tempted to talk to FOB....I'm gonna cry!

[Alexandra91]

Just read the whole thing ffrom the start wanted to say i think ur doing a great job, jude is adorable and i think u have handled the situation amazingly and i hope when the time comes i will be able to take some tips bcuz i was all set for just not letting FOB kno, uve done the best thing for Jude and he will appreciate it im very sure. There are only so many chances u can give and him sayin im happy to see him once in a blue moon or whatever he said wud be anough for me to say thanks but no thanks! The most i would do is make sure he always has ur current contact number address etc. then he has no excuse!
well done babes Jude is such a darlin!! (and i love the name i havnt been on here in a while) xx

 

[amandad192]

Just read the whole thing ffrom the start wanted to say i think ur doing a great job, jude is adorable and i think u have handled the situation amazingly and i hope when the time comes i will be able to take some tips bcuz i was all set for just not letting FOB kno, uve done the best thing for Jude and he will appreciate it im very sure. There are only so many chances u can give and him sayin im happy to see him once in a blue moon or whatever he said wud be anough for me to say thanks but no thanks! The most i would do is make sure he always has ur current contact number address etc. then he has no excuse!
well done babes Jude is such a darlin!! (and i love the name i havnt been on here in a while) xx

I'm just wondering if he said this to try and start slowly. Or maybe just because he wants to try and play it by your rules. ???

 

[trashit]

i think he may have done it because his parents have said that would be best if he did, he didnt even hold Jude when he came around apart from once when i passed him to him and he nearly dropped him
Anyway i've resolved the situation in the way i feel is best and if it blows up in my face in the future then so be it but im happy with the decisions i made.
And no i wouldnt wanna change Jude, but he looks like me as a baby anyway so its all good x

 

[amandad192]

i think he may have done it because his parents have said that would be best if he did, (1)he didnt even hold Jude when he came around apart from once when i passed him to him and he nearly dropped him
Anyway i've resolved the situation in the way i feel is best and (2)if it blows up in my face in the future then so be it but im happy with the decisions i made.
And no i wouldnt wanna change Jude, but (3)he looks like me as a baby anyway so its all good x

(1) Maybe he was scared? I know I was a bit scared holding Liam at first, it's just..something new..but then my Mum's always been a control freak when it came to us holding babies.."sit back do this do that etc)
(2) The only reason it will blow up in your face would be, like I said, if you bad mouth FOB to Jude, when he's old enough just explain, If he chooses to see his dad it's fine, But at the time you thought it were best to avoid contact for his own sake and wait until he can decide for himself what he wanted. He will understand and he won't hate you in the long term, but it may be stressful for a few days while he comes to terms with WHY you wouldn't let him see his Dad.
(3) I'm glad he looks like you, at least your not looking at him being reminded of FOB all the time.