Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Mimzy3]

sooo pissed me doc did nothing for me today. made apt to ask bout my period being so irregular and long and very short and brown spotting not a real period. She did zero tests and just told me to eat a cookie and relax. Are you kidding me!! What kind of advice is that! She says its because my estrogen is low. But yet she didn't even do any tests to confirm that!!!

mine when i went to see her since she's our family doctor i went for issues of the M/C, sent me for a blood test..told her we had been trying for 3 years, instead of helping me to find a specialist or give any advice the first thing she pulls out is a prescription for an anti depressant to calm down about ttc because i was apparently over reacting. Needless to say I closed my dossier that day.

WOW that is terrible!!!!

 

[Lozzy1985]

Hello ppl not said much for a while, only posting on this thread as also TTC its been 4 months now since my miscarriage was hoping that this month would be a happy Christmas pressie, my period is due tomoz but so hoping it doesn't came but knowing my luck it will I have had sore breasts this time and very bad gas, out of control hunger and not sleeping at all would like to do a test but every month I am so disappointed and sympathise hugely wiv those also TTC and feel how painful it can be wen it's pfn its awful an that's why I am reluctant to do a test and I hate waiting I'm not a patient person, help I really don't know wat to do xx

 

[Mimzy3]

Hello ppl not said much for a while, only posting on this thread as also TTC its been 4 months now since my miscarriage was hoping that this month would be a happy Christmas pressie, my period is due tomoz but so hoping it doesn't came but knowing my luck it will I have had sore breasts this time and very bad gas, out of control hunger and not sleeping at all would like to do a test but every month I am so disappointed and sympathise hugely wiv those also TTC and feel how painful it can be wen it's pfn its awful an that's why I am reluctant to do a test and I hate waiting I'm not a patient person, help I really don't know wat to do xx

I understand not wanting to test because seeing that BFN is the WORST! Your symptoms sound promising though! Lots of to you! You didn't say you feel like AF is going to come, like symptom wise. So maybe this is your month!

 

[Lozzy1985]

Yh normally I have very dull cramps a few days before I am due I am also urinating a lot this morning between 6am and 10am I went about 6 times which is unusual for me. but I keep thinking is this all in my head, I have had a few dull headaches over the last week really don't wana get my hopes up ill no tomoz coz my cycle the last 3 months after my MC have been 35 days bang on so if it doesn't come tomoz there cud b a possibility, I'd rather have hope than taking a test and it say bfn if that makes sense x

 

[Lozzy1985]

Just haven't had so much of those dull cramps yet and I do normally x

 

[Mimzy3]

Just haven't had so much of those dull cramps yet and I do normally x

Oh it makes sense! I understand just waiting and having that glimmer of hope vs possibly seeing that BFN. Hang in there and stay positive! No AF symptoms is good!

 

[Loveless07]

Having a bad/disappointing day. Despite changing my lifestyle and eating habits so hard to change and do a complete 360. I lost 50 lbs this year after gaining 60lbs in 2 years. my RE still refuses to treat me you would think he would know that with PCOS its hard to lose weight 2x more. he wants me under 200 lbs i know that bmi is important however everyone's body may not fit that chart and ranges even though im 230 lbs i look like most 185lb ppl. if i lose 50 more lbs i will probably look dead, i can't remember the last time i weighted under 200 lbs maybe when i was in middle school? And now I am at a weight loss plateau. i hope I can find another endocrinologist that will incourage me and help me

 

[Loveless07]

That sounds like my day I'm sorry I cannot believe she said that to you I know it sucks.

 

[Mimzy3]

Having a bad/disappointing day. Despite changing my lifestyle and eating habits so hard to change and do a complete 360. I lost 50 lbs this year after gaining 60lbs in 2 years. my RE still refuses to treat me you would think he would know that with PCOS its hard to lose weight 2x more. he wants me under 200 lbs i know that bmi is important however everyone's body may not fit that chart and ranges even though im 230 lbs i look like most 185lb ppl. if i lose 50 more lbs i will probably look dead, i can't remember the last time i weighted under 200 lbs maybe when i was in middle school? And now I am at a weight loss plateau. i hope I can find another endocrinologist that will incourage me and help me

I'm having a similar issue but opposite. My doc keeps telling me to gain weight. But, I have ALWAYS been small. It doesn't matter what I do. Like you said the BMI chart doesn't work for everyone! Look at Kate Middleton she is a twig and she got preg!? Just wanted to let you know I understand your frustration.

