Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[jahnella1]

sorry MamaKris, that's not fair.


I really appreciate this thread. I should have peeked my head in here months ago.

My vent today is about people who think it's perfectly okay to inform me and my husband that they think we should have babies even though it's none of their business. The vent continues with my husband, who has decided that it's nobody else's business if we're TTC and doesn't want me to tell anybody. It's been OVER A YEAR (a year!) so at this point I have told a few people (because I need to talk about it to SOMEBODY), but it is so frustrating for people to be constantly coming up to me like, "hey, you guys have been together for like 13 years, isn't it time for you to have a baby yet?" or "it would be such a cute combination of you guys, why don't you do it?" or even worse, "if you don't start trying soon, you'll be too old." (i'm 33, he's 35). I've come up with an answer though.

I was at his office an hour ago and his secretary goes, "look at pictures of my baby! isn't he cute? isn't he the perfect mix of our skin tones? (like me and my husband, her and her husband are a mixed race couple - another annoying comment I constantly get from people is, 'don't you want to see what it would look like?' as if i'm color mixing with finger paints or something. anyway, she continues...) when are you guys going to have a baby? you've been talking about it forever, when are you going to try?"

and I answered, "Oh really? That's a great idea! Why don't we have sex one time, just push the baby button, and I'll pop out of baby. I hadn't thought of that."

lol at that point my husband stuck his head around the corner and I realized that I was standing in his waiting room full of patients, which probably didn't look too good. but HA! that's how I'm answering that question from now on. Every single time.

Hahahaha I like that. maybe I should think of a clever way to answer that question as wellit's frustrating..... I can't stand when people make it seem like its so easy for everyone just because it was easy for them keep your head up Hun.

 

[jahnella1]

I'm so over pregnant people posting there bellies on Facebook .....arrrrrg

 

[jahnella1]

My bf had an abortion because she didn't want a baby with a certain guy ...if you think that was bad a month or two latter she got preggers again by the same guy.....so not only did she make the same mistake but she killed an innocent baby that could have livedits almost as if she killed it for no reason. The guy is a jerk and didn't deserve her ...unfortunately she lost the second baby but it hurt me to my soul to see someone get preggers back to back like that and here I am struggling to have my first..( she has two children already she didn't want more especially from him) but I had to be supportive.......I just feel so bad for more than one reason

 

[ashntony]

Well i found out a woman that has been doing ivf ttc and her dh died... well hes been dead for some time now and she continued ivf. Now today she is pregnant... and does not want it.

 

[Nazz4]

Well i found out a woman that has been doing ivf ttc and her dh died... well hes been dead for some time now and she continued ivf. Now today she is pregnant... and does not want it.

wait... why did she continue the IVF if she did not want it? I'm so lost on that one...

 

[pbl_ge]

Hate to sound like a dope, but what is the difference? Never had any scan, so just curious.

Exactly what Fizzy said, sorry. Here's a great little article:
https://curiosity.discovery.com/question/difference-between-gender-sex

To me it sounds as ridiculous as if the doctors said, "We're going to do a personality scan!" Ummmmmmmm.....not possible.

 

[MamaKris]

Why do I continuously get my hopes up? Right before AF, I get my hopes up that I'm pregnant. Then I start spotting and it's "oh well lots of women spot while they are pregnant" and then the next day when it's only a light flow it's "well this really isn't as heavy as it should be..no clots..maybe I really am pregnant! I think my period is stopping!!" and then by the next morning, it's full on AF and I'm devastated. But I do it EVERY month. WTF is wrong with me??

 

[LillyTame]

Hate to sound like a dope, but what is the difference? Never had any scan, so just curious.

Exactly what Fizzy said, sorry. Here's a great little article:
https://curiosity.discovery.com/question/difference-between-gender-sex

To me it sounds as ridiculous as if the doctors said, "We're going to do a personality scan!" Ummmmmmmm.....not possible.

