EarthMama
Mom of 2 & pregnant!
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I told my BFF but we will not be telling anyone. Not even family. We have had 2 losses and we just want to make sure that there is a baby that is measuring on time around 12 weeks or so in there before we spill the beans. I hate having people tell me how sorry they are and how it "just was not meant to be" or "God has different plans". TRUST ME, I know that... But it is only okay when I say that... or someone else that has actually been through this. So no, we will not tell anyone until we cannot hide it anymore.
Exactly, the worst thing for me was hearing everyone's theories on why it happened in addition to all the empty platitudes. Don't want to deal with that again so we are way more cautious in telling people.
Omg I know! everyone saying "oh, well the body takes care of it when there is something not right." or "It just wasn't meant to be." That is annoying and it is just not nice to say. I would NEVER say that to a woman that had a MC. We are very cautious as well but I cannot wait to make a big announcement once I know the sex of the baby.
Imagine being told that after the loss of your son at 31weeks--->even from one of the doctors. Sad, right? The things that people say are often so inappropriate I would smile as to not cause them discomfort while thinking, "If only I could tell them how I really feel!"
Wow, insane. The sheer insensitivity of some people is mind blowing.