Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

Go figure 2 bfp announcements in one day. One of them is a 17 year old girl I work with who is pregnant with baby #2.

I know how you feel everyone in my work seems to be preggo right now and I keep hearing about everyone else's and even got told by someone last night "It's the easiest thing ever you don't even need to try, so easy"

Felt like crying right there! Though I was a little tipsy

I did cry.... :/ = even let her go home early so I didn`t have to be around her. then I called off the night before last so i didnt have to work 3rd shift with her. and the worst part. my bf who knows i dont want to hear about accidental pregnancies... well she thinks shes prego by some asshole who doesnt even acknowledge her now. everyone thinks im being a baby about it..... but my heart is broken. :*(

You're most definitely not being a baby about it. People who have not lived it could not possibly understand. Infertility still has a looong way before being properly understood among the general public. Hang in there

 

[ashntony]

Go figure 2 bfp announcements in one day. One of them is a 17 year old girl I work with who is pregnant with baby #2.

I know how you feel everyone in my work seems to be preggo right now and I keep hearing about everyone else's and even got told by someone last night "It's the easiest thing ever you don't even need to try, so easy"

Felt like crying right there! Though I was a little tipsy

I did cry.... :/ = even let her go home early so I didn`t have to be around her. then I called off the night before last so i didnt have to work 3rd shift with her. and the worst part. my bf who knows i dont want to hear about accidental pregnancies... well she thinks shes prego by some asshole who doesnt even acknowledge her now. everyone thinks im being a baby about it..... but my heart is broken. :*(

You're most definitely not being a baby about it. People who have not lived it could not possibly understand. Infertility still has a looong way before being properly understood among the general public. Hang in there

I just understand why people don`t want to understand That infertility is real.

 

[OneLove526]

Go figure 2 bfp announcements in one day. One of them is a 17 year old girl I work with who is pregnant with baby #2. Fuck my life.

I understand your frustration there. I have 5 co-workers who have all announced pregnancy in the last 5 months.

My sister-in-law was on birth control and she accidentally got pregnant.

One of my friends had her third baby in January 2013 and said she was done having babies. Just 1 month before her husband's vasectomy, she turns up pregnant with her fourth...without even trying. I can't even bare to see her right now.

 

[jadza]

My rant : the strangers getting pregnant, I can deal. People I know... im happy for them, a little sad but I get over it. But I reciently got divorced, was ttc with my exhusband for 5 years. It didnt work out, he ended up cheating on me with his best friends wife... bam! They are having a baby.... Now with new partner ttc with pcos. Perhaps there is hope this time....

 

[ashntony]

Go figure 2 bfp announcements in one day. One of them is a 17 year old girl I work with who is pregnant with baby #2. Fuck my life.

I understand your frustration there. I have 5 co-workers who have all announced pregnancy in the last 5 months.

My sister-in-law was on birth control and she accidentally got pregnant.

One of my friends had her third baby in January 2013 and said she was done having babies. Just 1 month before her husband's vasectomy, she turns up pregnant with her fourth...without even trying. I can't even bare to see her right now.

I know I hardly talk to my friend who had her baby. Its just upsetting.

 

[BabyChaser09]

I'm trying so hard to be positive this time around. Just finished our 8th month TTC. Currently waiting on AF to show up tomorrow. My sis in law just texted us pix of her first sonogram, which, as happy as i am for her and her hubby, it kinda made me feel sad for myself. soo....thats where I'm at right now.

when they broke the news on christmas during gift-giving that they were pregnant, (she found out that morning), i was so devastated but had to put on a brave face, because i didnt want to be that jealous asshole. It was a low point for me and i'm trying to be more positive about this. But that sonogram set me back. :-/

 

[BabyChaser09]

and the thing that upsets me the most is that in general i just am not a jealous person. i dont want what others have. but this TTC thing is a definite mind-fuck. i wish i could take a break from it like many people suggest but i'm the type of person that tackles things until i get the desired result. BLAAAHH!!!

 

[bulldoggrl]

My partner and I have been trying to have a baby for over a year. We first tried to let nature take its course, and that didn't work. Then went to ovulation kits. This past month I really thought I might be pregnant. I was having symptoms. I even randomly threw up twice, and we thought it was morning sickness. It wasn't. I waited 2 weeks and took the pregnancy test this morning and it's NEGATIVE!!!! Just like it always is. I'm 35. I will be 36 in March. I am dreading my birthday like the plague this year because everyone knows that after age 35 each year your chances significantly drop! Ugh! Thanks for reading. It is nice to at least have a place to vent. Good luck to everyone. T

 

[melisha78]

I have a question. So I am new to this. I am trying to conceive. I was wondering I got a positive opks on the 17th. I tested today and it was not almost a negetive. I have a feeling I ovulated yesterday and had sex. Yesterday I had the worst cramps. Today my whole body hurts and my nipples are sore and I am having headaches. Could I have ovulated on cycle 18 then had sex yesterday and the egg could be fertilized.

 

[Astraea98]

Hello,

I'm new to this site and not sure if I'm even in the right forum so if I'm not please forgive me. I'm TTC and using an OPK for the first time. It keeps showing high fertility but it never peaked, even though I know I O'd because I get crampy EVERY TIME. I had unprotected sex 6 days before O....Is it possible that I'm pregnant and the OPK is picking it up? Can an OPK detect a pregnancy?

 

[ashntony]

worst dream ever. just had a dream that i gave birth to a baby boy but i didnt know i was pregnant. wish that these dreams would just go somewhere. it just reminds me again that my home is empty.

 

[ashntony]

2 weeks until af should have been here and gone. sigh... i am ready to have it start so i can jump back into ttc

 

[PeanutWhereRU]

Just what I need, a good rant!!

