Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Limm]

Hubby and I are back to normal again. The hangover has gone too.

AF is late by 6 days now and I'm too nervous to test because I'm almost certain it's a BFN and I don't want to be winding myself as well as wasting time and money on the tests. However, I am still winding myself up because I haven't tested.

Main worry is that if I was to get a BFP, I will be disgusted with myself for the drinking.

 

[babybemine]

Hubby and I are back to normal again. The hangover has gone too.

AF is late by 6 days now and I'm too nervous to test because I'm almost certain it's a BFN and I don't want to be winding myself as well as wasting time and money on the tests. However, I am still winding myself up because I haven't tested.

Main worry is that if I was to get a BFP, I will be disgusted with myself for the drinking.

They say the first month the baby is not connected to the blood stream where it would be effected if you drank. Your worrying will effect the baby more. Let go of the worry because there is nothing you can do about it now.

 

[Limm]

They say the first month the baby is not connected to the blood stream where it would be effected if you drank. Your worrying will effect the baby more. Let go of the worry because there is nothing you can do about it now.

Never knew that so thank you. Makes me feel a bit better.

Maybe later today I will grow a pair and do a HPT.

 

[babybemine]

They say the first month the baby is not connected to the blood stream where it would be effected if you drank. Your worrying will effect the baby more. Let go of the worry because there is nothing you can do about it now.

Never knew that so thank you. Makes me feel a bit better.

Maybe later today I will grow a pair and do a HPT.

On average tons of people get pregnant without even trying...Amazing since it did not happen for most of us, but in doing so, they were often drinking and or doing drugs/smoking and only quit after finding out they were pregnant. There babies were born witthout any ill effects

 

[turquoise.ywc]

Hi dear ladies,
this is my first time here in Babyandbump!!

My husband and I have been trying since last year August. And as I read all your posts to vent here, I share similar sentiments.

It's like every month im setting myself up for disappointment because I'd try and then think that perhaps I am already pregnant? Because I would THINK that I experience symptoms but truth is it isn't because im prego. Almost feels like going crazy dreaming of getting pregnant. Sometimes I wonder if it'll ever happen for me at all. It's almost like too much!!

Yesterday my period came. And I just broke down in front of my hubby. Im like, is there something wrong with me? Sigh...

 

[Charliepop]

Hi, Has anyone tried Duofertility. We had been trying to get pregnant for five years and tried duofertility because they advertised it was as successful as a course of IVF. It didn't work but also it wasn't very good. Not once did it accurately predict my ovulation times and if I didn't use the LH tests I would not have none my most fertile days. Now three months on and I'm STILL waiting for my money back. They give a cast iron guarantee that they will refund your money if you do not become pregnant in a year. Only don't believe it as they make you jump through every hoop possible to get it and now I've had to pay my GP to write a letter to them to say I'm definitely not pregnant. Has anyone else experienced these problems?
x

 

[tamithomas]

Day 2 of the same headache, nothing will make it budge from proper sleep, tiger balm, Excedrin, Advil, Tylenol..you name it, I've tried it. I got this from my mom who is known for multiple day headaches. Hope I don't pass this down to whenever we finally manage to conceive.

Also...something that has seriously been bugging me and it's really unfair to see it happen. Why is it when a couple mentions TTC it's only the woman gets beaten down for it? People seem to have this illusion that TTC is only for the women's personal gain. It's not. Male factor infertility exists to and what a surprise! Men want babies too.

 

[Astridastrid]

Hi dear ladies,
this is my first time here in Babyandbump!!

My husband and I have been trying since last year August. And as I read all your posts to vent here, I share similar sentiments.

It's like every month im setting myself up for disappointment because I'd try and then think that perhaps I am already pregnant? Because I would THINK that I experience symptoms but truth is it isn't because im prego. Almost feels like going crazy dreaming of getting pregnant. Sometimes I wonder if it'll ever happen for me at all. It's almost like too much!!

Yesterday my period came. And I just broke down in front of my hubby. Im like, is there something wrong with me? Sigh...

Hi welcome !! I know how you feel. My fiancé and I have been trying just as long and every month when AF arrives he has to go through these "bitching" fests with me. Then I end up feeling bad afterwards. AF flow was due yesterday and although she didn't come I know she will because I can feel her. What a B.... She is!! Ugh.

