Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Ladybuggz]

Hates how unpredictable my cycles are. How the hell are you supposed to DTD during O when it either comes strangely early or rediculously late? I can't take OPKs everyday either....ugh, I hate my stupid body. Why can't I be one of those super fertile ladies who just have to look at a guy to get pregnant?

 

[Jett55]

Ugg af why can't you just show up when ur supposed to & not get my hopes up :/

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Confusing bbt question - please help!
I've been seeing my temps gradually drop the least few days and feeling gutted about it, but still praying or a miracle as they had not dropped below cover line (though they were so close!). Wake up this morning and temps had shot straight up again. For all excited then decided to check straight away. This is what happened: (temps taken one right after another, same thermometer, no waiting time in between, no moving?)

36.77, 36.72, 36.64, 36,64, 36.60, 36.58

Stopped here as depression kicked in again. What do I make out of this???? I feel I'm stuck in the cruelest game ever!!! Every time I know af is coming something gives me hope then I'm crushed again!!! Which temp do I listen to?

 

[sammyttc]

This is our 9th cycle and I am about to lose my mind. I truly don't know how couples do this for years. I can't imagine feeling this way for soooo long... and TRULY feel for you if you have been doing this for far longer than me as many of you have!

It feels like everyone I know is announcing their pregnancies, and when posed the question "Were you trying long?", I have heard "We weren't even trying!" or "It was our first try!" wayyyyyyyyy too many times. I don't want to come across wrong, either. I am thrilled for these couples and their new adventure... I just can't understand why it can't be that easy for everyone. Additionally, my family doesn't know we're trying... I thought it would be too much pressure, however, with all the "Come on, you guys Must want a baby by now" comments, I'm about to scream at them that yes, of course, I desperately want one. Long ago I did. If only it was as easy as wanting!!

My friends don't even come close to understanding as those who aren't announcing pregnancies are farrrr from the stage in life where they feel ready. Statements like "It'll happen" or "You havent been trying that long" make my blood boil. Every day feels like an eternity.

Also, my doctor's last advice was just have fun with it! It is becoming challenging. For one week, I have my period. Then the next oh, week or so is the fun part. Then the next two weeks are just plain agony, and then comes the depressing period again!!!

I actually can't believe how much better I feel now that I got this out.

 

[AlyCon]

Well this month was the last chance to get a BFP that would be due this year.. Not happy about that!! I know I still have plenty of time for a 2013 BFP but I had really hoped I'd be celebrating my baby's first Christmas this December. I guess not I really want to be pregnant before my birthday this summer, which won't happen if my doctor puts me on BC for three months! I'm praying for a miracle at this point just hoping I will cycle on my own at least once before I have to go back for my next appt.

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Well this month was the last chance to get a BFP that would be due this year.. Not happy about that!! I know I still have plenty of time for a 2013 BFP but I had really hoped I'd be celebrating my baby's first Christmas this December. I guess not I really want to be pregnant before my birthday this summer, which won't happen if my doctor puts me on BC for three months! I'm praying for a miracle at this point just hoping I will cycle on my own at least once before I have to go back for my next appt.

I clocked onto that this morning too but I'll settle now for having a bfp soon. Fingers crossed you don't have to go on bc! Xx

 

[trying2beamom]

i hate trying to talk about ttc with my mom. she doesnt want my husband and i to get pregnant and isnt helpful at all. i told her i started taking vitamins because my doctor suggested it and she goes "why would they suggest that" umm mom all doctors recommend you take vitamins. i dont even want to talk to her about it because my doctor thinks i have pcos and we are waiting for my period to do some kind of sonagram to look at whats going on in there and put me on metformin. i have now passed how long it took her to get pregnant with me ugh this is so frustrating. just got home from my aunts who just had her baby i stayed a week to help her with laundry and stuff like that but she already messing this baby up all she eats or drinks is pop and sweets, her baby smells like breast milk and sugar. and she isnt giving their other child any attention hes acting out and peeing the bed and her and her husband just ignore him and just spend time with each other and the baby. i want to scream at them so bad you have two kids not just one and that they needed to spend more time with their 4 yr old. ugh i hate when i cant say anything because then everyone would know dh and i are ttc and i dont want to here the unwanted comments its been 2 very painful yrs and im sorry my dh is trying to make it better by getting me dogs 2 dogs and i still feel completely empty inside

 

[despttc]

Hello tryintobeamom,
I'm having a bad time too,more with hubby's family,although mine too contributes.. Let's believe its just a passing phase. I console myself saying all this will go away when I have a baby. Maybe happiness will come after this period of sadness. Don't worry. Be strong

 

[trying2beamom]

its just so hard because i have next to no support my husband tries but he doesnt understand and my friends no and some are supportive and others say i should wait but if its taken us 2 yrs already i dont want to wait and start ttc when im older and lose my window of any chance. it took my one aunt 10 yrs to get pregnant and im scared that im going to be that way

 

