Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[JJB]

Ugh, the other day my husband and I were trying to figure out what to get his mom for her bday and my husand's cousin said, "How about make her a grandma." I could not believe he said that. How insensitive! My brother-in-law at least saw how f'd up this comment was and said, "Wow dude, way to rub salt in the wound." I was pretty upset afterwards and couldn't help but to think the my MIL is upset that we haven't gotten pregnant yet. I mean holy crap, we are trying our best! And I already feel like crap about it, I don't need any comments like that!

 

[Limm]

Ugh, the other day my husband and I were trying to figure out what to get his mom for her bday and my husand's cousin said, "How about make her a grandma." I could not believe he said that. How insensitive! My brother-in-law at least saw how f'd up this comment was and said, "Wow dude, way to rub salt in the wound." I was pretty upset afterwards and couldn't help but to think the my MIL is upset that we haven't gotten pregnant yet. I mean holy crap, we are trying our best! And I already feel like crap about it, I don't need any comments like that!

Talk about upping the pressure! Hope it was just one of those moments where he forgot to connect his brain to his mouth.

It's easier said than done, but don't let it upset you too much. You should know in yourself that you are doing your best and certain things are out of our control.

Lots of luck and baby dust!

 

[awifey]

Stupid work doesn't help. Super load of stress!

 

[Limm]

Having to put up with another consecutive TWW sucks so much (blood test on 19th)!!
I'm now 17 days late (or 55 if you don't count my previous AF, which lasted 2 days instead of 5). I've had some symptoms (bigger looking nipples, fuller-feeling boobs, mild cramps, no AF, clear discharge and lower back pain, mainly in the tailbone area) but every HPT I do with every passing day is BFN, BFN, BFN.
If everything in my body is meant to be manipulated by my brain, then why isn't my brain being listened to? Grrr.

 

[Astridastrid]

Having to put up with another consecutive TWW sucks so much (blood test on 19th)!!
I'm now 17 days late (or 55 if you don't count my previous AF, which lasted 2 days instead of 5). I've had some symptoms (bigger looking nipples, fuller-feeling boobs, mild cramps, no AF, clear discharge and lower back pain, mainly in the tailbone area) but every HPT I do with every passing day is BFN, BFN, BFN.
If everything in my body is meant to be manipulated by my brain, then why isn't my brain being listened to? Grrr.

I hope all this frustration your going through is worth it and you get your Your symptoms sure sounds like it to me.

 

[AlliCat]

Yesterday:
So, I finally got all my blood work back and I have low progesterone, which my Dr. says might result in me not ovulating every month, but I am pretty sure I felt it and hubby and I caught it which is why I am now 2 days late. I was supposed to get my period 2 days ago. I am nervous that if I am pregnant that it won't hold because of my low progesterone. I am calling my Dr. in the morning but I don't know what to think... Any ideas or words of encouragement...?!?!?!

Today:
Tested this morning and got a BFN. Called my doctor and the receptionist said that a nurse would call me back, hoping to get a call soon. Period has still not arrived...

 

[tamithomas]

tamithomas Just got a new dog today, Bouvier Des Flandres mix. When will it be a new human baby? I love welcoming pets into my home but I long for the day when it will be a mini human entering our house.

i want one of those sooooo bad. that is my dream dog, ive wanted one since i was 4. they are great with kids my grandma had one when i was a baby and i beat that poor girl up and she never even growl or nip at me.

We rescued her because she was dropped off at the pound after being found with her owner who had been a corpse for 10 days. Seniors don't last long in pounds so we took upon ourselves to get her out. She's such a sweetheart

 

[tamithomas]

Ugh, the other day my husband and I were trying to figure out what to get his mom for her bday and my husand's cousin said, "How about make her a grandma." I could not believe he said that. How insensitive! My brother-in-law at least saw how f'd up this comment was and said, "Wow dude, way to rub salt in the wound." I was pretty upset afterwards and couldn't help but to think the my MIL is upset that we haven't gotten pregnant yet. I mean holy crap, we are trying our best! And I already feel like crap about it, I don't need any comments like that!

I'm so sorry that happened to you. People can be really insensitive. Same thing happened to me yesterday. My husband posted on facebook that we had received Adele (our new dog). It got baby jacked by "Am I a god mother yet? " to which I responded "Sadly no net yet, it's taking its time" and the reply i got was "Well get to it, I'm getting impatient! lol"...People really need to think before they speak especially when they know we suffered a m/c and have fertility issues.

 

[Nazz4]

Well I went to the doc today because AF is one week late and my right ovary has been hurting on and off. I figured I have a cyst or something. They did a pelvic exam and a urine test. Urine test was negative which I already told them it would be and pelvic exam was fine meaning I don't have any cysts or anything. So there is no reason for me being late. She also said she really does not think I'm pregnant because my uterus is not enlarged. Whyyyyy would this be happening? I really hope it's a late BFP... I'm going insane thinking about all this.