 

[cntrygrl]

I will be leaving you wonderful ladies. I wish you all the best lots and lots of to you

 

[Twag]

Right I have come on here to rant as I cannot in my journal

I am feeling very down and it is because I feel like behind and dumped by my BnB friends I have followed them supported them all through WTT, TTC and now their pregnancy/parenting journeys and now I am finally TTC and I have been abandoned when I need them to support me, get me through my TTC trial & tribulations, my worries and scary moments and questions

It is really getting to me I just feel like I am always 20 paces behind them I just catch them up and then they move on

I know I am being silly and I am very happy for my BnB ladies but I needed to get it off my chest

Also seriously WHY is my OPKS not showing anything yet I WANT MY BFP

rant done thank you

 

[AnnaSaRa]

I have a rant for my pre-natal vitamins here..

When I take you pre-O I have zero side effects and feel great, but as soon as I take you a week after-O you make me feel nauseated and dizzy giving me false hope.. almost every cycle!

ARGGGGGGGG

 

[Mimzy3]

Twag

I'm sorry your BnB friends are not supporting you as you have supported them!

I am also waiting for a positive OPK. Need to O between 22-jand 2 when hubby is home!

 

[Twag]

I am just having a down day and they are still my most loveliest dearest BnB ladies I just need to understand that they are in new places now and so it is harder for them to follow my new journey I just need to find people in the same place as me is all

But I wouldn't change my BnB ladies for the world they helped me through WTT

OK so I am a little more chilled now about my OPK and everything

Sometimes it helps to just get it out and see it written down I guess for you to put things into perspective

FRIDAY tomorrow

 

[Mimzy3]

I am just having a down day and they are still my most loveliest dearest BnB ladies I just need to understand that they are in new places now and so it is harder for them to follow my new journey I just need to find people in the same place as me is all

But I wouldn't change my BnB ladies for the world they helped me through WTT

OK so I am a little more chilled now about my OPK and everything

Sometimes it helps to just get it out and see it written down I guess for you to put things into perspective

FRIDAY tomorrow

Couldn't agree with you more! Getting it out helps a lot!

 

[wellsk]

Twag, I know exactly what you mean. Particularly in some cases where I was the only person who talked to them, they got pregnant and then virtually ignored me again until I got a BFP... Which when I found out was probably a chemical, they ignored me all over again!

Right now, I just want to scream 'I just want to be a mum' to everyone. Why is it so hard!

Oh and, I'm turning into some completely paranoid creature! I'm certain that the reason my close friend won't let me see her baby is because she thinks I'll steal him because I'm struggling to concieve myself. Is that crazy?!

 

[tamithomas]

I'm so sorry about all of your friends, you would think since they went through ttc they'd give support to most? Humans trully are unpredictable. At least you got us!

 

[tamithomas]

Twag, I know exactly what you mean. Particularly in some cases where I was the only person who talked to them, they got pregnant and then virtually ignored me again until I got a BFP... Which when I found out was probably a chemical, they ignored me all over again!

Right now, I just want to scream 'I just want to be a mum' to everyone. Why is it so hard!

Oh and, I'm turning into some completely paranoid creature! I'm certain that the reason my close friend won't let me see her baby is because she thinks I'll steal him because I'm struggling to concieve myself. Is that crazy?!

It's not crazy, I've seen some insensitive fertile people do that before. Some fertiles see us infertiles as the green monster in your closet that'll snatch your kid thanks to media. Thanks Criminal Minds who did 4 episodes on that subject!

 

[Blynia]

I'm tired of seeing pregnant women all around me and people at work asking when I'm going to get pregnant!! It doesn't come easy for everyone.
My family doesn't understand either. I wish they would stop asking. No one has trouble getting pregnant in my family. Everyone thinks about getting pregnant and it happens, so why doesn't it work for me.
I'm tired of getting the bfn. Last month I was 14 days late and cried when af came. I'm almost ready to say enough is enough I don't think I can handle the emotional roller coaster every month.

 

[ProfWife]

Today at our school party, four of my co-workers all decided to converse about how easy it was for them to get pregnant or to get a wife pregnant (ex. "I was off the pill for about 3 days!" or "My wife and I conceived first try both times. It's was just so easy. No stress at all") and then my husband comes home with news that one of the guys in his leadership group is expecting his first child with his wife of 5 months.

It's almost too much after waiting almost 5 years just to get the chance to try. Plus I just got another visit from AF after another BFN this week...

I know I should be happy for them all...but it makes me want to scream!