The First Timer Scardicats!!!!!

[Snuffles]

Congrats Honeybee!

 

[NurseSooz]

Congrats loads Honeybee and welcome to earth Freddie. Hope you're enjoying mummy-hood. It's a crazy job and we must be mad to do it! Sorry your birth was so traumatic. Hopefully it hasn't put you off for life!

I'm struggling with breastfeeding as Heidi won't settle after her feeds. Last night I had to top her up with formula and felt like a failure. I've got loads of milk (it can jet across the room when I try and hand express). I suck at pump expressing and can only get 20ml in a sitting. Feeling fed up.

 

[J04NN4]

Huge congratulations Honeybee! Another little yellow bump turned blue I love the name too. Is he Frederick or just Freddie? I'm really sorry to hear you had such a rough time of it, it sounds exhausting. How are you holding up? Don't feel guilty for feeling bad about the birth not going the way you'd hoped. We all know a healthy baby and mummy is best, blah blah blah, but a traumatic birth is just that - very traumatic - and you are more than entitled to be upset/pissed off/whatever. Take some time and talk to someone if you need to

Sooz - how is the breastfeeding going? Try not to feel like a failure, I know it's so hard, I cried my eyes out the first time I gave Felix some formula and still won't let anyone else (other than OH) bottle feed him as it feels like some small consolation for not being able to breastfeed. It's a rough ride but don't beat yourself up about it whatever's happening. I can't believe your little lady is a month old already. How are you feeling?

How is everyone else doing? It's been quiet round here lately. We're doing great, Felix can now sit unaided (sort of, he still faceplants quite a lot) and we are going to start weaning soon. I can't believe how quickly it's all going!

 

[Miniegg27]

Hi ladies!

Yeah it has been quiet round here recently. How is everyone?

Jo that's great about Felix beginning to sit unaided!

AFM I've been taking every day as it comes really but am beginning to feel very scared about my 12 week scan on Tuesday. I'm so worried they're going to turn around and say its happened again. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm so scared.
I was shopping today and saw the cutest baby clothes. I really want this baby

 

[Mrs.Luvbug]

It has been super quiet!

Mini- It's completely understandable that you're nervous. I was freaking out and I havent even been in your situation. It'll be ok- try to keep calm ( I know harder said than done ). When is your scan?

sooz- She could be going through a growth spurt..We have to give Hunter formula after I nurse him. We try to give breastmilk if Ive pumped enough but that doesnt always happen. I felt like a failure the first couple times we gave him formula, and I still do every now and then, especially this last week because we had to up the formula. But DH always says ( and I tell myself this too ) I've gotta do whats best for him. If thats giving him formula then so be it, Ive gotta do what is best for him. Im sure you're doing a wonderful job!

I hope all you ladies are doing wonderful!

 

[Miniegg27]

Thanks mrs L! My scan is Tuesday morning. Please keep everything crossed for me. I just want it to be good news.

 

[CakeCottage]

Hi everyone... Hope you're all doing well... Lots of new babies and mummies in here now eh?
I'm still TTC, got a consultation with a FS on Tuesday so I'm looking forward to that! X

 

[mojo86]

Sooz – Yeah im local and I work in the Royal which also makes me nervous lol. I didn’t realise partners were allowed in all day that makes me feel a bit better! I am allowed to use the birth centre so fingers crossed everything will go as well as it can. I cant give you any advice on breastfeeding but your trying your best and thats all you can do! I hope you are okay and getting lots of support from DH/family and friends

HoneyBee – congrats on the birth of baby Freddie!! Im sorry the labour wasn’t what you planned but im glad your both safe and well and hope your now recovering well at home!

Mini – I hope your ok im sure everything will be fine on Tuesday but given what you have been through its completely understandable that you feel this way. Ill be thinking of you!

Snuffles – how you feeling? Do you know if your bump is pink or blue yet?

Cake – I hope all goes well at your FS app. I remember my first app with the specialist like it was yesterday I was so negative about things and he was always so positive and helpful and very pro active. I hope the team at the clinic you attend are just as good as it makes all the difference. Sending lots of to you

Hope everyone else is well

AFM im doing well just a bit panicked at babys position which is currently back to back. Praying he turns soon and starts to engage xx

 

[J04NN4]

Mini - wishing you lots of luck for Tuesday, I'll be thinking of you. I'm sure everything will be fine but it must be such a nerve wracking time

Cake - good luck to you on Tuesday too! Are you having bloods done or anything or just an initial chat?

