Team Rainbow Mummies - Gay Surrogates, Lesbian, Transgender and BiSexual TTC Group

[aljm419]

Spoke to our donor and he doesn't think he'll be able to make it until Tuesday evening. I am bummed but there is nothing I can do about it and it was last minute so I understand. Hopefully he will be able to make it Wednesday.

I have a question about ovulation tests. How soon after getting a positive one should you expect to O? Will it still be positive when you're o'ing? I am aware that unlike pg tests a positive must be as dark or darker than the control line... if the test line is a shade or 2 lighter does that mean your're gearing up for a positive? I took an ovulation test today and there is a line but not quite as dark as the control line. I'll include a picture of it.

I haven't been doing too good with the tussin, it was making me feel sick to my stomach so I have switched to a mucus relief tablet. Trying to drink lots of grapefruit juice, green tea, and water. I've also got my tube of preseed so with all of that I hope for super friendly cm!

 

[READY4OURBABY]

hello everyone!

so me and my hersband (thats my name for her) have officially been married for 2months and 2weeks and now its time to start actively trying and not just talking about it. im a little nervous as i will be the one carrying the bun.

we will for sure be doing an at-home with fresh spermy. we tried last year a few time with BFN all 3 times i've read such good things about softcups and preseed. we're thinking thats the way to go. can any of you give me any tips that i should know about.

thanks so much

babydust to all of you

 

[Carrie&Char]

hello everyone!

so me and my hersband (thats my name for her) have officially been married for 2months and 2weeks and now its time to start actively trying and not just talking about it. im a little nervous as i will be the one carrying the bun.

we will for sure be doing an at-home with fresh spermy. we tried last year a few time with BFN all 3 times i've read such good things about softcups and preseed. we're thinking thats the way to go. can any of you give me any tips that i should know about.

thanks so much

babydust to all of you

Hi

just wanted to say hello, can not help though as we used a clinic....

Good luck

BabyDust back at U!!!

 

[aljm419]

Hi and welcome to the board!

I highly recommend softcups and preseed! I have heard wonderful things about preseed and while it didn't work for me the first time I am a believer that it does help. As for the softcups, I wait until after 30mins have gone by with my hips elevated before putting it in and then I wear it for 12hrs. The only bad thing about it is when you go to remove it it's pretty messy. I used to use them for af and I wish they had some sort of little grabber tool that you could use to remove them... Fingers crossed for you 2!

AFM, we got lucky and our donor was able to make it last night! So, we will have inseminations done 2 days and then 1 day before O, he can’t make it Wednesday and I feel like Thursday just isn’t necessary. As much as I want a baby and I know this is the best process for us I just hate what the process involves, ya know?

 

[MrsMM24]

ALJM, That is almost positive. Basically, the sticks detect that within 12-36 hours you will have OV. So it is safe to say your OV is near. You can't be 100% without temping. Have you tried? Click on my chart below and sign up for fertilityfriend, it is the greatest! If you got a donation last night, and then day before OV, you should be covered. If possible, I would cover my bases with Thur as you don't know OV will be Wed., but that's your decision. Things look good, though so FXD GL

:wave: Welcome READY4, I think we have "kinda" met on here before. Anyway, I used clinics and DIY so I can say, softcups are where its at! I am an advocate. You and DW should start preparing now, finding a donor, temping, etc. Here is a site to get some "tools" for a good price https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/extra-sensitive-pregnancy-test.html As well, as I just mentioned above, click my chart that is on my signature and sign up for fertilityfriend. Great app for your phone as well so you won't miss a beat as TTC is about timing and being a Lesbian, it is even more about timing! I will happily answer any questions best I can to help you! There is allllot more in my journal if you want more details. GL FXD!

AFM...Stalk my chart!!! Yay!! Last week of TWW is starting off lovely, temp jumped up a little today, reeally hoping it stays up there to a bfp! Still no SS, and that feels good. I am a little nervous, as DW and I have similar cycle lengths and her AF is near! Still waiting... (that's tea) FXD!

