Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[2mommiesCT]

Second IUI (first try had a chemical preg) 100% out of pocket (I HATE AETNA!!!) and all these bloodtests, sonohystograms, sperm storage and prep, ultrasounds, Mandatory Psych consultation are bleeding our savings dry. Only have enough money for one more try all my Nana's inheritance money gone. Nothing to show for it, all gone. I knew parenting would be expensive had no idea that just getting pregnant would be so expensive, we dont even have a child to show for it. And we haven't even tried for a long time like many people do.

 

[justme0_0]

I think the issuse that I struggle with at the moment would be going to the hospital knowing that someone just had a baby and knowing thats its hard for me to be 100 % happy for that person becuase I am complety emotional about that part of my life... I am not a selfish person but having a hard time conceiving thats a hard thing to cope with it effects every single day of my life.. But I am begining to be positive about it all and just know that it is in GODS hands... and I have no say so i just have to keep working like I dont know how to pray and praying like I dont know how to work... thats the only that keeps me smiling in this time is that I know that it will come its just going to take me longer to get there.. this messages is not only for me but to any women that is TTC and its hard. just know that it might take us forever but we will get there and even if we dont have children on our own GOD will feel that void with a new love. I do believe that and I dont want to preach to anyone because eveyone is not of the same faith as I am.. I just ask that you dont report my post to have it for mentioning GOD.. someone needs to see this. If You disagree that is just fine but I dont want to start abate about "god" and the role he plays in the "TTC World" (no offensive to anyone) !!!!

 

[justme0_0]

In regurads to the "it will happen when GOD says it will happen" quote
I literally was just talking about the same thing. I dont doubt the work of GOD and I would be lieing if I said I didn't question GOD as to why me. why do I have this problem. I have just came to terms that the statement is some what true we can speak things into existance but its not up to us when we will get those things... My advice is that though you might question why this happens to you, enjoy it becuase sometimes god is the only one that you can pray to with out getting the third degree from a person, and this just might make you a better mother becuase of the stuggle for to to get so far ... Things happen for a reason and your blessin may just be delayed not forgotten or not promissed.Good luck and I am so glad I came accross you post not many people want to post something like that in fear to people attacking that with there feelings.. But you were honest and I love that thanks so much.

 

[justme0_0]

So... I've recently come to know the Lord... And the biggest thing I'm struggling with is people giving me the "it will happen when God decides it will". Now, mind you... I'm not saying this is untrue. I'm just saying that I'm drawing impatient. I'm trying not to question... But sheesh! It's so hard when unmarried people pop out babies left and right and a convicted, married couple tries and tries and it's like God just doesn't see fit... And then on top of that, people still give me that speech. I'm not making this about religion as a whole... Just venting my situation. :/

asdfljasdklfjaskljfads;lkjadsf;j;lkjasdfljwejwejodsah! <---- Frustration.

That is all for now.

I am sorry I replyed to you but it showed up on the next page please read!!!

 

[ashntony]

I HATE seeing parents that dot hat, shout int heir faces, fair enough discipline them, it's good but shouting in their face lowers their esteem and confidence, they need to think how they would feel if someone 3 times bigger than them went in their face and screamed at them you would be really upset and humiliated
I also hate seeing parents who let their kids do whatever the F they please. I was at the panto and a kid behind me kept pulling my hair, kicking my seat and head, i turn round and ask the parent to do something and she was like "he is just a kid , he will throw a tantrum if i ask him to stop" ... it's like if he throws a tantrum take him out and put him on a time out, dont let him hit a strnger just because your scared he will show you up coz guess what he is showing you up more acting like that than if he threw a completely age appropriate tantrum. Tantrums are NORMAL, parents letting their kid hit strangers not so much!!!

My mother was one to grab your cheeks and scream and spit in your face. She would also pull you around by your hair... I am happy to say that I no longer speak to her and I hope that I am a better parent than her! On a side note she was also a foster parent...

 

[MummyDonz]

Hi, this is my first post on this site. I stopped taking the mini pill cerezette 5 and half weeks ago and 2 days ago I started to have period pains and brown discharge. Any ideas whether this a period or withdrawal bleed etc?

Advice needed!!

 

[Jenimon]

Welp I'm a few days late now.. Taking a HPT in the AM, If I receive a Neg Result, and no AF in a week, Taking another test and scheduling a Dr's visit.. Wish me luck in the morning!!!!