It's ok for you to feel disappointed but this forum is a great place to get it all out while getting to know others with similar stories and getting informed at the same time. And no nothing's wrong with you. You will get your BFP it might just take a little more effort.

 

[awifey]

Day 2 of the same headache, nothing will make it budge from proper sleep, tiger balm, Excedrin, Advil, Tylenol..you name it, I've tried it. I got this from my mom who is known for multiple day headaches. Hope I don't pass this down to whenever we finally manage to conceive.

Also...something that has seriously been bugging me and it's really unfair to see it happen. Why is it when a couple mentions TTC it's only the woman gets beaten down for it? People seem to have this illusion that TTC is only for the women's personal gain. It's not. Male factor infertility exists to and what a surprise! Men want babies too.

You might see a neurologist about the headaches. I had one that lasted three months once and it turned out it was a migraine. I still functioned so I thought it wasn't migraines. I saw a good neurologist and got it all straightened out. Now I only have multi-day headaches (migraines) if I don't knock it out the first day.

As to fertility issues, you are right, male factor can definitely be an issue. Mil was pointing the responsibility my way just last week. This week dh got to tell her that his SA had zero sperm cells. It still sucks.

 

[tamithomas]

Luckily this is only my 2nd one in my life meaning multi day headaches. I get regular headaches and occasionally migraines as its passed down genetically. My mom gets them just like that as well. When it's a migraine I usually take Excedrin for Migraine which is only sold in the States but she crosses the border regularly. Works most of the time, this time it's not budging because it's one of those behind the neck ones. Had that when I was 13, went away by it's own after day 3. Would be good to still get it checked out eventually though.

Sorry to hear about your MIL. Our fertility issues are also male factor. Only 30% of his sperm are classified as alive..that's not counting how many of those that are alive are defective. I'm just dissapointed that in the "fertile" world it's deemed selfish only on the women's part to seek medical attention for fertility. But, the world is ignorant. What else is new lol.

 

[Nazz4]

Day 2 of the same headache, nothing will make it budge from proper sleep, tiger balm, Excedrin, Advil, Tylenol..you name it, I've tried it. I got this from my mom who is known for multiple day headaches. Hope I don't pass this down to whenever we finally manage to conceive.

Also...something that has seriously been bugging me and it's really unfair to see it happen. Why is it when a couple mentions TTC it's only the woman gets beaten down for it? People seem to have this illusion that TTC is only for the women's personal gain. It's not. Male factor infertility exists to and what a surprise! Men want babies too.

On top of what you said I think it's funny when people blame the woman for having all boys or all girls, when really it is the sperm that determines the baby's sex and it is passed on through the men. I mean queens used to get beheaded if they never had a boy, but now we know it was the kings "fault" all along!

But going along with what you were saying, last month with no luck (only 2nd cycle trying) OH tried to point the finger at me!!! It was ridiculous mostly because he is the one who has testicular fibrosis running in his family, and I'm the one who has a very fertile baby-making family. AND it had only been 2 cycles!!! Hoping this is our month though... 6 dpo now and I've been having some dull cramping (it was worse last night though) and funny gurgling sounds in my belly here and there. Not getting my hopes up though because we all know what happens when us ladies symptom spot only to be welcomed by the

 

[bluebyrd]

sometimes i wish i could set a filter on my facebook to block all of the pregnancy announcements!

lol!! Yes!!!

 

[Jett55]

Wow something that really irks me is this girl I know just lost a child (still birth)not even a year ago and she's pregnant again and for one she was drinking smoking and everything else during her pregnancy yet here all these amazing women who wouldn't do anything to put their baby at risk are having problems to just have one it seems soo unfair

 

[Jett55]

To the people who keep telling me kids are hard and I'm not ready for one just because you don't take care of your kid and think your life is ruined because of it doesn't mean that I'm going to so until u step up and actually Be a mom come back and talk but until then shut up because its obvious u don't know what ur talking about

 

[trying2beamom]

ive been ttc for 2 years with my husband and with no support from my family it sucks. like they are all praying that i wont get pregnant, its so irritating. and two of my aunts just had babies without really trying and everyone is so happy for them and no one even cares about how depressed ive been these past year or more. every month with a negative hpt. i would kill for a positive right now. and time is running low because my husband is going to deploy soon and i would really like to be pregnant before he leaves

 

[Limm]

Bought myself First Response HPTs and done one... BFN.

