Sticking Together Crew

[truthbtold]

Happy Anniversary Logan!

 

[sept10]

Had scan today - fluid volume normal and all babies measurements are within normal....femur length and abdominal circum both bang on average...head circum slightly above average....well DH has got a big head....so glad everything is ok...mw said im probably measuring big cause of my height/abdominal length etc...everyones different. Got to have a little peak at baby...sticking their tongue out and rubbing their face - soo cute!!!

 

[Sun_Flower]

Thanks everyone. We gave her a 3oz bottle, she drank 2.5 oz and then went to sleep. I feel... I dunno. It's hard to explain. I feel a bit freaked out that I've made this potentially massive decision to stop breastfeeding, but at the same time I'm not constantly looking at the clock counting down to the next feed and dreading it. I feel a lot more relaxed all of a sudden like all the pressure has been taken off. I think I was just getting so neurotic with the whole thing, worrying about how many minutes she'd been on the breast, whether she was suckling the right way, worrying if she was satisfied at the end of a feed, feeling so downhearted when she was weighed and she'd lost weight or only gained a teeny tiny amount. I said to OH after she finished her bottle and went to sleep that for the first time I wasn't worried if she started crying, because I would at least know she'd definitely had enough to eat, and could concentrate on the other stuff like if she needed a nappy change or a cuddle or something, rather than feeling god awful because in my head her crying would make me doubt whether I'd been able to feed her enough AGAIN. So yeah... think I've made the right decision. We'll see how it goes. Dreading telling the midwife and breastfeeding team, but there we go, at the end of the day she's my baby and I'll decide how to feed her. Thanks so much for all your support ladies, I know I've been a bit of a pathetic whiny mess today :S xxxxxx

 

[truthbtold]

Good Choice Rach! Me and Logan will join you in the ff group lol.

Glad everything turned out okay Sarah

 

[AmaryllisRed]

That's great that she drank 2.5 oz and went to sleep. And you can be content knowing she's fed and happy.
It sounds like you've made a decision that makes you happy, and actually one that makes Eden happy, too. And you are the two who matter.

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Good Choice Rach! Me and Logan will join you in the ff group lol.

Me too! Me too!

 

[truthbtold]

lol@Jen

 

[lilrojo]

So happy for you Rachel.. you seem at peace now and thats what matters most.. you can now enjoy being a mommy and feeding you baby girl.. its not for eveyone.. and it is your baby and no one has the right to judge you for you choices.. Everyone does things their own way.. So happy you sounded so happy and relieved..

FFing is most likely what i will be doing again.. I know how to do it and it it doesnt scare the heck out of me..

Thanks Erika..

 

[QueenVic]

Sounds like the best decision Raych

Sorry ladies I meant she thought he would be over 8lbs8 at birth, if he was that now I would be FREAKING OUT !!
She said if he is v.big then we would talk through options and I would have to do the fasting glucose test but my blood test at 28wks was fine.. suppose that was nearly 8wks ago now..

Sarah glad everything went well at growth scan, hope the same for me

What's the deal with cran no baby boy yet ?

 

[truthbtold]

Last I checked she was 4cm

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Vicki, you think it's likely that your gtt was fine but you've since developed gd?? That seems odd to me... but 8lbs 8oz at birth isn't bad... didn't you say you've measured a little ahead all along? Idk why they're worried about it. I bet everything is fine.

Sarah-- glad all went well with your scan. Any narrowing down on the girls names?

 

[QueenVic]

Thats what it sounded like to me Jen.. she said it was fine at 28weeks but they might check it again with the fasting test next week
You must be able to develop it at any stage of pregnancy?
Hopefully I'll be fine and pickle is a normal size, fingers crossed! Don't like the wait though.. next Weds seems agesssss away !

Going to check Crans journal see if any more news !

