Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[jojo82413]

Mizzthibs & Jojo



I know it's tough especially when your sure you could be preggo and then it works out it's not

I've worked out in the last 10 months that in the 2ww your body tricks you into thinking it could be this month and it's just changes from the hormone rise and falls!!

I'm nauseous most months around o, sometimes I can't eat, smells make me want to vom. Also 2 cycles ago AF was 5 days late for the first time in years.

I've read your body thinks you are pregnant until AF turns up, as it acts the same either way (not sure if it's true or not tho).

This month I've had AF type aches for the last 2 days and I think I'm about 4/5 dpo this is probably just my body tricking me

I'm going to expect AF in 10 days, if she doesn't show I'll test xx

Hi Phoenix! Thanks for your reply Maybe it's dumb to say, but I truly didn't think TTC would be this stressful! It doesn't help that my mom & my 3 older sisters all had such an easy time with it! The weird thing is, this month was the first month I did the temping & never saw a spike, so out of all the months we've been trying, this was the first one that I had absolutely no expectation of getting preggo! I'm not really feeling any symptoms. I haven't felt nauseous, no sensitivity to smells or anything like that. the only thing that made me even think i could be preggo is the late AF.

I've also heard about how our bodies can trick us into thinking we're preggo, but I always assumed that was if you actually think you are. I was the complete opposite this month. After CD22 with no temp spike, I just kept thinking to myself, alright AF, just hurry up & get here so I can try again next month! I honestly wasn't expecting anything to happen this month because i truly don't believe that I ovulated, so I think that what I'm most upset about now is just that for the first time in almost a year, i will have an irregular cycle. it's been so normal up until now. oh well. just gotta try to keep my head up!!

Good luck to you too!!!

 

[Phoenix82]

Jojo

Don't be silly, I'm with you, I didn't know it would be this tough!!
Loads of people just fall preggo without even trying my sister has 4 kids all by accident!!!
Until ttc I didn't know you only have 20% chance is getting preggo each month if you time everything perfectly. How is everyone accidentally getting there then???

Maybe your cycle will just be late like mine was?? I've seen a few girls have the same issue out of the blue. Mine was 5 days late then my cycle seems to have gone back to 28 days maybe if you have have a non o month you have a late AF?

Big hugs, AF will come and if she doesn't you might be all good.
Some days it's easy to get saddened by it all, this month I'm ok ish but last month wow nutter was not the word xxx

 

[jojo82413]

i didn't know about the 20% chance either until i started reading up on TTC last June! It's nuts & it's completely unfair. 2 out of my 3 sisters had babies that were not planned. and funny story, i was not planned!! my parents only planned on having 3 children, but there i was, the 4th daughter. haha.

well, i'll just keep patiently (or not so patiently) waiting for AF so i can try again next month!

it's funny you should mention how upset you were last month. same exact thing happened to me. AF came on super bowl sunday & i cried in bed for hours!! my husband didn't know what to do or say. the only other time i had that type of reaction was the first month we TTC. i guess i just magically thought it would happen on month 1. hahaha boy was i wrong!! i know it will happen when the time is right, i'm just so impatient!!

how is everything going for you??

 

[Phoenix82]

How are so many people preggo with only 20%????

Lol - I'm sooo the same my poor oh!!! I'm not patient at all, although I've waited ages for him to be ready and we've been together for. 7 yrs so I can't be that impatient.

My oh was gutted last month which was a comfort that it's not just me!!!

I'm ok - I have the oddest pains over the last 2 days, AF cramps and tonight a bit of a backache!!! I'm sure my body is messing with me - god I hope I haven't got a urine infection with all this bding arghhhh (see a- nutter tendencies lol)

 

[jojo82413]

I have no idea how it comes so easily to some people with a percentage rate like that!!

my DH seems to be like yours! we've been together for 5 years, and have been married since Aug 2013. after we got married, he told me he wanted to wait a year before we even started trying. I couldn't believe it! I said to him, you know it could take a year to get preggo once we start trying plus 9 months for me to grow the baby?? if we wait a year to try, it could be almost 3 years before we actually have a baby!! he finally came around after that.

I've had some AF type cramps over the past few days, mainly on my left side. I usually only get cramps a couple hours before AF comes. That's usually how I know she's coming!! so I've been getting these cramps & I think, ok, she'll be her in the next hour or so, but nothing...no spotting or anything! it's the weirdest thing. I've had some lower back pain too, but I randomly get back pain every once & a while, so I didn't attribute that to anything but sleeping funny.

I really hope you don't have an infection...those things are the absolute worst!!! drink some cranberry juice & hopefully you will be okay!

well, keep me posted on what happens over the next few days. I definitely have my fingers crossed for you!!!!

 

[Phoenix82]

I have no idea how it comes so easily to some people with a percentage rate like that!!

my DH seems to be like yours! we've been together for 5 years, and have been married since Aug 2013. after we got married, he told me he wanted to wait a year before we even started trying. I couldn't believe it! I said to him, you know it could take a year to get preggo once we start trying plus 9 months for me to grow the baby?? if we wait a year to try, it could be almost 3 years before we actually have a baby!! he finally came around after that.