 

[aljm419]

MM, I've tried temping but my sleep schedule is kind of crazy and therefore my temps were all over the place. I have a really regular 26day cycle so I feel like I'm pretty sure when O happens. I had O pains Monday and some today as well. I'm going to take another opk at 3:15 so we'll see how it looks.

 

[MrsMM24]

ALJM, Every other week, I am up at 4:15am. 6:30am the other weeks and every weekend. So I use 6:30am as my time. What I do is use the adjuster during the 4 days of 4:15. I learned early on with a fert specialist, that my cycles were nothing like I assumed. However, it sounds like you have a pretty good handle on it and I hope that your "donations" go great! FXD!

 

[aljm419]

Hopefully I will get my BFP this time but if not... MM, I may ask for a temping tutorial from you.

 

[day_dreamer]

I tried tempting, but my temps were pretty erratic from what I can remember...I put it down to mine and OHs habit of getting hot/cold/hot/cold during the night and either kicking the duvet off or opening Windows and then waking up freezing, lol. I would consider doing it again tho down the line if a BFP doesn't appear.

I've been trying to work out my fertile days with not much luck. This year I have had cycles of 30 days and 42 days and anything in between...my last cycle was 39 days, average is 35.

My first 5 luteal phases appeared to be 13, the last 4 appear to be 11...I say appear to be, as I'm only going on when ewcm ends...

If I take my avg cycle length and 11day LP, then theoretically I should ovulate on 4th November so would like to inseminate on 1st and 3rd. But it could be as early as 31st October, or as late as 9th November. Not really sure how to plan donations as potential donor M needs more than 12 hours notice that I'll get when my CBFM says peak. Hrmph

 

[Princessbec]

Hi we are back to join all the other lovely ttc people here, found out today our bean didn't stick : (

 

[Carrie&Char]

Hi we are back to join all the other lovely ttc people here, found out today our bean didn't stick : (

Really sorry to hear this! Keep trying and sneding baby dust

 

[MrsMM24]

ALJM, I would be happy to help you figure the temping out... BUT you won't need it as you are going to get that bfp!

DAYDREAM, temping is sooo good for OV, hard as hell, but..... soo is TTC! Just my 2cents, if you are going to OV on the 4th, more ideal days for insem would be the 2nd and the 4th.... GL FXD!

PRINCESSBEC : hugs: I am sooo very sorry to hear of you loss! I know how you must be feeling right now and if I could provide more than BNB hugs I would.

AFM...Stalk my chart!!! Yay!! Temps staying up, higher than whole cycle (except days with fever). I just hope I did enough and beign sick doesn't effect implantation. I mean, it looks apparent that I OVd so if I truly did.... FXD! Well, I creep closer to testing! Getting nervous however. As promised, started SS today. Not really much or anything that resembles past bfps. Most are indicative for me of AF so waiting will tell. DW is spotting and moody and fatigued. Still waiting... (that's tea) FXD!

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Princess~ I'm so sorry big Sending you a bunch of sticky dust..

Aljm~ Glad your donor made it after all!! Welcome to the TWW and hope it ends with a

Ready4ourbaby~ Hi and good luck to you!!!

 

[aljm419]

Thanks, MM for reminding me to be positive! I am way more relaxed about things this go around. I think it helps that we didn't have to drive 12hrs each way and endure a hurricane for our inseminations this time.

Pinkandblue, me too! He seems like a really great guy and we are very lucky to have found him. I am hoping this tww flies by, the last one was awful! I have vowed to not test until at least 10dpo and I'm going to try not to ss (yeah right).

So, question... did any of you have a ttc/tww craving? Our first go around I ate apples liek they were going out of style. We were up north for our first inseminations and there are WaWa stores there and I was getting cups of apples and peanut butter several times a day. We went to the store Monday and I bought a big bag of apples and I've been eatign 1-2 a day... it's crazy!