 

[Momsah]

I sarted taking Vitex on halloween of last year and after only 3 weeks it made me ovulate, after five months of missed periods. I knew i had ovulated bc of sore breasts and + opk. After ovulation i got my AF exactly 14 days after and tenderness and soreness went away right when AF came. 14 days after the first day of my cycle i ovulated again, this time i only had tender sore breasts for about a day or two, ad of course opk confirmed. Based off my calendar i am now 3 days late and BFNs all over , my husband i of course were intimate before, during, and after but now today im feeling like the way i feel when im about to get my period, not xactly cramping but my stomach just feels weird almost achy but not, sorry if i dont make sense please ask more questions, what do you guys think? Should i test again or what has been your xperience, im so new to forums so please forgive me if i dont know the lingo lol

 

[puddles]

so much to vent! My partner and i are long distance, im in canberra nad he is in bathurst. We only see each other about twice a month so TTC is really hard! We obviously cant actively TTC jst letting nature take its course. But unfortunately he doesnt wanna know whats going on unless i get a positive test. So all the 2 week waits im doing on my own. Its very very frustrating! One of the reasons i joined is so i can talk about things with someone! Of course i talk to my friends but its not the saem.

Next time he is here i am going to have a chat with him and say we need to be more active in discussing and TTC or i need to go back on birth control because its making me crazy!!!! aarrrrgggghhhhhhhh

*sigh* ok im done.

 

[MommaJJ]

Testing early sucks!! I wish I could just wait til I was 'late', but no! I have tested over and over this week and got faint lines (obviously getting my hopes up!) to get a nice BFN on cbd. Arghhhhhhh x

 

[Nazz4]

so much to vent! My partner and i are long distance, im in canberra nad he is in bathurst. We only see each other about twice a month so TTC is really hard! We obviously cant actively TTC jst letting nature take its course. But unfortunately he doesnt wanna know whats going on unless i get a positive test. So all the 2 week waits im doing on my own. Its very very frustrating! One of the reasons i joined is so i can talk about things with someone! Of course i talk to my friends but its not the saem.

Next time he is here i am going to have a chat with him and say we need to be more active in discussing and TTC or i need to go back on birth control because its making me crazy!!!! aarrrrgggghhhhhhhh

*sigh* ok im done.

My OH doesn't really like knowing what's going on either. Well sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't, but the reason is because he doesn't want me to get his hopes up. Which is understandable, I don't like getting my own hopes up either lol, but I think both people should be in TTC together not separately... I mean you have the sex together and the baby (hopefully) together, so you should have the TWW and the whole thing together too.

 

[mandi21a]

I don't know how women do this, every month it is heart breaking to me when I see I'm not pregnant, and I'm only in month 5 ... My husband is starting to feel 'used' when I want to 'tell' him were going to dtd, were both on the same page about haing a baby but he can't manage to wrap his mind around the fact that you need to dtd within a certain time, not just when he feels like it !!!... then he has the nerve to ask me why it hasn't happened yet! Ahhh, I don't know how long I can try for, it weighs on my mind allll day, every day! ..

 

[mandi21a]

I feel a bit better, I don't really have any support system except my mother and I'm pretty sure she is sick of listening to me lol. That's the first time I really voiced my frustrations !

 

[puddles]

i can never wait either MommaJJ! Its infuriating knowing damn well a test likely wont show up... i had one day where i was late and thought i would do a test in a morning - i peed on a stick only to find when i wiped AF reared its ugly head...

at the moment ive jsut had a 6 day early, short period - to heavy to be implantation bleed etc etc but ill still go and get a stupid test on tuesday when i wass due just to be disappointed again because i cant help myself!!!

 

[puddles]

I don't know how women do this, every month it is heart breaking to me when I see I'm not pregnant, and I'm only in month 5 ...

yep i hear ya..... its crushing every month

 

[hlamb]

And here I am, yet again.. *Sigh* So my last period was November 16th. No sign of AF, no sign of pregnancy, either. All tests have been negative. Had an appointment with an OB/GYN on the 7th of this month. Lab work ran, follow-up on Tuesday of this week. Got some disheartening news before we left: apparently I'm having trouble conceiving because I'm 160 pounds. She says I need to do Weight Watchers. What a double whammy! First, I'm having trouble trying to conceive in general... Been ttc for over a year. Next, I haven't had a period in two months and no positive test... And now, I can't have a baby until I go on a diet!? Goodness, I need some prayers and major baby dust! I would say I'm about to quit trying but we all know how that goes... Hmph. Baby dust to you all!

 

[puddles]

wow! thats awful!! hugs for you.... I know weight is supposed to have an effect on it all, but when i had my son i was very heavy!!! Im not sure it makes as much difference as they say, but if TTC i guess we'll try anything wont we!

 

[MummyDonz]

Well, that strange period/withdrawal bleed lasted 5 days. It was 36 days from stopping pill to this so not sure if it would be accurate to work out ovulation from that. Might just do the deed every other night and see what happens. I'm thinking about getting some ovulation sticks but would have to get quite a few as wouldn't know when to start testing from!

 

[Valentina.A]

Baby dust to you to!
Try and be happy for your sister, some women are just blessed like that, bet there are other things you have going for you that she probably envys

 

[MummyDonz]

Well, I started spottig today so needed a panty liner again. Not sure what's going on as stopped the withdrawal/period thing Saturday evening!