doesnt act up to any of SD's taunts and tries her absolute best to make SD happy when she is in our company. she took her out yesterday to play with her friends and SD hit DD several times after being told to stop it. today when SD asked to go out and play with DD, me and OH both said no.
gotta draw the line somewhere.
sorry for the massive rant. i need to vent so badly.
this is really getting to me.
thanks for readind.
Then OH just glared at me
Every time we have SS we row and a few weeks ago we exploded and I told him id had enough and he packed to leave for his parents before I begged him to stay. I seriously dont know how il cope once we have this baby. Il basically be carrying 2 babies with me all the time hes here to keep them safe. If I leave them alone I hear a thud and Leo crying and SS laughing
I understand how you feel about not being able to leave your LO alone with him. What does your OH say when you talk to him about it? He must see what his son is doing is injuring your child?! 
She then moaned to MIL that OH jsut sticks SS infront of the tv and doesnt bother with him (OH spends his whole time with SS trying to get him to leave the hosue but all he wants to do is play xbox) but she has just made OH take a big tv up to SSs room for him to play xbox on... OH has told me she tells SS to wait til she's done playing her game or watching tv til she can make him dinner or tend to him so who is she to say OH is terrible at being a dad? 
Leo is 1 and I was made redundant where as she is sat at home with a 10 yr old and hasnt worked since before he was born 
