USAFKnineWife
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Hey guys, Sorry to leave you guys hanging. Like I said it has nothing to do with the kids. As I mentioned before; Keith's mom passed away in October. We had set plans to move here even before that when Keith retired. His mom passed on a Tuesday and the movers were planned to come on Thursday. So I had to stay behind and supervise that. Keith came back to pick us up on Friday night for the funeral on Saturday. Anyway we have been staying in the house with his dad because we hadn't had a chance to arrange other living conditions and he didn't want to be alone. Well after a little more than a week things started to go downhill. His father on a good day is a mean *******. He doesn't respect me not does he see Keith as an adult. It is odd. He would allow this dog that he had to snap at Penelope and chew up her toys, this dog shit and pissed in the floor and he wouldn't say a thing. I would get so mad and all he would say is "I'm not getting rid of my dog and you aren't getting a divorce so whatever"..I mean SERIOUSLY!! What a jackass. I have to add that he doesn't like me because years ago I stood up to him when he tried to tell us that we weren't doing the right thing as parents because we were trying to get Dalton help with his ADHD. You would think that he would appreciate the fact that we were trying to help our son. Well ever since then he has always been cold to me. I don't care. I don't like the way he treated Keith so we were even. Well back to now; He decided that he couldn't live in this house anymore because of the memories. So he started looking at houses and finally found one. We decided that we would buy this house because we love it and it is massive. Come around Thanksgiving I started to notice that he was on Yahoo Chat and Zoosk and another dating website. I was FLOORED to say the least. I motioned for Keith to look one night while we were sitting here and he saw it too. We thought maybe he was just browsing. So I went online and found out that he was indeed looking and had profiles on all of these sites. I saw him emailing someone one day named "Betty". We blew it off thinking it wasn't anything. Then he started lying to us about where he was going. He was really insistent about closing on his house quickly. Although he wouldn't pack a damn thing. Did I mention that Keith's mother had a shopping addiction and they were basically Hoarders? Now our stuff is still in storage so we are still living out of suitcases. Keith and I decided to start packing. We pretty much packed the entire 5 bedroom/3 bathroom house and moved it. It was very stressful. One day while Keith was taking a load over to his dad's house; his dad said that he was talking to someone and if he would please to wait for a bit and that she was on her way over and he wanted Keith to meet her. Understandably Keith was upset but he met her anyway. All I know is that she is nice. He spends all of his time with her now. We know that she has spent the night with him but according to his dad they aren't having sex (gross I know) Last Saturday his dad invited Keith (and us) and his brother and sister's and niece over to go through his mom's stuff. She was going to be there. I told Keith that I had no intention of meeting her and I'll be damned it my kids would be around her. They don't know any better and it isn't fair to subject them to someone like that. They miss their GranGran terribly and it would break their hearts. 
I am hurt. It is almost like he is forgetting her. She hasn't been gone not even 4 months and he is already seeing someone. I think it is disgusting, disrespectful and extremely wrong! I do know that his oldest sister and her daughter do not agree with it. But for some reason no one in this family will step up and voice their opinions to him. They never have and I don't think that they ever will. I told Keith that I have kept my mouth closed for a long time now out of respect for his "grieving" and believe me that has been hard. But at this point I am so angry and hurt that I feel like the minute that he started messing with this woman he lost the right to be a world class asshole to everyone under the veil of his "grieving" ya know? Am I wrong for feeling this way? I know that she wasn't my mother but she always treated me like I was her child and I loved her deeply.
Thanks for reading all of this. I'm sure I left out alot but it was getting to much of a read.
I am hurt. It is almost like he is forgetting her. She hasn't been gone not even 4 months and he is already seeing someone. I think it is disgusting, disrespectful and extremely wrong! I do know that his oldest sister and her daughter do not agree with it. But for some reason no one in this family will step up and voice their opinions to him. They never have and I don't think that they ever will. I told Keith that I have kept my mouth closed for a long time now out of respect for his "grieving" and believe me that has been hard. But at this point I am so angry and hurt that I feel like the minute that he started messing with this woman he lost the right to be a world class asshole to everyone under the veil of his "grieving" ya know? Am I wrong for feeling this way? I know that she wasn't my mother but she always treated me like I was her child and I loved her deeply.Thanks for reading all of this. I'm sure I left out alot but it was getting to much of a read.
Well we don't think that she is after his money because she is loaded herself. I just think that it is so so very wrong. I just know that he is going to want me and the kids to meet her and I just don't think that I will be able to get past this. It was awkward just going over there yesterday and she wasn't there. 
You must fill us in bc certain things come to mind when a quickie wedding gets mentioned on this forum.
Awww love is in the air