Still no sign of AF and just sick of this already.

This is my first month officially TTC but for at least a year we were not preventing it. I've always loved the idea of having a family but this is just ridiculous!

My hometown is PLAGUED with mums who never TTC and walk down the street screaming at each other, fag-in-mouth and drinking in nightclubs during the daytime while their children run freely into potential traffic. I've known girls 'round here to abandon their newborns in SCBU to go out with friends and girls who rest boxes on their sleeping children's heads whilst they're out in their prams (poor baba look like her neck was stiff!) HOW are these people allowed to be blessed with children so easily and yet people like you and me, men and women alike, have to struggle?

GRRRRR!!

 

[Disneybaby26]

If I ever am blessed with a little girl I promise not to raise her to believe that she will get pregnant if a man sneezes on her. Yes, her body should be her fortress, protected from those who have not earned its entry. But by no means should the title of becoming a mother be eluded to as "easy" or "wham bam, thank you mam". This can be a tough and heartbreaking task and it would have been fair to know that from the get-go!

 

[tamithomas]

You've come to terms with your infertility? I'm so happy for you, I'd love to be at that stage too. Meanwhile, quit belittling those who haven't that can not be happy while seeing ultrasounds and baby pictures. Not sure who's worse: people oblivious to infertility or those who have reached acceptance and think we're all selfish cows because we haven't reached that level of acceptance yet and dare to show emotion when others get what we want. (Not here on BnB btw)

 

[AlyCon]

Another BFP blasted across my FB news feed!! And although it stung a little like it always does, this girl and her husband are amazing people and deserve their bundle 100% I can honestly say I am happy for them it's nice to know my infertility hasn't made me completely bitter and incapable of being happy for others. For a minute there I thought I had sunk to that all time low but now I know I haven't

In other news I have to see a psychiatrist because I might be bipolar I've had pretty severe manic mood swings along with depression and eating disorders for years (I was suicidal at one point) but never formally diagnosed with anything because I never went to a psychiatrist. Once I was diagnosed with pcos I just blamed my hormones for all of that but in light of recent events (long story) I have realized that after years of suffering I need to finally seek help for my mental illness. Regardless of what my formal diagnoses turns out to be I don't plan on taking any anti depressants or anti psychotic drugs because of TTC and i just never liked the idea anyway so I really don't know what else there is besides therapy to help me. If anyone has experience with this any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[tamithomas]

Another BFP blasted across my FB news feed!! And although it stung a little like it always does, this girl and her husband are amazing people and deserve their bundle 100% I can honestly say I am happy for them it's nice to know my infertility hasn't made me completely bitter and incapable of being happy for others. For a minute there I thought I had sunk to that all time low but now I know I haven't

In other news I have to see a psychiatrist because I might be bipolar I've had pretty severe manic mood swings along with depression and eating disorders for years (I was suicidal at one point) but never formally diagnosed with anything because I never went to a psychiatrist. Once I was diagnosed with pcos I just blamed my hormones for all of that but in light of recent events (long story) I have realized that after years of suffering I need to finally seek help for my mental illness. Regardless of what my formal diagnoses turns out to be I don't plan on taking any anti depressants or anti psychotic drugs because of TTC and i just never liked the idea anyway so I really don't know what else there is besides therapy to help me. If anyone has experience with this any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm glad you are seeking help. I too have a passed with ED and have known several people to be diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. Sadly all of them too the anti depressant root out so on that part I don't have much advice except I wish you the best of luck. TTC is the only thing that keeps me on the root to recovery. Everyday I wake up struggling trying to fight the voice in the back of my head but then I think of our future LO and I think to myself it's more important then letting my ED control my life. Good luck

When I went to go get help for my PTSD I had to close my case because she would not let go of the fact that I didn't want the pills because of TTC. She kept on saying it was ttc safe but I didn't buy it for once second. Our sessions would consist of 90% her trying to convince me to take them. Hope your doctor is better.