These photos made me kind of sad

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  1. CurlySue

    CurlySue P.I's Mummy

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    Is my OH as a little boy. He was actually a model as a child, believe it or not, and every time I see pictures such as this one, I think to myself "I might never have a little one like that"...

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  2. babymaybe

    babymaybe LTTC - Unexplained

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    Hi CurlySue
    Sorry to hear it makes you sad - I know what you mean. My DH was a real sweetie when he was little and I can't bear to look at the photos at the inlaws 'cause it just reminds of what isn't there.
    My MIL says he may have looked like an angel but he didn't act like one so I just try to remeber that when I start to well up!
    :hug: to you and don't give up hope on you're own little vampire.

    xxxx
     
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    CareBear Is considering whats next

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    CurlySue P.I's Mummy

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    We recently had this family get together thing. They were doing the whole slideshow thing. The picture of the vampire actually made me want to burst into tears because there was his auntie, sat in front of the TV, baby due in August saying "Awww, I've got this all to come."

    Should be us that's saying that.
     
  5. Nathyrra

    Nathyrra Levi's Mammy

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    :hugs:

    Orz people and their big mouths! Fast forward to next year when your aunt has a not so cute baby, and you have a beautiful newborn that everyone is cooing over. That's gonna be a sweet feeling!

    It's really tough.. we're gonna get there one way or another.. :hugs:

    Good things come to those who wait..and wait...... and wait. At least it better! :gun:
     
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    I have a picture of my DH on the fridge when he was about three or four and it breaks my heart everytime I see it...he was adorable! Now it feels like I'll never have my own little version of him :(
     
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    Same here :( xxx
     
  11. CurlySue

    CurlySue P.I's Mummy

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    Thanks, all. It meanas a lot to know that I am not alone in feeling this way, in looking around at the world and wondering whether something with my DNA will be running around in it, one day. I know that a lot of you know how I feel. When you have no children of your own you look longingly at you OH's baby photos and you think "What if..."

    These pictures also make me sad: -

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    ...they make me sad because this might be as close as I ever get to seeing a second line.

    A fecking evap, an evil, probably grey, shitty evap that I KNOW is an evap because, I only had sex once this month (honestly, the cystitis has been that bad) and it wasn't around ovulation, I can tell ye that!
     
  12. Tishimouse

    Tishimouse Fairy Godmother - really!

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    I can fully relate to why you feel sad. I've just come back from my MIL's and she showed my husband and I a few photos of him when he was younger and one of him holding his first born little boy (who is now 14). He was so gorgeous there are no words to describe him. My husband was holding him in one hand draped across his arm with his little head resting on his forearm (fast asleep). It took a lot of effort for me not to well up and even now I can't shake the image from my mind.

    For me, I think it really is over as my cycles are changing rapidly over the last few months and I am convinced I am entering perimenopause; so all hope seems to be gone for me.

    That doesn't stop me wishing you well and leaving you best good luck wishes for your own personal journey. It will be wonderful to read of your success in the future, so don't give up until you are sure it's over. :hugs:
     
  13. CurlySue

    CurlySue P.I's Mummy

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    Am sorry to hear that Tishimouse. I suppose there comes a time in all of our lives when we think "enough is enough" - not just about TTC, about other things, too. There comes a time when we just start accepting that something might not happen. It's heartbreaking. We see pictures of what we could have, and what we might never have, and it's like someone has tore something away from us. It's soul destroying.

    Hugs to you. I hope you feel well.
     
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    My heart goes out to u babe - I know xactly what you are goin thru - I have a pic of my fiance when he was younger n I've had the whole 'oh look at him when he was a baby' thing wiv his Mum. On top of that his step-sister's got 4 kids (one new born) his sister-in-law now has 2 (one new born) and I've got 2 work mates that are expecting - U always feel surrounded by it and you can't get away. It's so so hard and there are days when I just want to lock myself away n :cry:

    Hopin u'll get a :bfp: soon babe

    xx
     
  15. wishn2Bmom

    wishn2Bmom Kicked infertility's ass

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    How's this for pathetic...
    In my closet on my vanity I have a picture that I tore out of a magazine two years ago that I won't get rid of until I replace it with a pic of my own child. I have been reading Parent's Magazine for years, and one day I came across an advertisement that had a little boy brushing his teeth (I think it was for toothpaste) This little boy looked just like a picture that we have of DH only he has a few facial characteristics of mine. So I decided my child would look like him :rofl: And to this day his cute little face greets me every morning brushin' those pearly whites!
     
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