tempted to talk to FOB....I'm gonna cry!

[Jadelm]

I'm feeling the same way hun, it's such a great community, I've never seen a forum quite so good anywhere on the net no matter what it's about. yay we get to be a part of it xxxxx

 

[cabaretmum2b]

Christ, what a prick. I think you've done the right thing by leaving him a window open, without making it sound like you particularly need/want him to come running.
Bravo!
Now you can get on with looking after your beautiful son without having to worry about him.

Oh, and I nearly wet myself laughing at the stepmum thing. Although that is quite a common occurrence nowadays...

EDIT** - Nearly wetting myself is more common, I mean. Sleeping with your stepmother is probably less frequent than it used to be. Just to clarify

 

[trashit]

well its disgusting! it made me feel sick when he told me. funny thing is she kept sending him letters telling him how sorry she was and how much she loved him

It amuses me cos to look at him you'd think he was just some innocent dork in his brown cord pants and floral shirts but in actual fact he is a DICK.
He always had these shitty put me downs. Like the fact "he thought he was in bed with a boy when i had my back turned to him" cos i had short hair at the time and when i was feeling low about my weight once "i should be a size 8" (i was a SIZE 12 with a gorgeouss figure, what id give to have it back!)
I really dont know why i didnt leave sooner xx

 

[aiimee12345]

yeah and he boned his step mum, i wouldn't have minded if she was sexy but she was in her fifties and still thought she was a 20 year old hippy she was also the size of a boat... I'm gagging to tell his dad, he still has no idea

Sorry i shouldn't be exposing FOB's dirty laundry on here, but it does make me giggle.

Thankyou sugar x

lol that was sooo funny!! haha u should tell his dad lol!
it wud be like jeremy kyle xxxxx

 

[aiimee12345]

omg he sounds like a right idiot!!!!!

but u did get a gawjus little boy from it xxx

 

[trashit]

the best thing ever x

 

[trashit]

sorry;
i need to rant and i didn't wanna make an unnessecary new thread. i know its all my fault which is the thing i'm most annoyed at BUT. I've been messaging FOB for past week on facebook about Jude, about where it all went wrong, we've been really (surprisingly) civil with each other. We were beginning to come to terms with the fact we should both be civilised people, be as friendly as possible and maybe he should come visit Jude. Anyway, so he sent me a friend request. Me being me i thought, why not, ill have a nosey at whats going on with him. I soo wish i hadn't. All over his wall is him slagging me off to everyone. My little brother (who is a little twirt and seems to think hes some big black man ) Has put "why you do tht to my sister bled" And he's like "have you heard yourself, i only tried to do whats best by her, she broke up with me, she BROKE MY HEART" blah blah blah. Then i scroll a bit further down, there's someone whose put "FUCK ROOT" (meaning fuck croot, my surname) Then there's him saying "shes broke up with me cos i was trying to provide for her, well ive had enough of her shit, ive had enough of walking for miles to a shit job- (HE WALKED ONCE TO WORK COS HE HAD NO BUS FARE!) i'm finally out of the hell hole thats Bradford, Alice (my nanna) can't fuck up my life anymore, cos really it was her who broke us up moving us into that shitty run down house! (my nanna found us our first house and out of the kindness of her heart payed for it doing up for us but the minute the rain came it got damp, mouldy, it turned into a hell hole, But my nanna didn't know that was gonna happen!)
And then on the part where its like "daniel is now single" him and all his friends are like go on lad, much better without the psycho. blah blah. Anyway i got to that point and had enough, i deleted him again, and couldnt help but go mad in a message.
How dare he put down me AND my family, argue with my ELEVEN YEAR OLD BROTHER, all over his wall. Why didnt he just ignore my brother, delete him, whatever. I mean come on, how can someone who is nearly 29 years of age sit arguing with an 11 year old child via facebook !?!? Its really infuriated me, and now i feel SO stupid for talking to him, even though i know i did the right thing. Oh and another thing; he wants to talk about MY family destroying things, how about his mother! She was practically responsible for breaking us up. AND it came out of the wood work a few days ago that she told my nanna "it would be for the best we put the baby up for adoption, dan isnt responsible" NO BUT I FUCKING AM!!!!!!!! I honestly could swing for someone, xx

 

[aiimee12345]

omg what an idiot!!
never a good idea is it too look on fb i always find out the wrong things too!!!

why argue with ur brother & slag ur family off like that!?!!?
its his family & him that have dun this not u!!!...
he's tryin to make out like he is all good... but he hasnt even seen Jude once... o yh thats being a good dad isnt it!!!!

x

 

[Lissa3120]

It's a shame guys can't own up for their own mistakes and have to blame those around them, and those they are closest or were closest to. But at the end of the day it's him who misses out. In years to come if your son asks you where his daddy is, you can tell him that you tried, and you did what you felt was best at the time, he just chose to be this way, you'll know in your heart of hearts that your son has had the best, with or without his bio father. anybody can create a child, but it takes someone really special to step up and take responsibility for that child. and in your case your the one who did that, and that makes you a very special mother to your son. just keep acting in your sons best interest and you'll have done nothing wrong, so far you've proven yourself to be more of a person than he is (more manly too, if you get what i mean!) and a damn great mother. you shouldnt feel bad for giving someone a second chance they didnt deserve. im sorry its all so hard, but it will get better (Im sure your tired of hearing that.) take care of yourself and Jude, nothing else matters other than the two of you are well.

 

[nicholatmn]

OMG, what an idiot. If I could go over to where he lives, I'd smack him so hard, his grandkids would feel it (sorry Jude's kids!).

 

[trashit]

hehe yehh poor grandkidddies! Lets make his mum feel it instead?!
Thanks everyone,

feels better to get it out in a rant! x

 

[AyaChan]

it would be funny if my mum knew her, maybe I could convince my mum to give her what for haha.

stupid aberysywythians xx

 

[trashit]

Anna Kavanagh
She owns these little challet things that she rents out to people, she's a dirty hippy and she does pottery classes
I hope your mum does know her, I'D LOVE SOMEONE TO GIVE HER WHAT FOR!!!!!!
xx

 

[trashit]

oh now my nannas claiming "im cutting her off" on the phone cos i was changing Jude and couldnt get to it on time?! x

 

[AyaChan]

:/ sometimes i think relatives are just here to make life harder haha.

have you explained to her you were changing Jude? she should understand you have a new baby and cant answer the phone constantly

xx

 

[nicholatmn]

Oooh, I'd add everyone to facebook and when something like that happens, write "Dang, I had to decided to either let my son pee everywhere or answer the damn phone..."

 

[trashit]

that made me giggle,
I dont get why she doesnt understand that i have Jude now and cant always answer the phone, she gets really paranoid and thinks i dont want her to contact me anymore, but literally everytime she rings im changing, bathing, feeding him or in the middle of eating, my own bath, making up bottles. Its actually silly! She should ring at a more convenient time xx

 

[aiimee12345]

lol
my nan is exactly the same already!!
if she rings & i dont answer the house she rings my mobile...
she rings about 3/4 times a day!!
and rings at night bout 10. hope she doesnt do this when babies here!!

x

 

[trashit]

i thought i was the only one with a mad nanna!
she also rings 4 times a day, if i dont answer she does it one after the other after the other, i used to pull it out of the wall during pregnancy x

 

[aiimee12345]

lol nope iv got one too lol!!
she drives me crazyyyyyyy!! & i was in the bath the other night so my mom answered to her... she went o i only rang to tell her (something stupid cant remember what it was lol) she jus rang today to tell me ther stopping the bill!! i was like nan i dont want to no i dont even watch it lol x