TTC #1 since July 2013, my cycles have been ranging anywhere between 29 and 60 days, which is very annoying as many of you will know. I'm disappointed every time when AF arrives especially when there are lots of people about announcing pregnancy, having babies etc. We thought about giving up for a year or so and going some nice holidays and try to achieve some personal goal - mine being running a marathon. But when I really thought about not having a baby asap it made me feel quite low. Hubby is really keen so we are going to keep trying. Has anyone else got to this stage and started to think something is wrong?? I know I'm being a bit ridiculous and many people try for much longer then do eventually get pregnant. But I'm just becoming doubtful. Hubby and I are big cyclist, he does a lot more than me and I'm wondering if that has anything to do with it.

Anyway I'm just hoping this rant will get it off my chest and raise my spirits, really thought I'd be pregnant by now

I am in exactly the same boat! Frustrating

 

[Scootie]

My rant : the strangers getting pregnant, I can deal. People I know... im happy for them, a little sad but I get over it. But I reciently got divorced, was ttc with my exhusband for 5 years. It didnt work out, he ended up cheating on me with his best friends wife... bam! They are having a baby.... Now with new partner ttc with pcos. Perhaps there is hope this time....

Omg this is so terrible! Think of it this way: 1- thank goodness you didn't end up having a baby with him since is a slimeball for cheating on you, 2- he will probably do the same thing to her.

Stay hopeful- everything happens for a reason. I hope you have your BFP in no time!

 

[Scootie]

I have a question. So I am new to this. I am trying to conceive. I was wondering I got a positive opks on the 17th. I tested today and it was not almost a negetive. I have a feeling I ovulated yesterday and had sex. Yesterday I had the worst cramps. Today my whole body hurts and my nipples are sore and I am having headaches. Could I have ovulated on cycle 18 then had sex yesterday and the egg could be fertilized.

The only way to know for sure you ovulated and when is to temp and chart. Fertility Friend is a great website that has tons of info on this and can teach you about your body and how your cycle works.

Opks are good to try and time sex but you should try to have sex every day or every other day starting 3 days before ovulation. The egg only lasts for 12-24 hours so it's a good idea to have sperm already waiting in there So whether or not you ovulated day 17 or 18, your chances are pretty good I think since you had sex on day 17. Good luck!

 

[hopeful harry]

I just feel I Need a little rant, am in foul mood. I know that I have only been TTC for 6 Cycles now, but! I am completely convinced that I have fertility problems, to the point that I have researched them and decided that I have blocked tubes, going to pay £800 to get this checked out even though I can't really afford it, the stress of not knowing is imposable for me to live with. Two of my friends have just given birth, they got pregnant very easily! another one of my friends is pregnant 1st month trying and a girl at work has just got pregnant by mistake! Also, I have major line eye, always thinking that I have a positive test when it is negative, then feel stupid, like, how would I would get a positive test with blocked tubes!!???

 

[tamithomas]

I just feel I Need a little rant, am in foul mood. I know that I have only been TTC for 6 Cycles now, but! I am completely convinced that I have fertility problems, to the point that I have researched them and decided that I have blocked tubes, going to pay £800 to get this checked out even though I can't really afford it, the stress of not knowing is imposable for me to live with. Two of my friends have just given birth, they got pregnant very easily! another one of my friends is pregnant 1st month trying and a girl at work has just got pregnant by mistake! Also, I have major line eye, always thinking that I have a positive test when it is negative, then feel stupid, like, how would I would get a positive test with blocked tubes!!???

Good luck on the testing but take a step back and breathe. It can take even healthy couples up to a year to conceive. First shot success has nothing to do with health of the person, it simply means they were lucky because even at 100% health it's not a guaranteed shot that it will work that cycle.

If you're really worried then get checked out but self diagnosis should always be avoided and can be dangerous in the sense of causing lot more stress than needed. We can't actually see what's going on inside and blocked tubes are usually symptomless except for irregular ovulation or none at all.

Also yes you can get pregnant from blocked tubes if it's only one. I've heard of miracle pregnancies with both blocked. Hoping for your sake your self diagnosis is wrong and get your soon Good luck

We're here for you!

 

[cntrygrl]

hopeful harry-- I would say start by either doing OPK's, start temping, or maybe both before you go spending money unnecessarily.

 

[hopeful harry]

Hello, thanks for the reply's, TTC turned me a little crazy yesterday!! I have temped and used OPK's but to no avail! Very frustrating that I do ovulate and my timing is pretty good, but just keep thinking there is something in the way stopping the sperm meeting the egg! going a bit loopy Also think I am stressing out as I have been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, it is in the honeymoon phase at the moment, so if I get prego now, I am much more likely to have a smooth pregnancy than a bit later on, when my pancreas is completely broken!! It should not really be effecting my fertility at the moment either, although I know it can later on, so am in a bit of a hurry, that's why I may pay for the tests cos, I want to find out if their is a problem ASAP.

 

[crayons]

Every single month I think that this is going to be "our" month...then it's not and I try to convince myself that it's okay and the universe is just waiting for the perfect moment. It's not working anymore.

AF showed up a day early yesterday, but my crazy brain thought it might be an early spotting symptom or something. It wasn't.

I woke up this morning to a junk email from Runner's World about what to eat when pregnant. Ugh.

Friend announced on Facebook that they are expecting their fourth baby. Fourth.

Another hometown person announced they had an "unexpected" baby (as in had no idea she was pregnant (it's a really odd kind of situation so who really knows)).

Sister keeps talking about how she's going to get pregnant *again* right after her wedding in two months. Like it's totally easy and no big deal whatsoever.

Just feeling really down tonight.