tempted to talk to FOB....I'm gonna cry!

[trashit]

i know its a stupid stupid idea... because after everything he did i've made it perfectly clear i do not want him in Jude's life and he doesn't deserve to be a part of it anyway. But i still feel slightly annoyed that he never fought to see Jude in any kind of way, he just told me to fuck off. I feel sorry for Jude.... I keep looking at him and thinking "i wonder if your daddy ever thinks about you" I cant help but wonder if he ever thinks "has he been born, is he alright, whats she called him" etc etc. I havent changed my number so unless he deleted it he could call me at any time but doesn't so its clear he doesn't even care... *sighs* i just cant help but want to call and say he's been born, he weighed 10 lbs etc. I got upset over it the other night, i just feel for Jude so badly..... but its a silly idea isn't it?

 

[AyaChan]

hun if its something you want to do, then do it, its not stupid at all

xx

 

[trashit]

i know but i feel really stupid for even thinking about doing it. i cant tell him he's not responsible enough to be a dad and i dont want him in Jude's life but then ring him and say "your sons here incase you were wondering" like im dying to! i mean he'll know that by now he has to be here considering its 12 days after due date... i dunno its all been running around my mind!! xx

 

[faolan5109]

It isn't a stupid idea love its what you feel. I can't say that it won't end bad but if it is what you want then go for it. We are all here for you love

 

[stephx]

If its something thats on your mind then I would do it, I dont know anything about your ex or what happened but go for it! Just letting him know Judes here doesnt have to lead to anything else...

Let us know what you decide

xx

xx

 

[fantastica]

it's definitely not stupid...but ifyou decide to make sure you've thought about it lots (i'm sure you have) and be prepared for things not going well...expect the worse iykwim..then he can't hurt you anymore.

Jude is amazing, and completely understand why you feel how you do...but you're doing such an amazing job, he doesn't need anyone else!

Tbh if I was you...think the curiosity would get the better of me...but don't completely know your situation...sounds really complicated

One day he'll realise just how wrong he is

Hope you work out what your wanna do xx

 

[trashit]

well i unblocked him on facebook... now i just feel absolutely sick. His new profile picture is so idiotic too lol, just makes me realise even more how much of an absolute titface he is! 48 hours before i can block him again now dunno if i should hit the message button!!

 

[faolan5109]

Just send him a picture if you can't type anything, then see what he says. If he doesn't say anything then you have your answer you know?

 

[trashit]

i dont want it to lead to anything else heh. It definitely is just curiousity! but you know what they say about that...
Thanks everyone
my mum would KILL me if she knew i'd just unblocked him lol.
He still has the baby photo album with the scan photo.....
my little brothers (eleven years old) commented on it-
"you got my sister pregnant then ran off and left her you dick"
LMAO.

 

[stephx]

i dont want it to lead to anything else heh. It definitely is just curiousity! but you know what they say about that...
Thanks everyone
my mum would KILL me if she knew i'd just unblocked him lol.
He still has the baby photo album with the scan photo.....
my little brothers (eleven years old) commented on it-
"you got my sister pregnant then ran off and left her you dick"
LMAO.

 

[supriseBump_x]

If he hasn't bothered to contact u or anything then isnt he making it pretty clear that he doesn't care I think if u contact him it might end up upsetting you even more...
He doesn't deserve to be in Jude's life after not being there for u during pregnancy. Your doing a fantastic job of being Jude's mummy U can do the job of being both his mummy and daddy xxx

 

[supriseBump_x]

Double post xxx

 

[faolan5109]

i dont want it to lead to anything else heh. It definitely is just curiousity! but you know what they say about that...
Thanks everyone
my mum would KILL me if she knew i'd just unblocked him lol.
He still has the baby photo album with the scan photo.....
my little brothers (eleven years old) commented on it-
"you got my sister pregnant then ran off and left her you dick"
LMAO.

Holy Crap thats amazing! He gets a million points!

 

[Jadelm]

I think just sending him a picture and Jude's name and DOB would suffice. You can rest assured that you let him know his son was here and if he doesn't reply you can be happy in the knowledge that you tried for Jude's sake to even get FOB to acknowledge him

But I don't properly know the situation. If it was me I'd be tempted out of curiosity and also to rub it in his face that I have a beautiful baby boy and he's a d**k for missing out on someone as special as Jude (and you of course ) xxxx

 

[Loz94]

I don't think you are being silly, you are bound to wonder that wat about getting someone else to tell him ?

 

[trashit]

his mum asked my nanna if she'd phone when Jude had been born and let her know, so thats clearly (well i think) to pass on to Dan... but my nanna said she was gonna wait for them to call her and definitely not tell them his name or anything just say he's baby croot for now (so they know hes taking my surname!)
at my brother, i swear he thinks hes some big G. He's such a gimp, he had a go at him on facebook chat as well

 

[jenny_wren]

i'd send him a picture with his name and dob on it

that way he's seen his son and knows he's here
but then it's up to him whether he wants to take
it any further, if he doesn't want to know then
sod him you're doing a wonderful job without him
if he does decide he wants to know then atleast
jude will know who his father is even if he is a dick

xxx​

 

[fantastica]

haha your brother sounds great!! so funny!! (well not funny but you knowww )

if you've unblocked his fb..wont it come up on his news feed thing?! if you've put pics up?!! x

 

[trashit]

feel a bit of an arse for unblocking him now.... cos i darent say anything well if he searches for me now i'll come up. altho saying that he could have just got a friend to search for me and i'd have come up so for all i know he could have seen Jude already?!

 

[supriseBump_x]

Are u on his friends list? xxx