The BFP Before The 'Would Of Been' Due Date Thread - Any Joiners?

[Mrs Miggins]

Hi ladies. There were 6 ladies that I am friends with who I met at post natal group. We all started trying for #2 around the same time. I was the first to get a bfp but miscarried at 7 weeks. Then one by one they all started getting pregnant, including me but it was a 10 week loss second time. Yesterday there were 4 of us left to join the bump club, today I found out that 2 of them- my 2 closest friends - are both pregnant. I could cope with finding out seperately but the double whammy has knocked the stuffing out of me. My OH doesn't understand at all how I feel. He just thinks I should be happy for them. Which of course I am - but wish I didn't feel like this. Sorry to just pop up and moan.

 

[Mrskg]

Hiya jess no guilty drinkin this end lol I was in bed at five past midnight was working at 7am on new yrs day x how about you did you have a nice tme? How you getting on?

Mrs miggins xxx big hugs to you xxx I totally understand how you feel when I was pregnant with my mmc 3 of my closest friends were pregnant x my BFF was due 3 wk's before me x after the mmc I managed to cope with 2 of them as they were a few months in front but I have to say I was so jealous of my BFFs bump an I saw her most days x I used to cry because I felt so bad that I felt like that x one night with my heavily pregnant friend I confided in her how I was feeling about my BFF an she was great she told me that it was normal I was really upset an crying loudly my hubby came through to see what was wrong an when I explained his words were well she deserves this baby she tried for over a year x I felt like I'd been kicked we weren't trying but we weren't being careful either x I know he did not mean it how I took it but men can be so insensitive x I'd love to say time will make it better but for me I tried as best as I could not to show how I was feeling but watching her bump grow every day was really hard an the only thing that took that feeling away was this bfp x I'm so glad because I was her birthing partner an i don't know how I would have emotionally got through that if I wasn't pregnant x in will say though for me it's only bumps that are my problem not babies i thought ths was strange but a few ladies have told e they are the same x I hope that wasnt just a ramble an made sense x don't every be sorry for moaning that's what we are hear for an 9 out of 10 times we know exactly where each other is coming from xxx

 

[B&LsMom]

New Years Resolutions for Me:
1. Get a BFP
2. Get in Shape while working on #1
3. More date nights with Hubby--Shooting for at least 1x/month (my boss and his wife has 4 kids and they have a date night EVERY!!! Friday night--Not sure we can afford that so we'll start with 1x/month!)

 

[JellyBeann]

I only have two new year resolutions

1. Get pregnant (and stay pregnant)
2. Stop biting my nails for good!

 

[karacal]

Hi all. dd was aug 9 2012... Mc at 6 wks on 15 dec 2011. My new yrs resolution is to get bfp before dd

 

[JellyBeann]

to all new members...if anyone has a moment, could you have a look at my new thread, It's not fmu...but I did hold the urine for 5 hours

clicky linky

 

[jennyanne83]

I'd like to join, though not much time now. I had a mc at 9 weeks 1st August, dd is 5th March, so only 2 cycles left for me to achieve this really hope I can though! It only took 2 cycles to conceive last time, but no such luck this time with cycle 5 being a bust on Xmas eve. Oh well hopefully it'll eventually happen one day. Baby dust to all!! x

 

[lomelly]

mrskg--that's totally normal for being PAL, I know when (and I WILL) get pg again I will be praying for morning sickness. Yay for morning sickness, hope this is your sticky bean

jellybeann--I think the test is neg unfortunately But since you have an irregular cycle who knows how many DPO you are. I got a BFN 9 DPO on the cycle I was pg, so you never know. Keep testing every few days!!