I've had some AF type cramps over the past few days, mainly on my left side. I usually only get cramps a couple hours before AF comes. That's usually how I know she's coming!! so I've been getting these cramps & I think, ok, she'll be her in the next hour or so, but nothing...no spotting or anything! it's the weirdest thing. I've had some lower back pain too, but I randomly get back pain every once & a while, so I didn't attribute that to anything but sleeping funny.

I really hope you don't have an infection...those things are the absolute worst!!! drink some cranberry juice & hopefully you will be okay!

well, keep me posted on what happens over the next few days. I definitely have my fingers crossed for you!!!!

Jo

I know, right??
My oh finally came round and then his Mum got sick so everything went on hold while we realty with her illness and then she passed away.
We started in June 13 after all of that and now it's not happening!!!!!

Big hugs and fingers crossed it's your month.
I have a week to wait yet but my tummy still aches so I hope I don't have an infection. I'm just guessing as obvs you have to retain the swimmers which could cause a problem xxx

 

[jojo82413]

oh wow. i am so sorry to hear about your oh's mom. that's terrible! well hopefully it'll happen soon. perhaps it didn't happen the first few months because of the stress of everything that happened.

well, hopefully this week will go by quickly for you! i hate waiting! and hopefully no infection! i don't know for sure, but i'm thinking it could probably cause a problem for the little swimmers.

i don't think this is my month. i just came back from the bathroom & there was some spotting, so i think AF will probably be here today or tomorrow makes me sad. if she comes tomorrow, that will mean i had a 34 day cycle. i know that's not terrible, but when i'm used to being anywhere from 28-31 days at the most, 34 days is really weird. ugh!!! this is such a frustrating thing!!! it's supposed to be fun! oh well. i guess we just have to keep trucking until we finally get our BFP's!!!

 

[Phoenix82]

Thank you hun, it's hard but sadly it's life. My Dad passed away 6 years ago
The main thing is we put things on hold for the right reasons and now we are just waiting!

Well I'm guessing we are at risk of infection when ttc as you don't pee straight after coz you want to keep the swimmers in there. Hopefully it's BFP not big fat infection or other rubbish poorly things.

Let me know how you get on with the spotting.
One thing to remember is that you may have had one longer cycle this month and go right back to your normal cycle.?? I had a 5 day late AF one of the last few months then back to normal.

We will get there - keep me posted xxx

 

[piglet24]

Hi Kellze, sorry about your conflicting sched with your hubby. Hope you will find the perfect time to do the "dance" before he leaves.

hello all,

I have been away from this thread for over a year already. I guess. I have been active in feeling down about my situation. it is just so darn difficult to conceive. Why is it that some people who doesn't want to get pregnant ends up being one? I try to be positive about the whole thing, but there are some nights that I think about my age and I start to panic. What if I will hit that age mark that it will be more difficult to conceive? How to cope? By the way, after a few OB jumping, I have finally found one who actually knew what is wrong with me. Since, I have PCOS the reason that I was not ovulating was because my insulin was pretty pretty high. I am on Metformin for almost 4 months now. I started on December 2013 at 1500 mg. By February I finally have my period after a 3 month hiatus. I haven't had my period yet for March. I don't know anymore what I will be praying for my AF not to come or for it come. I am tired of all the BFNs.

 

[Tink_]

(((Hugs Piglet)))

I, too, am feeling very similar in regards to questioning why for those who don't want to get pregnant fall pregnant quickly and others try so very hard, dedicating so much time to it. It is heartbreaking and I've been feeling very down lately, and it sounds like you have been on a much longer journey than me so it must be awful. Thinking of you

 

[AliciaX]

Hello everyone, I am new to this but I just really needed to get things of my chest!! You know how it feels when everything gets too much! My partner's brother's gf just found out she is pregnant when we have been trying the past I lost count how many months. I cant even say I am happy for them, that's the way I feel right now! But no I am happy for them. We have not exactly been trying. W

 

[AliciaX]

Hello everyone, I am new to this but I just really needed to get things of my chest!! You know how it feels when everything gets too much! My partner's brother's gf just found out she is pregnant when we have been trying the past I lost count how many months. I cant even say I am happy for them, that's the way I feel right now! But no I am happy for them. We have not exactly been trying. W

Ooops sent it by accident...

I started a new thread now anyway. Sorry I am new to the forum and feeling a little stupid today

 

[Phoenix82]

Piglet I'm with you bfn are sooo saddening

Just want a BFP for a change

 

[LaurenVNYC]

My husband and I have been trying for 9 months now. We went through the whole process of testing with the fertility center. I had an HSG showing nothing. The only issue they came across was that I had a low hormone. I started on letrezole this month, showed two large follicles, which was exciting. I had my first positive OPK this month as well. My frustration is that even though we had sex a day before the positive and the day of I don't have many symptoms that other women had for being pregnant. My only symptom is bloating and cramping. I think the bloating could be from the medication and cramping maybe because I'm having a early period?
This whole process is very difficult! I'm young active and healthy so it's very upsetting. Not to mention everyone has their own opinions. My favorite is "just do it and it will happen" well no crap! Hello !