[despttc]

its just so hard because i have next to no support my husband tries but he doesnt understand and my friends no and some are supportive and others say i should wait but if its taken us 2 yrs already i dont want to wait and start ttc when im older and lose my window of any chance. it took my one aunt 10 yrs to get pregnant and im scared that im going to be that way

Is it ok if I ask? I was just wondering if you had a workup done about ovulation. If you're a bit overweight(I dunno if you're,if not sorry),its said reducing weight by even a 5kg would multiply your fertility. I'm overweight and that's what I was told. And it turned out my thyroid hormones too are a bit low and adding to the infertility. now I'm takin medicine for that. It'll be good if your partner's sperm count too can be checked

 

[trying2beamom]

i dont know if they have done a workup about ovulation. i know every time im in there they take blood to test hormones and see if i ovulated. im not over weight, but i did start exercising again to see if that helps. husbands sperm count and everything is good too. so thats kinda why my doctor is trying see if there is something wrong with my ovaries. i havent been ovulating but when she did an ultrasound i had folicles that looked ready but i didnt ovulate so she is trying to see if my tubes are blocked or if they are dropping and going somewhere else. i just hope my tubes are blocked and are fixed by her doing the test. and hopefully the metformin helps too.

 

[despttc]

My friend who's an OBGYN told me she conceived on metformin and she too wasn't overweight. She too was exercising. Wish you lots and lots of baby dust. Hoping to hear a positive preg from you soon

 

[trying2beamom]

wish you lots of baby dust too

 

[AlliCat]

None of my family or hubbies family knows. I talk to 2 friends about things and he talks to one of his friends about it but we are just using each others support...

 

[tamithomas]

Well didn't get to go on our miscalculated attempt after all. DH's neck is out. I'm fully understanding of that and I'm not one of those wives that throws a temper tantrum over it to him but it's more towards myself... why does biology have to be so damn complicated and precise?! I mean... why do others get to get bfp without even caring or wanting a baby,meanwhile I've done all of my research on how to raise a child. Heck,even asked around from older ladies for home made remedies or certain things. I'm as prepared as can be, all were missing is baby.

I want it so bad I almost feel like I'm already bfp but just wanting for it to show up meaning the real bfp. I grew up being told I'd know when I'm ready. I just didn't expect this feeling of being ready this strong and not be able to act upon it.

 

[10yrshopefull]

Been trying to conceive for over 10 years now...just finished my first IVF/ICSI cycle & was implanted with 2 really good quality embroys on day 3...it's been 4 days since implantation and I'm starting to go stir crazy...everyone keeps saying just be positive and I'm doing my best but after 10+ yrs and not one pregnancy it's extremely hard.

Any advice?

 

[Popcorn87]

Okay so we have been trying TTC for 3 months now. I really hope that this month is our lucky month. So far I am extremely tired I can sleep all day and I can hardly keep up at work, I am extremely hungry, I even eat breakfast for the past 3 days and I never eat breakfast. I am also bloated, gassy, constipated and pelvic area is aching with dull aches. Also a bit dizzy and my nipples has gone darker.

However....Somehow I am starting to believe that it's just all in my head because I want it so much..
-5 days more until expected AF, I hope her ugly face won't show up... if she does I'll be so disappointed. I really want to become a mother and seeing all of my friends having babies is hurting as much as I am happy for them :/

I had a chance once but I let it slip away stupid me...


I guess I have said what I had in my heart, now back to eating popcorn as a fat cow because I am really hungry even tho I eat a huge plate kebab a few hours ago :S

 

[Hoping girl 2]

Been trying to conceive for over 10 years now...just finished my first IVF/ICSI cycle & was implanted with 2 really good quality embroys on day 3...it's been 4 days since implantation and I'm starting to go stir crazy...everyone keeps saying just be positive and I'm doing my best but after 10+ yrs and not one pregnancy it's extremely hard.

Any advice?

Oh goo luck to you!!!!! I hope IVF works and you get your bfp soon unfortunately can't advice on any foolprooof way to make 2ww easier but I find that talking about it here helps keep 'the crazy' at bay for me. Fingers crossed for you!!!!! Xxx

 

[trying2beamom]

its so weird i keep having tiny little cramps which i usually dont have, and im pretty sure i was away when or if i ovulated. so i dont want to get my hopes up that we are pregnant but its definitely new thing so i have no clue because af isnt due til april 5th

 

[tamithomas]

its so weird i keep having tiny little cramps which i usually dont have, and im pretty sure i was away when or if i ovulated. so i dont want to get my hopes up that we are pregnant but its definitely new thing so i have no clue because af isnt due til april 5th

I'm with you actually. I'm not due til the 8th but having af like cramps since saturday and I know for sure it's not in my head. DH and I tried to bd but weren't sure if timed it right but he didn't manage to finish although I heard precum can contain sperm in it (trying to find the answer online is making my head spin so for now I'll just note it as a myth). Not getting my hopes up...who knows, maybe the one time we screw up something our of the schedule is the one time it happens lol but for now I refuse to read into it although secretly wishing us both the best of luck.