 

[lomelly]

It WILL happen for you jennyanne... I see you had a blighted ovum too, so sorry xx patience is so hard to have.. but our sticky beans will come!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Mrs Miggens-unfortunately that IS men for you. My OH expects me to be happy for others, and I truly am - but it's so hard when you have all these other feelings with it that men can't seem to see. Luckily this is why we have a group such as this one, as we're often feeling the same! Keep shining hun and stay strong.. you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow x x
Mrskg,aww bless you hun, so what symptoms have you got so far? I can relate to where you mentioned what your OH said, they seem to often say nasty things that hurt us and they don't see why they do Ahh well, maybe one day ey x x
Blakesmom and Jellybeann - I like your new years resolutions, best of luck to you both x x
Welcome karacal Sorry for you recent loss - I hope this group can give you lots of support to you x x
Hello Jennyanne83, it may not be much time - but hopefully that's all you need! Fx'd you get that BFP What CD are you on? x x

 

[JellyBeann]

jellybeann--I think the test is neg unfortunately But since you have an irregular cycle who knows how many DPO you are. I got a BFN 9 DPO on the cycle I was pg, so you never know. Keep testing every few days!!

Hiya, yeah I agree...I tested again this morning and still no obvious line! But at just over 10p a test, I'm going to test a lot this cycle, I had a really rubbish night last night and it hit me that I should be 7 months pregnant right now!

 

[lomelly]

It sucks when that hits you.. "I should be this many months pregnant".. I just keep telling myself "SOON!" and that's all that keeps me sane lol.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Im guilty for that too! Now all I keep thinking is I should have a baby etc. I don't think it ends.
I bled 3 days early this month. Urgh - its so heavy and painful :'( I feel like shit atm too...one of those days I guess :'(
How is everyone else? x x

 

[debzie]

so sorry your feeling shit today Jess, made worse by a super heavy af. I sometimes feel like its punishment. I always start dwelling on things. Full moon tomorrow so hope it brings you a change of mood and renewed hope. Sending hugs. x

At the moment I am thinking that I would be due in a couple of days or would have already have him or her if I had a caesarean. Only occasionally I think I would have twins which was my first loss.

Hope everyone else is ok. x

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Thanks hun
Yeah today isn't great. And OH isn't being so great either :'(
Aww lovely, It's a hard thing to go through - all of the 'I would be' etc.. I find them so hard. I hope all us ladies have our babies by 2012. I have hope in that.
Do family and friends acknowledge how you feel now? xx

 

[B&LsMom]

In the 2WW currently--it's going by so slow!

 

[debzie]

Thanks Jess OH has turned a corner as from last cycle he acknowledges that I live with my losses on a daily basis and that some days you do just feel like shite and everything reminds you of what could have been. My Mam has been a rock too so in that respect I am so lucky. In our circle of mums another one has just suffered mmc she went for a 12 week scan and the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. Its good to help someone else through those early days/weeks, as she has no one she can talk too. Jess though it must be still so a for you and I really feel or you. If you want to talk anytime PM me.

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Blakesmom - ah I hope you got that egg! ...feeling any luckier?

Debzie - Ahh it's good he understands that. I feel like throwing in the towel to be honest :'( OH doesn't really understand either. He said yesterday "I'm like a goth" because Im such a downer and never look at the good things in life :/ Yet he doesn't understand I try so hard! But it gets thrown back in my face every single time :'( Argh!
Im sorry to hear about your friend hun - I hope you make us all proud to be that support we all know she needs.As it's so tough.
Your lucky to have had your mum I wasn't so lucky. My mum's said things I won't forgive her for..but hey, each to their own I guess!
Ahh thanks hunny
I appreciate that sooo much!
I hope you get that BFP my love, that extra sticky one! x x

 

[debzie]

Right back at you jess if anyone deserves a super sticky one its you. X

 

[Mrskg]

The milestones are hard! Sorry you ladies all having a hard time just now x you all deserve your super sticky's an I'll be here jumping with joy when you all do x wish though I could say it's all great over this side but unfortunately PAL is not easy x I just want to be jumping for joy but I just can't get the what ifs out my head x I can't wait for my scan but on the other hand it scares the **** out of me x think 2 of my friends chumming hubby can't get both days off so I rather if we get that far he was at the 12wk scan in a way wishing I was going on my own i know it's stupid but I feel like if anything is wrong I'd like to get my head round it an be brave before I speak to anyone else not sure that makes sense x sorry I just came an put a big downer on here I'm sure when i get my good results on 20th I'll cheer up a wee bitty xxx