Anyone on here feel this way? Anyone use letrezole ?

Thank you !

 

[LaurenVNYC]

Hello everyone, I am new to this but I just really needed to get things of my chest!! You know how it feels when everything gets too much! My partner's brother's gf just found out she is pregnant when we have been trying the past I lost count how many months. I cant even say I am happy for them, that's the way I feel right now! But no I am happy for them. We have not exactly been trying. W

I know how you feel. It was very difficult for me to go to my husbands best friends wife baby shower. I definitely struggled being there. At one I did have tears and went to the restroom.

I know this is going to sound cliché but if your spiritual pray on it

 

[lrenee]

My mother in law is the same way!! I hate her she is constantly butting in!! Just keep your head up and ignore her

 

[littlegirl87]

What do you do when you have been TTC for 11 months and AGAIN af arrives as expected....everything test wise appears to be good it's just not happening and the disappointment is OVERWHELMING....any suggestions on how to make yourself feel better and want to keep trying?! I could SOOOOOO use a few

 

[Phoenix82]

Littlegirl87 I'm with you hun.

It's soooo hard picking yourself up every month but we do it because all of this heartbreak and pain will be worth it when we hold our babies in our arms, that I truly believe. We will appreciate our blessings more then people who just accidentally get pregnant.

Each month I'm devastated when AF shows, now I kind of expect we won't get pregnant. But if the tests appear ok at the mo you just have to believe it will happen. I'm being referred to the fertility clinic now to have my tubes checked and everything else more thoroughly checked.

I don't want them to find anything but I really want to understand why it's not happening!!! Are you looking to get referred?

I got a fertility monitor this month as I've read they have a 40% success rate, as you know when you are ovulating so it's worth a shot as OPK don't seem to work for me.

Give yourself a treat if AF does show like a massage,facial,nails etc something to look forward to if she does show then you'll be back onto ttc before you know it. Xxx

 

[littlegirl87]

Littlegirl87 I'm with you hun.

It's soooo hard picking yourself up every month but we do it because all of this heartbreak and pain will be worth it when we hold our babies in our arms, that I truly believe. We will appreciate our blessings more then people who just accidentally get pregnant.

Each month I'm devastated when AF shows, now I kind of expect we won't get pregnant. But if the tests appear ok at the mo you just have to believe it will happen. I'm being referred to the fertility clinic now to have my tubes checked and everything else more thoroughly checked.

I don't want them to find anything but I really want to understand why it's not happening!!! Are you looking to get referred?

I got a fertility monitor this month as I've read they have a 40% success rate, as you know when you are ovulating so it's worth a shot as OPK don't seem to work for me.

Give yourself a treat if AF does show like a massage,facial,nails etc something to look forward to if she does show then you'll be back onto ttc before you know it. Xxx

OPK's seem to work for me most of the time, but im all over the place as far as my cycle goes so sometimes waiting is REALLY long and sometimes not.

I'm trying to exercise to keep it as normal as possible as that is what I have heard works best when all else fails. I just get tired of feeling like a train wreck for about 3 weeks each month, but hey life wouldn't be as interesting without it!

I happen to be a pediatric nurse so I enjoy children SO much and so badly want one of my own, and you are right I KNOW I will TOTALLY appreciate it times a MILLION when I finally get to hold my own!!

I hope your testing goes well and I hope you get some answers as I know sometimes just knowing more helps!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that all is well and maybe we will both get our BFP's in the SUPER near future!

 

[Phoenix82]

OPK's seem to work for me most of the time, but im all over the place as far as my cycle goes so sometimes waiting is REALLY long and sometimes not.

I'm trying to exercise to keep it as normal as possible as that is what I have heard works best when all else fails. I just get tired of feeling like a train wreck for about 3 weeks each month, but hey life wouldn't be as interesting without it!

I happen to be a pediatric nurse so I enjoy children SO much and so badly want one of my own, and you are right I KNOW I will TOTALLY appreciate it times a MILLION when I finally get to hold my own!!

I hope your testing goes well and I hope you get some answers as I know sometimes just knowing more helps!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that all is well and maybe we will both get our BFP's in the SUPER near future![/QUOTE]

Oh no!! That's not good, my cycles are roughly 28 days so I'm usually ok to predict it.

I've just started exercising again (I'm a bit of a fitness freak normally) but not sure how much us safe. Ive gone for 3 days of hardcore Zumba while on AF and now I'm ttc again I'll probably do less intense workouts.

It's horrible waiting and bding Ll the time to catch it then find out it's a bfn.

Wow what a job!!!

Thank you for your thoughts, I'm sure the results will be fine as I gave had an ultrasound already but we shall see.

Good luck with hour BFP too - what cd are you?
I'm cd11 xxx