Mojo - fingers crossed baby turns but try not to worry about it too much. My friend delivered a back to back baby with just gas and air! Felix also was back to back throughout my labour (he wasn't at my midwife appointment the week before so not sure when he turned), I did feel the contractions very much in my back but obviously I have nothing to compare it to he turned after some super strong contractions literally just before/as I was starting to push so he came out the right way. Spend lots of time on your hands and knees!

 

[CakeCottage]

Thanks girls... I've already had bloods done, my FSH, LH and AMH are all normal... OH will get his SA done this week sometime and ill ask about a HSG x

 

[Snuffles]

I'm feeling good, just enjoying all the kicks baby is giving. We find out the gender on Wednesday, eeeee three days!!!!

 

[Banana2012]

Sorry for being rubbish at keeping in contact on here lately, it's all been a bit manic! Since coming home with the girls, things have been very hectic!

Generally things have gone well, although we had a four night stay quite early on at the Children's Hospital as Eva developed silent reflux and was having what they call desats, which basically means she wasn't breathing properly. All very frightening at the time, but she's sorted now. Esmé has also started to get all the symptoms of reflux, so we're off to the docs on Tuesday. It's really common in prem babies, but a real pain!

Unfortunately after a week of being at home I had to stop breastfeeding. I feel really crappy about it, but Eva wasn't putting on weight, and they were both having real issues latching on as their little mouths were so small. I felt like the breastfeeding was my one 'normal' thing to happen after having the girls, so to fail at that was really tough, but I know now I had no choice but to stop.

I've been struggling a bit to accept how things happened with the girls' birth and the aftermath. I know that lots of people have to put up with much longer stays on the neonatal unit, and much poorlier babies, but I still feel really quite traumatised by everything that happened. I hate the fact that I didn't get to see my little ones for the first 48 hours of their lives, and I hate the feeling that I missed out on so much whilst they were staying on the unit. I think it's almost only now that I'm at home with them and living a normal life that I can see what I missed out on. I know I'm so lucky to have them, but I can't help feeling sad about the way it all panned out.

Sooz and Luvbug, it sounds like you're both doing so well with breastfeeding. It's so much tougher than anyone tells you, so don't beat yourself up about needing to use a bit of formula. As long as baby is growing and happy that's all that matters.

Jo, I can't believe how grown up Felix is now!

Honeybee, congratulations! Sorry to hear you had a rough time of it, lots of hugs coming your way.

Mini, so many positive thoughts and hugs coming your way.

Cake, hope everything goes well at your appointment.

Snuffles, how are you 20 weeks already?! That's flown by! Can't wait to hear the gender!

Mojo, you're so close now! Fingers crossed that baby plays ball and gets into position.

Hope I haven't missed anyone out! Lots of love and hugs to you all.

 

[Miniegg27]

An hour and a half to go. I had such a broken nights sleep last night. Feel so nervous.

 

[Jaynie82]

Thinking about u mini egg! Xx

 

[Trying2012]

Thinking about you Mini

Still lurking girls, loving all the baby updates. So proud of you all. Think I may be the only one left though still trying so feel a little disconnected from here now, I'm still rooting for you all through your journeys though

 

[Miniegg27]

Thank you all for your positive thoughts!! Everything was just perfect!!!!!

 

[mojo86]

Congratulations Mini!!! Gorgeous photo so pleased for you xx

 

[CakeCottage]

Thinking about you Mini

Still lurking girls, loving all the baby updates. So proud of you all. Think I may be the only one left though still trying so feel a little disconnected from here now, I'm still rooting for you all through your journeys though

I'm still trying too hun xx

 

[Trying2012]

Aww Cake sorry, I was feeling I was the only one left hope you are getting on okay xx

Mini that's great

 

[Banana2012]

So pleased for you Mini

Trying and Cake, I can understand how you feel, but I love hearing from you both and hope you stay around