Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Fizzyfefe]

Idk, if that show turns any teen on to becoming pregnant they are crazy. Those girls are only struggling less because they are getting paid and everyone knows that. If they were not on that show they would definitely not be wanting another kid because they would be in debt already. I love how they all say, "If I had another chance I would have been more careful and waited until I was done with college and had a job to have a kid blah blah..." Yet they are at it again. Makes me wonder if they just want the publicity/more money. They're already making more money than I will when I graduate and all they did was get knocked up.

I'm sorry but the United States government rolls out the red carpet for unwed pregnant women. They are instantly signed up for all kinds of free shit. They just keep popping out kids rather than getting a job. I work in staffing and I see it nonstop.

I agree with these 100%. Teen pregnancy seems glorified by our society now, and I just don't understand it. Back in the day, my priorities were getting good grades, graduating from school, and getting a job. My parents would've beat the hell out of me if I'd ever told them I was pregnant.

When I lived in New Mexico while going to college, I did not make enough to get health insurance or food stamps for myself. I was a full-time student working two jobs, and it was a struggle to pay the bills, but I apparently made "too much" and therefore couldn't get ANYTHING. My health declined so much in those years. Then I saw all these women who got health insurance and food stamps, and all they did was pop out a baby! They never had to work because they didn't have to, simply because they had children. Some women even purposefully got pregnant multiple times, just so they could get more money from the government! It's a damn shame.

 

[melinda200208]

I have been off my birth control for three years. We have been trying to conceive for a year and a half. It is so emotionally draining!!!! Last month my period was a couple days late. I started researching online for symptoms of super early pregnancy. I was driving myself nuts! Then I got my period. So devestated. It is such a rollercoaster. Fortunately, I do ovulate. I take an ovulation test every month and it says I do ovulate. Unfortunately after trying before during and after my ovulation date, I still can't get pregnant. We are going to see a specialist once my husband is done working out of town. It is just so frusterating when you want a child SO Bad and it just doesn't work out.

 

[tamithomas]

Yea so since I don't actually have kids, I have the intelligence level of a 5 year old when it comes to taking care of kids. Please take your Mombie head out of your ass. So tired of "You don't understand until you're a mother". First of all, you're younger than me, I grew up babysitting newborns, I've done over night babysitting for 3 month olds... All I was trying to suggest is to clean up the house a bit because if CPS showed up they'd have a ball. Liquor bottles on the floor and sharp objects at the edge of tables is not safe period. Don't come crawling to me if someone ever calls them on you (not me, I'm not that type)

 

[pkv]

I've been ttc for almost a year. I have so many things I could vent about, I don't know where to begin. First of all I don't have anyone to talk to. My friends either have no interest in having children or are already pregnant. I'm single (ttc by donors iui), and as much as I love my family we're not good at talking about anything emotional. And also because I'm doing this while being single I get worried that people will start having moral discusions with me which is not what I need, I've thought this through. Since I started ttc it seems like everyone else keep falling pregnant out of nowhere! I'm trying so hard to be happy for them but it makes me feel worse. Also some people know I'm ttc and when I meet them I can see they're looking at my stomach trying to figure out whether or not to ask if I'm pregnant. I don't even feel like hanging out with friends anymore. This sucks.

 

[Amelia8083]

To my coworker(who knows I have been trying to get pregnant for almost 2 yrs) ....... don't ever ask me how I will be able to handle the pain of labor, not one more time! Just because I have a hard time watching dental extractions with giant abscesses hanging off of them, that it why I am a hygienist and not an assistant. I really wanted to punch you in the face but of course I didn't (I pictured it in my head though and it was awesome). The pain of long term ttc is something you could never imagine since you got pregnant on accident. The pain of labor is the absolute last thing on my mind and I don't care if I blow fire out of my lady parts if it means I get a baby! And all those procedures I had to go through in the hopes of a Bfp, they weren't exactly a walk in the park either.

 

[xxlinz]

I am in the same place been trying TTC for 3 years its getting very stressful. I was referred to IVF as i was not Ovulating properly but i was told i had to lose 2 stone in weight before i could get there and the possibility was i could fall pregnant in the process i now have 4 pound left to lose before starting my IVF on the 22nd Feb. I have never missed a period or been late since i was 13 and im now 25 to find i had pinkish spotting only when i wiped last month, I am now 5 days late on my period this month and have experienced very mild period pains when i was due to start I am also getting lower back pain and feeling very sickly as well as taking hot flushes I took a HPT yesterday but got a negative result.... Has anyone got any advised!!!

