time to get organised - Emmy's wedding 20th July 2013

[Lauren25]

Omg how scary!
You've all scared me into sorting out a back up plan now, I never even thought about it!

 

[EmmyReece]

I didn't either until mum started on about it

hopefully we won't have to use our back up plans though

 

[aly888]

Fingers crossed we don't! I'm only worried about one person. My hair/makeup wont be a problem since I'm doing them myself (well, with bridesmaids help )

 

[EmmyReece]

we met up with Ant (our photographer) yesterday morning and we've definitely made the right choice. He made us both feel totally at ease (and for someone to make Chris feel like this is pretty amazing). He showed us lots of photos and we just had a general chat, but yep, we're feeling pretty confident that we've made the right decision.

Mil has really annoyed me. We were walking the dogs and had barely crossed the road outside their house to get to the woods when she turned around and said she wanted a photo of her, Chris' dad, Chris and his brother ("just the family" was how she put it), which I thought was really off. I understand that she'd want a special photo of them, but to say what she did made me feel like that me and sil and sil's daughters aren't family

 

[dodgercpkl]

I totally didn't mean to freak anyone out with my story. It's definitely something to think of ahead of time, but not to stress over. The moral of my story is that even though something kinda big went wrong, it was still the most perfect day ever!

Yay!! We felt the same about our photographer! I'm glad you both got good vibes from Ant.

 

[Tarkwa]

ALWAYS have a back up plan for everything. I knew as long as I had a venue and a registrar that if everything else went tits up that we would still be getting married that day. I planned everything to an almost anal level (like the soap and handcream in the loos!) and knew everything was in place for the day.

My MIL says crap like that too when it comes to photos "just family" - er HELLO!!!! I AM part of the family now!!!!! Pisses me off big time (and even her own sister once thought it wasn't a nice thing to say to me) but I think she's learnt now, especially as I produced a grandchild for her.

A good photographer will make you feel at ease. We loved our photographer and the photos. I felt guilty about him just sitting at the side eating sandwiches (which is what the venue manager said photographers usually do ) so I sent him an invite to the wedding and sat him on one of the tables for him to have a three course meal with everyone else - after all, what's one more head?!?!?!

Must go, Joel has just finished his bath (mum is washing him) and now he needs to go to bed.
xxx

 

[EmmyReece]

I don't feel like I've made much progress with wedding stuff this week I'm in my 2ww at the moment and it seems to have taken over everything

I'm going to try and get the last of the invitations posted out and maybe look at getting all of our song choices written down for the registrar. But I don't think I'm going to be much use until next week at the earliest

 

[Tarkwa]

Nope, your mind is elsewhere understandably . Just go easy on the planning this week and full throttle next. It'll feel good having a break from it and you'll be excited all over again when you get back into it

Have you thought about what you'll do when you get your result/start testing?
If positive I don't think you'll be able to concentrate much on the wedding in my opinion !!!!!
If it's not what you were hoping for will you try again or wait until after the big day? I've known a few people get preggo on their wedding night/honeymoon . If it isn't then the wedding planning will really help to take your mind off things, especially as this cycle has been so different from all the others.
If it were me I'd have a 'plan' for both outcomes - good to keep yourself occupied and focused, but then that's just me
Have you got a list of everything outstanding?
Xxx

 

[EmmyReece]

In all honesty I've not thought about what we'll do when I start testing. It's taking all my will power not to start testing now

I think we're just going to keep trying if it doesn't work out the way that we hope this time around.

Outstanding is

• registrar fee
• food
• room hire
• last payment for the flowers
• payment for the cake
• thank you pressies

I'm sure there's more, but I can't think straight

 

[DanielleM]

Did your fish bowls come? Have you decided on your centrepieces now?

I hope your 2ww end with an amazing outcome

 

[EmmyReece]

Yeah they're here

Still not sure what we're doing centrepiece wise, going to see what Chris thinks and probably give him the option to choose

 

[Mummy May]

Try not to be too upset if you don't get your bfp this time Emmy, it took us 3 months of trying and I was thinking about it all the time and I don't think that helps. It was the month where I had kind of given up that it happened... But I didn't get my bfp til 5 days after AF was due lol! I'm wishing you the very best of luck and lots of fairy dust you will be fab! Xx

 

[Lauren25]

Good luck when it comes to testing, fingers crossed! With me Bobby was unplanned and came along but Darcey was planned and she took a year to conceive, I found out I was pregnant the last month of testing before we were going to wait til after the wedding!

Crossing everything for you

 

[aly888]

Oooh fingers crossed and sending baby dust your way x

 

[Lil_Pixie]

after ttc for so long it takes over everything. But to have such positive ov sings after so long too of course that's where your attention us focused there'll be time enough for wedding stuff next week

 

[mysteriouseye]

It has taken me ages to get to this theme / colour scheme.

Firstly I wanted it to be yellows, greens and whites - based on daisies.

Then I wanted pink and silver butterflies.

Then we went back to daisies

And now finally I know that this is the right theme for us as everything seems to be falling into place.

We're going for a 50s/60s Rock n Roll theme. Imagine the diner in Grease/Happy Days and school dances etc. The colour scheme took a while to settle on, but when I spotted these dresses for the bridesmaids I knew it would be perfect

https://vintagetwists.co.uk/shop/image/cache/data/Hell-Bunny-Mariam-50s-Dress-Blue-3-600x600.jpg​

So to tone it down we've decided to add a bit of yellow in too, which is working perfectly.

So to work in with the theme, the flower girls are going to be having little royal blue pettiskirts, with frilly yellow tops and white converse (probably a cheaper version though as they're so expensive) I'll try and get some pictures as soon as possible

So going with that theme we're having polka dot blue and yellow bunting going from the beams in the ceremony/reception room (as we get to put the decorations up the night before).

This is just a picture that is supplied on their website, but it gives you an idea of what the room looks like

https://plasdolguog.co.uk/wedd-1.jpg​

Our centrepieces are going to be AMAZING!!! These, I have to admit, I'm really excited about. I've been buying old 50s/60s 7inch vinyl records off ebay, and each table is going to have one, with some jam jars as tealight holders with a bit of glitter sprinkled in the bottom and a ribbon tied in a bow round the middle of the jar

We had the same dress for my friends wedding I was a bridesmaid Im the brunette
https://img705.imageshack.us/img705/5388/56413410151868453650198.jpg

 

[EmmyReece]

It didn't get to testing Af actually decided to arrive on 7dpo I've been a bit freaked out about only having a 7 day lp, but I've got a plan in place to try and improve things.

So wedding stuff that needs to be done ...

• Rings
• Need to pay the venue for room hire, our rooms the night before and food
• Need to pay the dj
• Pay the photographer
• Pay the registrar
• Decide on vows for the ring section
• List the music and readings that we want so that they can be checked
• Decide on a final design for the centrepieces
• Buy some more tea light holders for the reception to dot around the grounds
• The last of the invitations HAVE to go out this week

 

[Mummy May]

Don't worry hun, this is only the first month. Try not to worry too much lots of paying to be done lol this is going to be me right before christmas haha xx

 

[EmmyReece]

Don't worry hun, this is only the first month. Try not to worry too much lots of paying to be done lol this is going to be me right before christmas haha xx

We've been ttc on and off for 3 years hun, but can't have anything done because of my weight so I really need to crack on with that

But yep, lots of paying to do, but the main job for this week is to get those invitations gone

 

[aly888]

Sorry AF turned up and early too

That's not a very long list of things left to do. How exciting! Do you know what type of rings you both want? x