Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[youngone95]

BLAH!!! omg trying to not freak out. only been trying for a couple of months but ready for this to happen already! My sister got pregnant on her first month trying.. Ive been down and I'm guessing my emotions are just going up and down.. now im all down again.. a little bit of encouragement would help..

 

[tamithomas]

Mothers Day sucked went to work and got told because I didnt "qualify" I didnt get a flower.

Insta throat punch. From what I see in your sig. you have a dog, that plenty qualifies. To be a mother doesn't automatically insinuate that they came from your body. Really dislike the narrow view on the term being a mother.

 

[pb921124]

BLAH!!! omg trying to not freak out. only been trying for a couple of months but ready for this to happen already! My sister got pregnant on her first month trying.. Ive been down and I'm guessing my emotions are just going up and down.. now im all down again.. a little bit of encouragement would help..

Completely with you! Hang in there your bfp will come soon!

 

[MissB1979]

Boss is leaving our office and going to work for our headquarters in NYC. He'll still be here in VA, but will be working from home most of the time. He wants me to take a position where I can work from home too, more money, but have to travel once a month to NYC. The position won't be open until the start of they year. I'm excited about the new job and being able to work from home, but all this will be taking place when **hopefully** I'll be pregnant! Why couldn't this job happen sooner!!!! I'm hoping it all works out.

 

[youngone95]

thanks!! pb921124! trying to stay positive! good luck to you to! are you on a tww or what?

 

[Lisababymj]

ive been trying to conceive for about 10 years .... I'm 28 now with a steady partner.

 

[pb921124]

thanks!! pb921124! trying to stay positive! good luck to you to! are you on a tww or what?

Thanks, youngone! I need all the luck I can get. I'm more like on my fww (four week wait ). I am on cd45 and 25dpo all with no AF or bfp in sight...all I get are bfn every time.

Hopefully this will be your cycle. I'll keep my fxd for you. Are you doing anything to track ov?

 

[youngone95]

thanks!! pb921124! trying to stay positive! good luck to you to! are you on a tww or what?

Thanks, youngone! I need all the luck I can get. I'm more like on my fww (four week wait ). I am on cd45 and 25dpo all with no AF or bfp in sight...all I get are bfn every time.

Hopefully this will be your cycle. I'll keep my fxd for you. Are you doing anything to track ov?

I'm trying to with CM but not temping.. lol im pretty forgetful. but I saw EWCM yesterday and we've dtd all week including yesterday... and WOW... Have you had a blood test done? some women don't produce enough HCG to show up.. I'm on my TWW now and counting 1dpo!!wooo! I'm a poas a-holic, this cycle I'm gonna try and hold out till 11dpo..lol. hopefully this is your cycle too! I'm keeping my fx'd for you to! keep me updated on whats going on deffinately.

Also man Lisababymj 10years? that's rough.. have you seen a dr?

 

[Tookie]

Never done this before, don't know if I am even in the right place, and don't understand many of aberrations used in these post but going to ask my question anyway. I am 39 yrs and never even tried to have children before. Two years married with the love of my life and we want a baby. I have always been a regular 28- 29 days never missing a beat. I am now 37 days in to this cycle 8 days past due. Cramped some on 29 day of cycle but no flow. Brest sore/swollen on some days since then. Crying for no reason two days ago. Feel bloated. Yesterday, I had a light pink almost watery spotting when I wipe and also again to day, but nothing on pad. Today I feel fine great even no cramps at all. Also when I was four days late I took home pregnancy test it was negative. So confused what to do. Any ideas on what's going on? Am I menopausal?

 

[tamithomas]

Never done this before, don't know if I am even in the right place, and don't understand many of aberrations used in these post but going to ask my question anyway. I am 39 yrs and never even tried to have children before. Two years married with the love of my life and we want a baby. I have always been a regular 28- 29 days never missing a beat. I am now 37 days in to this cycle 8 days past due. Cramped some on 29 day of cycle but no flow. Brest sore/swollen on some days since then. Crying for no reason two days ago. Feel bloated. Yesterday, I had a light pink almost watery spotting when I wipe and also again to day, but nothing on pad. Today I feel fine great even no cramps at all. Also when I was four days late I took home pregnancy test it was negative. So confused what to do. Any ideas on what's going on? Am I menopausal?