 

[Sbmack]

I've been ttc for almost a year. I have so many things I could vent about, I don't know where to begin. First of all I don't have anyone to talk to. My friends either have no interest in having children or are already pregnant. I'm single (ttc by donors iui), and as much as I love my family we're not good at talking about anything emotional. And also because I'm doing this while being single I get worried that people will start having moral discusions with me which is not what I need, I've thought this through. Since I started ttc it seems like everyone else keep falling pregnant out of nowhere! I'm trying so hard to be happy for them but it makes me feel worse. Also some people know I'm ttc and when I meet them I can see they're looking at my stomach trying to figure out whether or not to ask if I'm pregnant. I don't even feel like hanging out with friends anymore. This sucks.

Kudos for you for knowing what you want and going for it even if you are not conforming to societal ideals (marriage or a partner). I was raised by a single mother and I had a great childhood. How many IUI cycles have you tried? I will be starting IUI next cycle.

 

[CakeCottage]

To my friend, you are not a fertility specialist so stop acting like a bloody know all!!!

 

[Ttc1year]

Hello ladies, We have been trying to get pregnant for almost 1 year, but with no luck. This month I was so hopeful, but spotting started yesterday night. I came across this thread on Internet and thought to join it. Hopefully, next month will be my month. Best of luck to all who are trying for the first time !!!!

 

[Sunnyleah]

Hello ladies, We have been trying to get pregnant for almost 1 year, but with no luck. This month I was so hopeful, but spotting started yesterday night. I came across this thread on Internet and thought to join it. Hopefully, next month will be my month. Best of luck to all who are trying for the first time !!!!

Good luck!

 

[Sunnyleah]

just need to vent!

WHY DOES EVERYONE MY AGE OR YOUNGER THAT I WENT TO SCHOOL WITH GET PREGNANT SO EASILY AND I CAN'T??????????????????????????????? I'M SOOOO SICK OF SEEING PEOPLE ANNOUNCE THAT THEY ARE PREGNANT AND HERE I AM 17 MONTHS LATER AND STILL NOT PREGNANT! I THOUGHT I WAS TO THE POINT OF NOT CARING ANYMORE AND JUST MOVING ON TO NTNP SINCE DH AND I ARE BOTH FINE, BUT SEEING THAT FACEBOOK ANNOUNCEMENT TODAY JUST TRIGGERED THAT SPOT IN ME!!! UGHHHHHH!

thank you, that is all!

I totally hear you! This is happening to me as we'll,,, even my 19 yr old, meth cousin is pregnant. WTF.

And a sister in law talking about a third baby, her second is just one yr and were still trying for our first

 

[Astridastrid]

Sigh

 

[Astridastrid]

I agree with these 100%. Teen pregnancy seems glorified by our society now, and I just don't understand it. Back in the day, my priorities were getting good grades, graduating from school, and getting a job. My parents would've beat the hell out of me if I'd ever told them I was pregnant.

When I lived in New Mexico while going to college, I did not make enough to get health insurance or food stamps for myself. I was a full-time student working two jobs, and it was a struggle to pay the bills, but I apparently made "too much" and therefore couldn't get ANYTHING. My health declined so much in those years. Then I saw all these women who got health insurance and food stamps, and all they did was pop out a baby! They never had to work because they didn't have to, simply because they had children. Some women even purposefully got pregnant multiple times, just so they could get more money from the government! It's a damn shame.

I can totally empathize with your Frustration. This thread is old. I hope you have your BFP soon

 

[Astridastrid]

I soooo totally get you!!

 

[tamithomas]

Oh yes, I deal with infertility issues... do preach about how it's selfish to look for means to conceive your biological kid because there are plenty of orphan kids up for adoption. Oh did you forget that you got 3 of your own? Piss off. Why don't people preach adoption to those who produce too much? So not fair.

 

[Amelia8083]

Sometimes I worry that my body just doesn't know how to be pregnant...... like it just doesn't know how to do it right

 

[Heather.1987]

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[AlliCat]

My hubby went to the fertility clinic and gave a sample to be tested. I start ovulating the 23rd. Will he have a good shot if we want to mess around in about an hour? Will it throw us off for my actual time of ovulation? We had to abstain for him to give the sample today and we are ready to jump each other but I don't want to hurt our chances when I am actually ovulating. I feel like my clander is off cuz I have a weird feeling in my lowe right abdomen...am I ovulating now and my tracking is off?

Need quick answer.... Thanks!

 

[cntrygrl]

You can still have sex all it takes is one. Why waste your chances?

 

[AlliCat]

You can still have sex all it takes is one. Why waste your chances?

That's what I was thinking. Thanks!