 

[DrGomps]

Just copying and pasting this from the November Mummies thread on Facebook *sigh* not having a good day, feel like a terrible mum, gah. I wish I had a good supply of milk like Andrea and Cass, where you can express loads of ounces or the milk spurts out - my boobs never even feel full, and the most I get is a couple of drips

So I'm sitting here staring at a can of formula, deciding whether or not to give some to Eden. I've just had it with breast feeding - I've had problems with milk quality because of my anaemia, and she went from 10lb 7oz to 9lb 4oz on day 5, lost more by day 7, and is only just back up to 9lb 4oz now on day 14. We topped her up with 1oz of formula after each feed and she gained slightly, but then midwife told us to cut down on the top ups, and she only gained a measly 10 grams after 4 days. I'm just so sick of having no idea if she's getting enough food, if it's actually doing anything for her, of having her hungry again an hour after a feed, of her constantly latching on and off, falling asleep 5 minutes in to a feed no matter what I do... *sigh* I just want her to grow, and be content, and to know that she's getting a decent amount of milk at each feed, and to feel like a person again, not a milk cow. I know that's an awful thing to say, and I feel like a terrible mum, but I just get so frustrated at every feed, and so worried that I'm not feeding her enough, which she must be able to sense. I want to be enjoying my time with my beautiful little girl, and have us both be happy, rather than this, but I just don't know what to do for the best :'(

I am so sorry you are having a rough go of it. Don't be hard on yourself, like the others said. Do what is best for you and Eden.

Raych why are u being so hard on yourself - some people don't even give BF a go to start with ! It doesn't suit everyone, if it doesn't suit me and I can't express then I will be using formula, u can't feel bad about it there's nothing u can do it's out of your control. There is NO point battling on if it is making u depressed !

I love the nicknames Macie Moo & Edie Pops... awww so cute, we still haven't decided on a name !!!

AFM just back from hospital and although the midwife measured FH at 36 today she got the consultant in and he wants to send me for a growth scan since GP has measured ahead all along and the head was literally off the scale at my 20wk scan... boohoo worried now..and they can't fit me in until Wednesday as they are manic ! Midwife said he doesn't feel huge but thinks from looking at chart he'll be around 8lbs8+ not going to know for sure until Weds

8 lbs 8 oz isn't bad for a birth weight and your FH is only off by 2 cm right?? And it can be highly inaccurate. Bet its nothing.

Oh and I call Josephine "Bubbles" LOL. I think its because my niece kept saying bubbles and so I started calling her bubbles and its also goes with bubs…and its cute. Steve hates it so much!! LOL. He says we didn't give her a long elegant name to be calling her dumb nicknames…but I can't help myself!!

I must agree with Erika on this.. I didnt give bfing a go at all with my dd and she is healthy and growing 2 year old.. They put everything baby needs in formula so they dont lack anything.. and dont beat yourself up.. its not for everyone.. some moms cant bf and others its not for them..

You need to do what makes you and your baby happy.. and so far bfing does not sound to be that. You may have a way better bonding with her too.. I dont know I just dont want you to be sad, depressed, angry, or worried over such a little thing of bfing.. We all want you to be happy hun.. & relaxed..

So anywhoo thats all i have to say.. im not at all concerned on bfing or ffing.. whatever i decide at the hospital.. lol prob ffing..

Vicki-hoping baby is not over 8lbs yet.. I think they can be quite off.. my old dr said my dd was prob 6-7lbs ans she was only 5lbs.. so they are not always right.. but if they are know you can do it.. many women give birth to bigger babies..

AFM-not much going on.. dh is out at a class for work.. started some supper in the crock pot.. 4 year anniversary today.. will spend it hanging out with my dd and then when dh gets home hang out with him too..

Time is going so fast.. and things are going to be getting so busy.. with christmas and such coming.. This sunday is my nephews first christmas program at church so going to that.. then next week will be super busy with getting things ready for christmas, baking, wrapping.. friday night spending with my brother and his family, sat half day with dh's parents and second half with his grandparents.. and sun morn home, then my moms for the night.. Im just ready for it to be here so i can get it over with and enjoy and then rest.

Sounds like you are super busy hun!! Happy anniversary!!
Hope you are managing some rest in there!!

No ideas on names yet at all? You can't keep calling him pickle, you know...

They might call child services if you name him that.

