Well, I guess we've been talking about it for a while, with a lot of little conversations. We've had a few big ones though, and I think he finally realizes that I am not going to change my mind. He says he still loves me, and wants to make this work. But there is no way. It's too far beyond broken, there is nothing at this point that he could do that would make me fall back in love with him. It's just very very over. And no, I have not looked for a place or a job yet. The actual moving out part is still a good ways off. I will take my name back. I haven't really changed it on FB. I just took both names off, lol. The whole maiden name thing feels very final and scary for some reason. And I don't really like seeing it, although I'm not sure why. I've still got a long road ahead before this is over. But I feel very proud of myself for staying strong, there have been so many times where I've just wanted to say, never mind! I was wrong, we can make this work. But it only takes a moment to realize that I would be doing that for him, and not at all for me, and I refuse to be miserable for the rest of my life for anyone.