Funny, I know those definitions, but I didn't think of it in those terms AT ALL when you mentioned it.

 

[AmaryllisRed]

Why do I continuously get my hopes up? Right before AF, I get my hopes up that I'm pregnant. Then I start spotting and it's "oh well lots of women spot while they are pregnant" and then the next day when it's only a light flow it's "well this really isn't as heavy as it should be..no clots..maybe I really am pregnant! I think my period is stopping!!" and then by the next morning, it's full on AF and I'm devastated. But I do it EVERY month. WTF is wrong with me??

I do the SAME THING.

 

[Ltruns33]

I got a lot out of this article. I wanna talk with the lady, she seems so calming and empowering!

https://www.conceiveonline.com/articles/conceive-conversation-dr-randine-lewis

 

[hlamb]

So... I've recently come to know the Lord... And the biggest thing I'm struggling with is people giving me the "it will happen when God decides it will". Now, mind you... I'm not saying this is untrue. I'm just saying that I'm drawing impatient. I'm trying not to question... But sheesh! It's so hard when unmarried people pop out babies left and right and a convicted, married couple tries and tries and it's like God just doesn't see fit... And then on top of that, people still give me that speech. I'm not making this about religion as a whole... Just venting my situation. :/

asdfljasdklfjaskljfads;lkjadsf;j;lkjasdfljwejwejodsah! <---- Frustration.

That is all for now.

 

[wannabemummy2]

Hi,

Just learnt that my SIL has her baby - a little girl. This is her second.
while im happy that the baby is here and safe and mother is doing well - i am feeling so upset and just asking why isnt that me!

its too early to test, i know that and if i do and i get the BFN im going to be even more upset than im at the minute. Im sitting here, crying with only the dog for company - thank goodness i wasnt in the office - otherwise i would have completely lost it.

i never wanted to leave it too late to have kids, was married at 23 but life just got in the way, waiting till i got a permanent job etc but i so wish that we had just went for it then - maybe things would be different?

I never realised just how badly i wanted a baby until we tried to conceive, now every single little twinge has me convinced something is happening.

i was shopping the other day and surrounded by pregnant women or women with young babies and then on the way out i saw a young man screaming in the face of his little girl - she couldnt have been more than 3 and he was telling her to behave and what he was going to do when he got her home. and i was just thinking - how can you do that to your child? when there are so many people who would love to be in your position.

ok enough ranting, have to get back to work.

to everyone - hope you get your

 

[Cestamy83]

I just compared my last months chart to this month's chart on FF... and they look nearly the same= not pregnant

Declining temps.

tested today... 8 DPO.. BFN

ugh.

 

[Kiki1993]

I HATE seeing parents that dot hat, shout int heir faces, fair enough discipline them, it's good but shouting in their face lowers their esteem and confidence, they need to think how they would feel if someone 3 times bigger than them went in their face and screamed at them you would be really upset and humiliated
I also hate seeing parents who let their kids do whatever the F they please. I was at the panto and a kid behind me kept pulling my hair, kicking my seat and head, i turn round and ask the parent to do something and she was like "he is just a kid , he will throw a tantrum if i ask him to stop" ... it's like if he throws a tantrum take him out and put him on a time out, dont let him hit a strnger just because your scared he will show you up coz guess what he is showing you up more acting like that than if he threw a completely age appropriate tantrum. Tantrums are NORMAL, parents letting their kid hit strangers not so much!!!

 

[LillyTame]

My tummy feels funny...like at the beginning of AF....I better NOT be getting my AF early I JUST got a positive on OPKs a few days ago.

Problem is...I haven't had a full flow AF since stopping depo so who knows what my body is capable of doing right now.

