Thanks, you're right, I need to be more positive with her. I'm still at quite an early stage yet so don't have the organisational side sorted yet, but will think up some things for her to do on the day - she does love to help. No cat's I'm afraid, I'd borrow one but she's wildly allergic to them!
I'm just a bit concerned that when I need to go into "labour land" she'll keep wanting to talk to me, I know the earlier stages will be fine. She loves looking at homebirth pictures with me and doesn't seem to bother about any blood etc (in fact she's seen her own birth pics that the midwife took immediately after her exit by section so there's a lot more blood there!), so I'm not worried about that. I'm just concerned as anytime I've been caught out and had to get to the bathroon to be sick when she's around, she's always sprung me and hovvered outside the door, shouting in "are you OK Mum?" over and over until I answer, which is quite hard to do when you're trying to stealth-puke! I've explained that I may make some funny noises but I might not to be able to answer her, so not to be concerned, that it's all natural and part of it, so I just hope she's listening, as obviously I'm worried that she'll keep asking me if I'm OK all the time and that I'll end up holding back to sheild her. I've always thought she's a wee bit psychic though, she often pops out with things I'm thinking out of the blue and just knows things somehow without being able to tell us how, so hopefully she'll "tune in" on the day. Often as a wee toddler, if I was away somewhere on another floor of the house and I banged my leg, for example, she'd yell out "what did you do to your leg, Mummy?" and I'd say "how did you know it was my leg?" and she'd just say "I dunno" and look at me as if to say "doesn't everyone?" So I should have more faith, she's lost it a bit as she's gotten older but I think with a highly-charged atmosphere like that she's bound to tune in. Right, I've talked myself out of my panic now, thank you for listening!!