Trying NOT to TTC..

[msdecember]

I'm not sure how the subject will be interpreted but i REALLY REALLY do want to be pregnant... and since I have just ended my first cycle after natural miscarriage, I am so ready to have the opportunity to be blessed with a quick pregnancy!

BUT.... I feel as though I did so much obsessing last time that it took the fun and intimacy out of it all and just became an obsessive chore. And, instead of DH wanting to have sex, he wanted to anything but.

So... I've decided to be aware of my most fertile times and just have as much BDing that I can in a week's time. No more temping, charting, OPKs, etc. Just good old fashioned lovemaking and then we shall see...

Anyone else feel the same?

 

[xSamanthax]

After i finally get AF i'm not going to chart or do the temp thing, mainly coz i wuldn't have a clue what to do, i am going to make sure i'm aware of my most fertile times and like you just BD Loads! I think i might use OPKs aswell though

 

[msdecember]

After i finally get AF i'm not going to chart or do the temp thing, mainly coz i wuldn't have a clue what to do, i am going to make sure i'm aware of my most fertile times and like you just BD Loads! I think i might use OPKs aswell though

is it because it took away from the actual intimacy of it and added stress or its just easier that way? my decision comes from an emotional place that i don't want to revisit.

 

[xSamanthax]

I think it takes away from the intimacy of it and m OH hates doing BD when its 'planned' also i guess its really stressfull, thinking about it like that... in the end as well as making a baby BD should be fun and enjoyable.

 

[msdecember]

totally agree! extremely intimate, fun, stress-free baby dust to us both!

 

[fides]

yes, i feel the same way - i am tired of charting, getting my hopes up, then having no healthy baby. i also really want a healthy baby, but this month, i'm just sick of the charting and everything.

 

[Lucia]

I'm not charting, but I am using OPKs and NOT talking about Oing or CM or any of that!

 

[suffolksarah]

Hi.
I am charting and opks. BUT.... not discussing it with OH, so he feels like its just spontanious BD, but secretly i know. Ha Ha Ha!!!!

Before MC i would discuss it all with him, CM and all. i think it turned him off, knowing that we were bd on demand, for babymaking purpose!
This time i am going to know, but not share it all in detail with him!!!!
He know my cycle is all over the show at the moment, so for now i can get away with it!
Good luck to all, however we manage to get our next BFP, and this time may it result in a screaming, healthy baby! xxx

 

[msdecember]

AMEN @ SuffolkSarah... may we all be blessed with a "screaming, healthy baby"!

 

[diverdi]

I've never really TTC before and been lucky enough to conceive NTNP. I think there are subtle reminders of the fertile times as well, certainly I notice a change in sex drive, energy etc.
My intialy reaction after MC was to try everything to get pregnant again ASAP, but the more I think about it, the more I was want to be able to relax and enjoy the time with DH without any pressures.
It doesn' help that he works overseas and although I will be visiting him over half term, I won't see him again until April. There's no point tracking cycles only to be disappointed and not enjoy my holiday.

 

[pinkflamingo]

I know how you feel. When I got my BFP in November it was from the one time that we had spontaneously in months. Ususally it was because I knew it was 'the time' to do it, but that month I had just given up thinking about it and didn't even know where I was in my cylce!

I only did a test as I was waiting for AF to show so that I could phone the hospital and book myself in for a dye test! I kept trying to change the dates so that I wasn't as late as it seemed, but the dates weren't making sense. I did a test and was 4 weeks pregnant!

Obviously that pregnancy didn't have a happy ending, but the above has all made me realise how stressful ttc had become for both of us. We had been trying for 14 months so natural stresses come with that, but the constant tracking etc doesn't help.

I will not share as much with DH this time. If I know that it is my fertile time then I won't share that with him and make him feel like he needs to perform, I will just pounce on him and make him feel like he is a lucky man instead!!!

 

[msdecember]

I've never really TTC before and been lucky enough to conceive NTNP. I think there are subtle reminders of the fertile times as well, certainly I notice a change in sex drive, energy etc.
My intialy reaction after MC was to try everything to get pregnant again ASAP, but the more I think about it, the more I was want to be able to relax and enjoy the time with DH without any pressures.
It doesn' help that he works overseas and although I will be visiting him over half term, I won't see him again until April. There's no point tracking cycles only to be disappointed and not enjoy my holiday.

yeah.. i'm pretty in tune with my body as well and know when i'm in the ovulation period. and yeah.. you're making the right decision. just enjoy your holiday, relax, and let nature take its course!

 

[Rowan75]

Im really enjoying ntnp - Im charting to see what my cycles are like as they have shortened from around 48 days to around 21 days and Im over 35 with pcos and a FH of early menopause - Id really rather not temp chart either - but if we need to go back to the specialist I have to and my cycles are so off and sometimes I dont ov so I cant rely on my bodys signs

I think Im actually enjoying ntnp a little too much and am dreading when I feel I cant put off actively ttc again...Dh so wants a family but we're really enjoying eachothers company again as a couple - just us without this gap of children and it feels like before we started ttc when things were less complicated - dont get me wrong - weve never had a rough patch or anything but it just feels fresher and like the elephant has been removed from the room?

at the moment I really dont want a bfp - Im just starting to feel like me again - I suppose Im on the wrong site