First off, welcome to the annoying but joyful world of ttc. It could be a number of things including as simple as stress all the way up to you being early menopausal. If you're really concerned, take an appointment with a doctor to get checked out. It can take the body so little to throw periods off as I know from first hand experience. It could be as simple as pain meds you've taken during the month that contain blood thinners. That one did it to me a few times where I took a little too much Tylenol because it was a bad month for headaches and I was late by a week.

It's up to you what you want to do, keep testing, wait it out or go see the doc. Any decision you make we're here for you

 

[smallpint26]

So I am new to this forum and new to TTC!

I stopped taking birth control about 2 weeks ago at the end of my last pack. I have been on birth control for 16 years! I started so young I don't even know what a normal cycle is so I have been doing all the charting and BBT tracking etc. I should ovulate any day now.

And wow man did I get the weepies today. At work. In a one on one meeting with my boss. Totally unexpected. She even asked why I was so emotional and I decided to be open and honest and told her I stopped taking birth control. But I am so embarrassed and feel so unprofessional now, I can't even seem to concentrate on my job. I feel so lucky she is a woman and seemed to understand being hormonal. But I am not one to cry at work, and this is a relatively new job (started last December) and a very new boss (started working for her in March) so I feel like I just totally wrecked everything I have been working for. My job is very important to me and I will have to be a working mom as I am the high earner in my family.

How do women deal with the weepies? Being on the pill for so long I had virtually no PMS, let alone ovulation symptoms because there was no ovulation. I think I cried harder because I was embarrassed I had teared up in the first place

 

[DBZ34]

So I am new to this forum and new to TTC!

I stopped taking birth control about 2 weeks ago at the end of my last pack. I have been on birth control for 16 years! I started so young I don't even know what a normal cycle is so I have been doing all the charting and BBT tracking etc. I should ovulate any day now.

And wow man did I get the weepies today. At work. In a one on one meeting with my boss. Totally unexpected. She even asked why I was so emotional and I decided to be open and honest and told her I stopped taking birth control. But I am so embarrassed and feel so unprofessional now, I can't even seem to concentrate on my job. I feel so lucky she is a woman and seemed to understand being hormonal. But I am not one to cry at work, and this is a relatively new job (started last December) and a very new boss (started working for her in March) so I feel like I just totally wrecked everything I have been working for. My job is very important to me and I will have to be a working mom as I am the high earner in my family.

How do women deal with the weepies? Being on the pill for so long I had virtually no PMS, let alone ovulation symptoms because there was no ovulation. I think I cried harder because I was embarrassed I had teared up in the first place

Oh, I've had that happen to me. It was so embarrassing! I wanted the ground to swallow me up. Except my weepies happened in the hallway and I had to ask to go into an office because I could see other people looking at me. I felt so unprofessional...

No advice, just commiseration. Hopefully, once your body gets your hormones sorted out, it should get better. Good luck!

 

[pb921124]

Thanks, Youngone!!!

Tons of baby dust to you Hopefully this is your cycle!!! Now good luck trying to hold out on testing! I'm with you on being a testaholic. DH said I wasn't allowed to buy anymore test but after being on this site I found out about the cheapies online and bought those. Now I don't feel bad about testing every day and night

My days are filled with two stages: testing and trying to not think about testing.

I did a blood test at about 5 days late which came back negative. I almost certain that I missed O'ing this month...I figure If I don't get AF my the end of the month then I'll go back to the doctors. Guess there is more waiting in store me oh goody...because clearly I handle waiting so well

 

[pb921124]

Never done this before, don't know if I am even in the right place, and don't understand many of aberrations used in these post but going to ask my question anyway. I am 39 yrs and never even tried to have children before. Two years married with the love of my life and we want a baby. I have always been a regular 28- 29 days never missing a beat. I am now 37 days in to this cycle 8 days past due. Cramped some on 29 day of cycle but no flow. Brest sore/swollen on some days since then. Crying for no reason two days ago. Feel bloated. Yesterday, I had a light pink almost watery spotting when I wipe and also again to day, but nothing on pad. Today I feel fine great even no cramps at all. Also when I was four days late I took home pregnancy test it was negative. So confused what to do. Any ideas on what's going on? Am I menopausal?

Hi Tookie!