 

[Sam10]

So annoyed! Woke up yesterday (Monday) feeling like AF was surely going to start. Waited all day and it never showed. Got excited and decided like a fool to test (promised myself I'd wait until Wednesday). Of course it was negative. I don't know when I should test again. My period has been known to skip a month once a year or so it seems. I've never had a positive hpt. I'm afraid if I were pregnant I'd have to be one of those women that doesn't get a positive until they are like 2 months pregnant. I dunno. This is my 5th month trying without any sort of aid. I feel really overwhelmed with the idea of temping, checking cm, opks. I'm afraid to go to the doctor because I do not want to be told I can't have kids or there is something wrong with me. Really blue right now. Wish I wasn't so quick to give up hope.

 

[Limm]

So annoyed! Woke up yesterday (Monday) feeling like AF was surely going to start. Waited all day and it never showed. Got excited and decided like a fool to test (promised myself I'd wait until Wednesday). Of course it was negative. I don't know when I should test again. My period has been known to skip a month once a year or so it seems. I've never had a positive hpt. I'm afraid if I were pregnant I'd have to be one of those women that doesn't get a positive until they are like 2 months pregnant. I dunno. This is my 5th month trying without any sort of aid. I feel really overwhelmed with the idea of temping, checking cm, opks. I'm afraid to go to the doctor because I do not want to be told I can't have kids or there is something wrong with me. Really blue right now. Wish I wasn't so quick to give up hope.

Don't give up hope!
Myself and probably quite a few others on here feel the same as you about feeling overwhelmed with the bits and bobs and scary visits to the doctor, but all of it in the long run should help you get to where you need to be.
Hopefully knowing that you're not alone in all of this will bring you some positive thoughts!

 

[Sam10]

It really does, thanks! It's so frustrating. I've barely even started compared to some of the ladies here and I already feel like it's too much for me. Going to try and chill out and keep my mind on other things.

 

[Limm]

It really does, thanks! It's so frustrating. I've barely even started compared to some of the ladies here and I already feel like it's too much for me. Going to try and chill out and keep my mind on other things.

You and me both! I feel bad about complaining most of the time because I feel I haven't earned that right yet because it's only my first month TTC (meant to be my second month by now but my body's gone all doody-dah.)

Was watching a series I got as a present recently and one of the characters was talking about something that might be helpful somehow. She talks about how much she loves jumping off of cliffs into water. When asked about if she's afraid of the falling she says that the falling is the easy part and that the jumping takes guts. Then she is asked about landing and says that it is much like the falling because you don't choose how it happens, but it doesn't stop her from jumping.

Guess it might relate to us all in a sense that deciding to start trying is the jumping and the falling is all the stuff during the process of trying and the landing is the final result... ? Excuse me if I have just babbled nonsense. I haven't had any sleep for nearly 24 hours.

 

[tamithomas]

Facebook now has "so and so are expecting a baby" bellow the "it's so and so's birthday today". Thanks Facebook, kick right where it hurts why don't you?

 

[Jett55]

I know I fkking hate that fb sucks!

 

[Fizzyfefe]

OMGGGG, I am having cramps from hell. They are radiating around my side and to my lower back, and down my legs, and all around my pelvis...

I don't ever take pain meds, but this is almost unbearable.

 

[Limm]

I officially am fed up with having to pee in or on things and STILL not knowing what's going on.

 

[AlyCon]

Counting down, 10 days until I find out if I'm pregnant or not. I was thinking about testing. Early but I figure if I let the doctor tell me then I don't have to SEE the BFN or stare at the pregnancy test for 12 hours making myself think there's a "faint line" and all the usually BS I put myself through. So nervous right now. Next Friday will mark my sixth week on Metformin and I started taking prenatals last week so if I'm not pregnant yet, hopefully I'll get my BFP within the next two months. Idk what my doctor will recommend after that, I guess we'll go over that at my appt. FX for BFP!!! And baby dust to all of you ladies!

 

[babyfever03]

Hi everyone! So Idk if I'm over exaggerating or not but, I have a friend that is expecting and the pregnancy was unplanned. In the beginning she was feeling bad that she conceived while I was trying (not that I want her to feel bad) but, now I swear it's like she rubs it in my face! She only wants to talk about her pregnancy now and anytime I'm around her she plays it up. She waddles and acts like it's so hard to do anything and she rubs her belly constantly. She barely has a belly! Not even due until July. Idk if it's me being jealous but she is really getting on my nerves!! I do have three other friends that are expecting but I'm not bothered by them. ???? Well thanks for letting me vent! Good luck to everyone.

 

[tamithomas]

Hi everyone! So Idk if I'm over exaggerating or not but, I have a friend that is expecting and the pregnancy was unplanned. In the beginning she was feeling bad that she conceived while I was trying (not that I want her to feel bad) but, now I swear it's like she rubs it in my face! She only wants to talk about her pregnancy now and anytime I'm around her she plays it up. She waddles and acts like it's so hard to do anything and she rubs her belly constantly. She barely has a belly! Not even due until July. Idk if it's me being jealous but she is really getting on my nerves!! I do have three other friends that are expecting but I'm not bothered by them. ???? Well thanks for letting me vent! Good luck to everyone.

Nah you're not over reacting at all. This is why I avoided a friend of mine a little while back. Her pregnancy was completely unplanned and she knew we were trying. Suddenly it's like it totally slipped her mind and did everything you said. Add insult to injury, her baby was born 2 weeks after my M/C. When her boyfriend called we told him about the M/C and all he had was "well that sucks, hey want to come to see the baby!" like as if we broke a nail.