kate.m.
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A friend of mine has 2 children, and a 3rd on the way, each with a different Daddy, and all her children have (will have) a different surname. I know that married people (generally) tend to take the man's surname, and therefore children born to a married couple usually have the Dad's surname. And it seems that this happens even when the parents dont have the same surname- i was wondering why that is? Is it just assumed that children have their fathers surname? Even tho some of these fathers might hardly see their children? My sis-in-law also has 2 children, and they have the same name as their dad, yet they live with their mum.
What you would do if you were in that situation? For those of you that actually have been in that situation, what did you choose to do? I think if i was in that situation, i'd want the child to have my surname- and if i did eventually marry the father, we could both change names at the same time? But then what if i didnt marry the father, and married another guy? hmmm... it all gets a bit complicated!!
( Im not questioning having children before marriage- thats a whole different debate, which we've already seen threads on, and i think the general opinion is that it doesnt matter! )
What you would do if you were in that situation? For those of you that actually have been in that situation, what did you choose to do? I think if i was in that situation, i'd want the child to have my surname- and if i did eventually marry the father, we could both change names at the same time? But then what if i didnt marry the father, and married another guy? hmmm... it all gets a bit complicated!!
( Im not questioning having children before marriage- thats a whole different debate, which we've already seen threads on, and i think the general opinion is that it doesnt matter! )