Thanks everyone. We gave her a 3oz bottle, she drank 2.5 oz and then went to sleep. I feel... I dunno. It's hard to explain. I feel a bit freaked out that I've made this potentially massive decision to stop breastfeeding, but at the same time I'm not constantly looking at the clock counting down to the next feed and dreading it. I feel a lot more relaxed all of a sudden like all the pressure has been taken off. I think I was just getting so neurotic with the whole thing, worrying about how many minutes she'd been on the breast, whether she was suckling the right way, worrying if she was satisfied at the end of a feed, feeling so downhearted when she was weighed and she'd lost weight or only gained a teeny tiny amount. I said to OH after she finished her bottle and went to sleep that for the first time I wasn't worried if she started crying, because I would at least know she'd definitely had enough to eat, and could concentrate on the other stuff like if she needed a nappy change or a cuddle or something, rather than feeling god awful because in my head her crying would make me doubt whether I'd been able to feed her enough AGAIN. So yeah... think I've made the right decision. We'll see how it goes. Dreading telling the midwife and breastfeeding team, but there we go, at the end of the day she's my baby and I'll decide how to feed her. Thanks so much for all your support ladies, I know I've been a bit of a pathetic whiny mess today :S xxxxxx

Yay!! Sounds like you found what works for you. She got the colustrum and a few solid weeks, be proud of what you did give her. And it sounds like you both are doing better on the formula. And who gives an eff what the bloody MW or breastfeeding team think. Its your baby, your life, your decision. Don't let anyone feel bad about it. Massive


AFM…just ran a bunch of errands…got a nice surprise on my paycheck…I have already paid my health insurance for the year so the next two checks I get the full amount!!

Also…Josephine is sleeping a lot…and not emptying me enough so am super engorged and pumping now so I can work out without pain when I bounce…I know as soon as I start the DVD she will wake…but think I may have DH just give her a bottle of EBM if thats the case. Might as well take advantage of him being home. Also…so sore from doing it 2 days ago…did some major ab workout and am still sore but I have a lot to work on.

 

[AmaryllisRed]

"Steve hates it so much!! LOL. He says we didn't give her a long elegant name to be calling her dumb nicknames…but I can't help myself!!"

Hehe that's exactly why you gave her a long elegant name! I think it's inevitable. If we give our kids names that will suit them when they're adults, we have to give them cutesy nicknames when they're babies, right?
I call Thomas "Buddy" a LOT. I call him Baby, too, but I'm trying to quit. I also call him Tom-Tom, Monkey, or just Monk.

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Starting to worry about Helen... it's been awhile...

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Go check Helen's journal...

 

[QueenVic]

So lovely, another Baaaaaaaaby and the first boy
She did a good job !!

WHO'S NEXT ????? eek.....

Jen we have a list of names we both like but we don't have the same favourites, arghhhh and 2 that I really liked Steve doesn't, boohoo.... I probably will call him pickle anyway as I'm so used to it, I always call him pickle bum when I'm on my own

 

[Sun_Flower]

My friend started calling her little boy squishy when he was born, and that was the way everyone ended up referring to him for the first year of his life - we're only now starting to call him by his real name, as he started responding when people said squish/ squishy, tee hee.

Had a good night - Eden woke up every 4 hours, fed well, spent some nice time alert but content snuggling with me, AND slept in her Moses basket no problem. Feeling relaxed and happy today, lets hope it lasts

I've used the pump twice in 24 hours just to relieve some pressure in my boobs, and I mix anything I express in with her formula, so she's not going straight on to bottles (and hey, I've expressed it I might as well use it). I've noticed her wet nappies are a lot heavier since she's been on formula... at least I know her kidneys are working well!

Spending the day curled up inside away from the cold and wet - it's raining/ sleeting/ snowing outside and looks very miserable. The rest of the country has proper snow which I bet looks very Christmassy (especially if you're not going out in it) but we've just got crappy rain and grey skies. Oh well, never mind! Anyone got any good plans for the weekend?

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Hmmmm, who's next...
I think Erika will be next, almost definitely. But when is the big question... We've been averaging a baby every two weeks... So I'm thinking Erika will go round-about the 29th.

Erika, good luck with your appt today!
And Ysa, you have bloodwork or an appt or something today, too, right?
to everyone!!

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Rachel, so glad that Eden seems to be much more content already.

We've had so much rain lately... It has snowed just flurries, nothing that sticks, very few times so far. It's got to be one of the rainiest Decembers on record so far... But it's been unseasonably warm, too... just got my gas bill and it's nice and low. So I'll take it. BUT I want snow for Christmas!!

Hmmmm... this weekend... I'm paying my water bill and my phone bill... library on Saturday... church on Sunday... yeah, that's it. Sorry I don't have anything exciting planned. But I think we will all appreciate a nice relaxing weekend after next weekend comes. Wow. Can't believe it's basically Christmas in a week.