- Jan 9, 2018
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Time to vent ladies! I actually found this forum because of this vent thread, read like first 150 pages and it really helped me a lot!
So my rant:
- Nobody is pregnant around me BUT almost all the girls I know who have kids totally ignore their children, call them annoying and spoiled (even tho they are not) and it irks me sooooo much! There are people who would love to have little bundle jumping around the house, and yet here you are, calling your kid a brat even tho the kid is super nice and shy and you never spend any time with them! If they want to spend the little time you spend at home with you, it doesn't mean they are annoying, they just miss their mom and dad.
- small rant about forum: don't ask are you pregnant in TTC #1, how the hell should we know. Some did have BFP before, some didn't, ask in preggers section, they might know. And if somebody asks question about their condition, don't use their thread just to list your symptoms that have nothing in common with OP and then ask - am I pregnant?! Be supportive of each other, we are all hoping every hiccup is BFP but spamming somebody's thread doesn't help.
- rant about my bff - when I told you we were planing to TCC for the first time, you didn't have to start talking about how you are probably going to start to TCC #2 some day and then spend the rest of the time talking about yourself. I see you so rarely because we don't live in the same town, you already have one kid that I adore, we always talk about your kid, so you could have given me 10 minutes to share my excitement and fears. And yeah, you don't know I'm TCC for real now because you "stayed pregnant on 1st try after getting off birth control the 1st time" and I just don't need more of that atm.
- we never shared with family that we are TCC because I don't want constant nagging of "did it happen yet" and fear mongering that if it didn't happen on 1st try that something is wrong. Dad I know you'd love to have grandkid, you've been talking about it for the last 3 years, and I'd love to give you one soon but telling me last time I saw you that "my train has passed" really hurt me. If I had normal family life, I might have started sooner but I wanted stuff to be almost perfect because I don't want kid to grow up poor as I did, with no hot water in the house and nothing for Christmas & birthdays. No, I don't plan to buy my 7 year old new iPhone but some toys would be nice. So don't tell me it's too late because I'm 33. I have enough worries as it is.
And now the thanks, because even tho this is vent thread, I can vent some love too
Hubby, you are best thing that ever happened to me. You are my best friend and biggest support. I'm so happy I can share this TCC with you, that you are not grossed out by all the things I share with you (and you ladies know all the gross facts we learn during the TCC xD ) and I know you'll be the best dad ever to our kids. I hope our kids are as nice and kind and silly as you are and I can't wait for us to go on a new adventures with our little bundle of joy.
I TOTALLY feel you with a lot of this stuff. I had a moment on the bus yesterday where this adorable little girl was just trying to play with her mom and her mom was yelling at her and ignoring her so she could play a game on her phone. WTF. I try not to judge other people, but I couldn't help being frustrated watching that. I just wanted to scream.
When I told my sister that hubs and I were going to ttc#1. She totally glazed over it and was basically like "that's nice" then continued to talk about my nieces (whom I love to the moon and back...but still) and about her surprise #3. It would have been nice tobhave some acknowledgment of how big a step this is. I'm 28, my husband is 29. We waited for a long time till we both felt the time was right and it was and still is a big deal to us. So i totally get your annoyance with your friend.
Thirdly, I regret telling people we were ttc at all. If my mom says one more time how "fertile" our family is and asks me when I'm having a baby, I will have to kill her. There will be no other choice lol Like...we're trying..okay? Leave us alone. Also, people have been asking us for years when we were going to have a baby and i think that is such an insensitive and intrusive question. How do you know we aren't trying? Maybe we want to, but can't? What if one of us is infertile? What if we did get pregnant, but miscarried? Maybe we don't want kids? What if our biggest fear is that we cant have kids because we waited too long? I don't understand how people could be so heartless. It's not a joke and it's not something people should even feel it's okay to say.