The girl obsession

[LaRockera]

So I have this friend, who already has a little boy, and she's pregnant again. Apparently she was 'scared' to have an ultrasound in case the second turned out to be a boy too. :She did have the ultrasound, and the baby did turn out to be a boy. So I hear that she's 'inconsolable'.

Which makes me soooo mad.

I wonder if she came in this forum, and saw how some of the members here would give their right arm to have one, two, three little boys, perhaps she would reconsider what's worth stressing or being 'inconsolable' about in this world. I'm not gonna lie and say I wouldn't want a little girl myself, but I'd be not happy, but utterly, undoubtedly, indescribably GRATEFUL for a little boy, or two little boys- you get the point.

I guess sometimes we focus on our wants and desires but fail to see the bigger picture?

 

[keyahopes]

I have a cousin whose birth announcement was: "we have a baby boy (this is their second boy). My wife is upset that its a boy once again, but she has been trying to deal with it"

I felt so sad for that little boy when I read the message. I just don't understand people

 

[Braven05]

Its hard for some people to see the other side when they haven't had to struggle for a particular thing. Most people would be happy either way, but there are some people that just don't have the ability to see the bigger picture. Just gotta feel sorry for them.

 

[mrsessex]

We have two boys...

We are tying for a 3rd and couldnt give a monkeys right foot what it is!!!

A child is a child

Nowt queer as folk!

 

[ami1985]

It makes me mad, I would give anything to have a child and then heres someone inconsolable for havin a second boy!

Id of told her to get a grip and be thanking her lucky stars

 

[zippy4]

That makes me so angry. People who have it easy when it comes to having children have no idea what it is like in the real world for some people (sorry if that sounds a bit harsh) but after 2 losses myself and witnessing the pain others go through, it shocks me that someone can be ungrateful. A baby is a miracle no matter what sex. Rant over lol Sorry xx

 

[welshwarriors]

People like that make me angry....I know a few myself.Grrrr. They should be happy that they have a child at all and that he/she is healthy .

 

[Janesworld]

Ugh. It really bother's me when I hear people talk like that. I understand maybe having a "preference", but to actually be upset about it... Yikes. I don't really have one, though I would prefer it's not a mix of both

 

[LaRockera]

That makes me so angry. People who have it easy when it comes to having children have no idea what it is like in the real world for some people (sorry if that sounds a bit harsh) but after 2 losses myself and witnessing the pain others go through, it shocks me that someone can be ungrateful. A baby is a miracle no matter what sex. Rant over lol Sorry xx

Don't apologise. This is why I posted this, so we can all rant together.

 

[Jennifaerie]

My friends were the other way actually - they were thinking that they wanted a boy but found out yesterday that it's a girl..... they were ecstatic coming out from the scan regardless (I however was happy that it's a girl, their chosen boy name and surname just don't work lol)

My sister refuses to find out actually - she too had been hoping for a boy as she lost her son a few years ago but had a girl, nit didn't make any difference in her mind though!

 

[tallybee]

I just saw this thread and wow I can't believe how spoilt some people are. I can understand kind of having a fantasy for a girl if you already have boys or whatever, but INCONSOLABLE????? I'm sorry whoever that is needs a serious reality check... and as someone already said - poor little boy(s) if their mum is so blinkered. It really makes me wonder if some people are on this planet.

to all of us hopefuls who would give whatever it takes for a HEALTHY BABY

 

[babyhopes2010]

Its ok to have a preference secretly when ttc 3 one,but to act disapointed is digusting,arhh it make me soo made.
Someone on y fb wrote on there status today "Oppsy im Preggers again lol"
wtf she cant even look after the 5 shes got!! shes not married and on full benefits 5different fathers and she 25! argh i swear im going to poke taht girl right in the eye one of these days.
and another person on fb wrote a few weeks ago on there status.....
"oh i hate those f&&&ing little shits sometimes"(refering to her kids!!!)
Why does God bless these horrible people with children and then make us wait! or dont give us any

 

[welshwarriors]

Its ok to have a preference secretly when ttc 3 one,but to act disapointed is digusting,arhh it make me soo made.
Someone on y fb wrote on there status today "Oppsy im Preggers again lol"
wtf she cant even look after the 5 shes got!! shes not married and on full benefits 5different fathers and she 25! argh i swear im going to poke taht girl right in the eye one of these days.
and another person on fb wrote a few weeks ago on there status.....
"oh i hate those f&&&ing little shits sometimes"(refering to her kids!!!)
Why does God bless these horrible people with children and then make us wait! or dont give us any

Some ppl shouldn't be allowed to have children.

 

[letshaveababy]

We are ntnp #4 right now. (we have 2 boys and a girl), and although I sometimes joke around that I don't want another girl because my daughter is already a clone of me and the world can't handle ANOTHER moody Jamie in this world... LMAO.. I don't really mean it.

I mean yes, when I was pregnant with my third, I honestly wished for a boy, and got it! But of course I would have been happy either way. I just want a baby to hold and love.

 

[LaRockera]

Its ok to have a preference secretly when ttc 3 one,but to act disapointed is digusting,arhh it make me soo made.
Someone on y fb wrote on there status today "Oppsy im Preggers again lol"
wtf she cant even look after the 5 shes got!! shes not married and on full benefits 5different fathers and she 25! argh i swear im going to poke taht girl right in the eye one of these days.
and another person on fb wrote a few weeks ago on there status.....
"oh i hate those f&&&ing little shits sometimes"(refering to her kids!!!)
Why does God bless these horrible people with children and then make us wait! or dont give us any

Such a shame that there are so many people out there that simply cannot grasp neither the responsibility nor the miracle of having a child. Not only that, but they are also hasty to shout their ignorance.

Pathetic, really...

I really hope my friend is not really 'inconsolable', and that she truly realises how very lucky she is.

 

[karla1]

i know how you feel i would literally give my right arm for a baby (or 2) boys, girls or little purple aliens lol x

 

[lisabutterfly]

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[LaRockera]

That would annoy me, however I am the kind that would want a boy first then a girl...preferably. My mother-in-law was the same way. She had a boy (my husband) then a few years later wanted a girl. So she found out a way to 'help' that. And she of course told me the secret (I'm sure there's more and I'm not 100% sure this is always true but it worked for her). Considering the male sperm is smaller and faster, but can't live as long...to ensure it is a boy you loosen up when the sperm is released into the vagina. This helps the male sperm get to the egg easier. For a girl, you tighten and it will stop the male sperm from going far and let the female sperm, which are stronger and can live longer in the vagina, get to the egg. I'm not sure if it'll work for me but it's worth a shot without going to a fertility place and having them purposefully make a boy or girl with sperm and egg. I've read other things but this is something MIL did and it worked so maybe it could work for others.

I've been reading the book of an established gynaecologist, and he mentioned that the whole male swimming faster than the female is actually an urban legend, and is not substantiated by respective research. He said that chances are 50:50, and the only likely, yet still unverified, theory has to do with nutrition rather than spermy speed.

Either way, I just want a . and I trust nature to choose what's best for me.

Good luck, hon.

 

[lisabutterfly]

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[LaRockera]

All I am going on is that it worked for MIL I just hope for any baby now so it doesn't even matter.

Well, I hope it works for you too. Like the other girls said, fancying a boy or a girl is normal. I fancy a little girl, too. But like you say, we're all going to be grateful for whatever comes.