I agree with tamithomas. It could be a number of things, one of those things maybe even a bfp. Have you seen a doctor about ttc? From all the reading I've been doing, many sources have said that doctors will typically wait 12 months of ttc before they put you on anything or take measures at assist, unless your over 35, then you can go to your doctor in the beginning.

fxd for you!

 

[DBZ34]

Thanks, Youngone!!!

Tons of baby dust to you Hopefully this is your cycle!!! Now good luck trying to hold out on testing! I'm with you on being a testaholic. DH said I wasn't allowed to buy anymore test but after being on this site I found out about the cheapies online and bought those. Now I don't feel bad about testing every day and night

My days are filled with two stages: testing and trying to not think about testing.

I did a blood test at about 5 days late which came back negative. I almost certain that I missed O'ing this month...I figure If I don't get AF my the end of the month then I'll go back to the doctors. Guess there is more waiting in store me oh goody...because clearly I handle waiting so well

Maybe you should start temping, just to see where you are in your cycle instead of testing all the time. Or are you using opks?

 

[pb921124]

Thanks, DBZ! I was looking into it before I got my monitor and then figured that I wouldn't need to temp since the monitor would be my predictor. But that's a good idea so help me through to the next AF. The last three cycles all i've used is my phone AP to track my cycles and predict my O days.

Thanks for the advice!

Do you use any special thermometer? Guess I know what I will be googling for the next hour

 

[youngone95]

Thanks, Youngone!!!

Tons of baby dust to you Hopefully this is your cycle!!! Now good luck trying to hold out on testing! I'm with you on being a testaholic. DH said I wasn't allowed to buy anymore test but after being on this site I found out about the cheapies online and bought those. Now I don't feel bad about testing every day and night

My days are filled with two stages: testing and trying to not think about testing.

I did a blood test at about 5 days late which came back negative. I almost certain that I missed O'ing this month...I figure If I don't get AF my the end of the month then I'll go back to the doctors. Guess there is more waiting in store me oh goody...because clearly I handle waiting so well

I know! im hoping too! and I need all the dust I can get much appreciated!! and what site do you use to buy them and how much are they? I could save some money not buying like 6$ test for a good period of time.. lol my dh asks me "can I use one" and when I say no don't waste them he says " why that's what your doing its too early." he can just be so blunt. lol but I love him . do you check CM? Ive never tried temping but if this month is a no go I might just start. lol I know right?! I'm also terrible at waiting.. just wishing my body would give me a play by play.. I want to know whats happening.. lol

 

[DBZ34]

Thanks, DBZ! I was looking into it before I got my monitor and then figured that I wouldn't need to temp since the monitor would be my predictor. But that's a good idea so help me through to the next AF. The last three cycles all i've used is my phone AP to track my cycles and predict my O days.

Thanks for the advice!

Do you use any special thermometer? Guess I know what I will be googling for the next hour

You need to get a basal body thermometer (or BBT). the digits on it go to the hundreths (.00) so it's more precise and can pick up the small changes in your temp. I find it really helpful to do, especially on the months my cycle is wonky.

 

[youngone95]

Thanks, DBZ! I was looking into it before I got my monitor and then figured that I wouldn't need to temp since the monitor would be my predictor. But that's a good idea so help me through to the next AF. The last three cycles all i've used is my phone AP to track my cycles and predict my O days.

Thanks for the advice!

Do you use any special thermometer? Guess I know what I will be googling for the next hour

You need to get a basal body thermometer (or BBT). the digits on it go to the hundreths (.00) so it's more precise and can pick up the small changes in your temp. I find it really helpful to do, especially on the months my cycle is wonky.

Hate to but in but can I get one at walmart?

 

[DBZ34]

Thanks, DBZ! I was looking into it before I got my monitor and then figured that I wouldn't need to temp since the monitor would be my predictor. But that's a good idea so help me through to the next AF. The last three cycles all i've used is my phone AP to track my cycles and predict my O days.

Thanks for the advice!

Do you use any special thermometer? Guess I know what I will be googling for the next hour

You need to get a basal body thermometer (or BBT). the digits on it go to the hundreths (.00) so it's more precise and can pick up the small changes in your temp. I find it really helpful to do, especially on the months my cycle is wonky.

Hate to but in but can I get one at walmart?

Yes, you should be able to get one at Walmart and if they're out, you can also order them on Amazon.