 

[mamaof2ttc3rd]

I have always had regular cycles i could practically set my clock 2 them but the last couple months they have been weird like last month it came a day early and only lightly bled for 2 days and now i started spotting 4 days b4 im supposed 2! i am ttc my 3rd child now and its been almost 10 years since my last pregnancy so im really not sure what to think... i have taken 2 tests and they were neg! I have also had other unusual symptoms 2 like iv been getting heartburn every night for the past month and been having nausia on and off! so i guess what im wondering is if anyone else has had similar situations and what u think

 

[StopEndo84]

As I read a lot of thes post, I realize and see that I am not alone in TTC. All of my siblings have children and 2 don't deserve them. I am beyond frustraited with TTC. I have endometriosis and PCOS and I feel like everything is against me with getting pregnant. I am 28 and not even fertility medication helped me. My brother has 3 and one on the way and does not take care of any of them. His first son lives with me and is 4, his second is a little girl, the mother has her and brings her to every holiday and then some just so that we can see her, the third is a little girl and we just got to see her for the third time and she is a little over a year old. He got married less then a year ago and they are expecting for his 4th! Why is it that God will allow selfesh, stupid, ignorant people to have children and several at that but the ones like myself who actually want a family can't have any at all?!?!? It us so hard.

akl;sjf oaieuriahfnaidrjhiowejrnkdfha;oeirjakm <-- Venting and felt a little better. I just wish that for once, I could experience the full 9 months of pregnancy and have a little one.

 

[MWundy]

Ok new to this so hoping I'm doing this right. If not, please advise lol. Ok, TTC and well first month using this Clear Blue OPK reading with o or smiley face. I got a smiley 2 days ago at night,negative in am, positive at night, negative am, and positive last night. Now today its negative but 2 solid blue lines. I have had cramping on left side since Saturday per the calendar I should ovulate on the 10th. Now with saying this...my temp two days ago was 98.0 and 98.2 now its to 97.7. So I'm a tad lost. We have been bd every day (sometimes twice) since the 12/30/12 to present. The cramping on the left side....pretty common I take it with ovulation? If you could lend advice so appreciated.

 

[Eltjuh]

So... I've recently come to know the Lord... And the biggest thing I'm struggling with is people giving me the "it will happen when God decides it will". Now, mind you... I'm not saying this is untrue. I'm just saying that I'm drawing impatient. I'm trying not to question... But sheesh! It's so hard when unmarried people pop out babies left and right and a convicted, married couple tries and tries and it's like God just doesn't see fit... And then on top of that, people still give me that speech. I'm not making this about religion as a whole... Just venting my situation. :/

asdfljasdklfjaskljfads;lkjadsf;j;lkjasdfljwejwejodsah! <---- Frustration.

That is all for now.

Can't help you much, but just wanted to say my sister had lots of problems, she was ttc and the conceiving bit seemed easy but she couldn't seem to keep the pregnancy, it just kept going wrong early on and no one knew why. They had loads of tests done and IUI aswell which didn't work. She must've had at least 10 miscarriages... but in the end after about 5 years or so she now finally has her little baby girl!! I know it's really hard, but you will get there in the end!!

I was raised chrisitian but tbh I don't really know what to think of it anymore and I don't understand it myself, why things happen. I do tend to think there must be a reason for it, but it just doesn't make any sense!! Anyway, just wanted to give you some hope... hopefully that helped!

 

[Nazz4]

I have always had regular cycles i could practically set my clock 2 them but the last couple months they have been weird like last month it came a day early and only lightly bled for 2 days and now i started spotting 4 days b4 im supposed 2! i am ttc my 3rd child now and its been almost 10 years since my last pregnancy so im really not sure what to think... i have taken 2 tests and they were neg! I have also had other unusual symptoms 2 like iv been getting heartburn every night for the past month and been having nausia on and off! so i guess what im wondering is if anyone else has had similar situations and what u think

Last month I had every symptom in the book, including the heartburn and nausea. I even threw up one morning. I'm not saying that you aren't pregnant, but I am saying that after last month I found that there is absolutely no way of knowing if you are or not until af shows or doesn't. This month I have pretty much no symptoms except the normal ones I get before af. Who knows. Good luck to you!