 

[READY4OURBABY]

MM- yes we have in a different thread. we are definitely ready. we have our donor. he is a few years younger then me, so i'm hoping that's in our favor. i've been charting for the past 9 months. no temping, i've never had sucess with it at this point i'm getting the legal paperwork ready. any suggestions?

i'm OV but sadly our donor is unavailable this week. so next month is our month

GOODLUCK

 

[Pinkorblue11]

I have vowed to not test until at least 10dpo and I'm going to try not to ss (yeah right).

It's hard not to, I know.. I'm really trying to ignore the backache and what feels like a very sore uterus that started this morning.

Yes, on the cravings! Last cycle was anything lemon flavored or actual lemons. This time it's carrots dipped in peanut butter. At least the cravings are for healthy foods, right?

 

[wilsons228]

So sorry princess bec lots of hugs to you guys!!
Ive been without internet for a few days! going crazy lol
Pink and MM i can hardly wait for you two to test this month

welcome READY

aljm my ttc craving for some reason was eggs, which is weird because i normally hate them! Now its nutella...horrible! lol

 

[MrsMM24]

ALJM, Yes, HAVE to stay positive, the end result is the greatest. 12hours was a long trip, so glad that the trip is not as long. I didn't have cravings during the TWW...

READY, awesome that you got the donor together. Advice I have, not legal, I would try to start temping, it really is great. The clinic we use recommends it with OPKs as well. Now leagally, I would definitely make sure all the rights of the donor if any are clearly stated. I am not sure how the law works in CA but since same-sex marriage is legal here, we have alot more rights to having children and so my DWs name will be on the certificate. If that's not possible, I would make sure that you get the legal rights of adoption taken care of quickly so that once the baby is born and y ou are trying to rest and take care of the child, you won't be concentrating on that.... GL!

PINK, that's good and healthy cravings. With both of my PGs I was craving healthily too. Tomatoes being the biggest thing that I wanted. I am just hoping it stays that way, I haven't really fancied sweets since getting PG almost 10 yrs ago with DD....

No net... UGH! So glad that it is back up and going! Your cravings don't sound that bad either. I have seen alot of women on BNB craving for Nutella... LOL

SS 9DPO: GASSY. Fatigued. Bloat-y. Feeling sick last night.

AFM...Stalk my chart!!! Yay!! Temps staying up, actually climbing. Testing in a couple of days! I'm very nervous and even thought I may not test until the end of a busy weekend. Very early so I don't remember much of past bfps, but from what I remember, not really much that resembles past bfps (i.e. I ALWAYS had sore bbs). Most are indicative for me of AF so waiting will tell. Still waiting... (that's tea) FXD!

 

[mommy2be7772]

Hello Ladies, just a quick hello to say welcome.

Well Hi Everyone wanted to really intruduce my self and my little family.

Me and my beautiful wife (who is the mummy) have a beautiful little girl through IVF with donnor sperm, we went through the London Womens Clinic in Darlington who are a fabulous bunch of people.

We have a really close and supportive group of friends whithin out area and quite a few same sex couples with children or trying or ready to drop.

We are currently going through the process for number 2 as dont want out little one to be an only child. We have started the hormones (bring on halloween in our house) and have had the initial scan to check womb lining and going back on 28th for 2nd scan to arrange the embryo transfer!!!!!!

We have 2 embryos from the last time frozen seperatly so hopefully wont have to go through all the egg collection again and buying more sperm!!

Hoping to be preggies with baby number 2 by christmas for a summer baby

 

[Pinkorblue11]

PINK, that's good and healthy cravings. With both of my PGs I was craving healthily too. Tomatoes being the biggest thing that I wanted. I am just hoping it stays that way, I haven't really fancied sweets since getting PG almost 10 yrs ago with DD....

Me too! I hated tomatoes until I got pregnant with my oldest, I love them now..