Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[tuesdaysbaby]

It does not feel fair that I have to serve a customer in work who has 8 kids, 2 of which are in care, and treats the remaining 6 like they're an inconvenience to her when I lost my first pregnancy two weeks ago...

Oh hun.

No that's not fair I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling x

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Annoyed that we've been trying for nearly 2 years

Annoyed that my hairdresser had the courage to say "your mum told me you lost your baby... Oh, don't worry, you will get pregnant soon again!"

Annoyed that my gynaecologist told me I was about to ovulate, I went home and had sex, and AF showed up again anyway.

Annoyed that everybody at work keeps on getting pregnant.

Annoyed that I feel like if anybody tells me right now they are pregnant, I may burst into tears.

Annoyed that I caught my SIL looking at me with pity during Christmas whilst I struggled to keep my tears from coming out whilst her 20-month old was being cute...

Annoyed that I went to visit my friend with her 3-month old baby and she went on a rant about how she can't cope. I know she is not having a good time right now, but, I am not the best person for her to vent with.

Above all, annoyed that AF showed up again. And that I don't know whether I will ever be able to have a baby

Wow. I cannot believe she said this to you! People are incredibly insensitive and she clearly has no filter. I would have been incredibly upset at this comment. xx

 

[lady124]

Annoyed that we've been trying for nearly 2 years

Annoyed that my hairdresser had the courage to say "your mum told me you lost your baby... Oh, don't worry, you will get pregnant soon again!"

Annoyed that my gynaecologist told me I was about to ovulate, I went home and had sex, and AF showed up again anyway.

Annoyed that everybody at work keeps on getting pregnant.

Annoyed that I feel like if anybody tells me right now they are pregnant, I may burst into tears.

Annoyed that I caught my SIL looking at me with pity during Christmas whilst I struggled to keep my tears from coming out whilst her 20-month old was being cute...

Annoyed that I went to visit my friend with her 3-month old baby and she went on a rant about how she can't cope. I know she is not having a good time right now, but, I am not the best person for her to vent with.

Above all, annoyed that AF showed up again. And that I don't know whether I will ever be able to have a baby

Wow. I cannot believe she said this to you! People are incredibly insensitive and she clearly has no filter. I would have been incredibly upset at this comment. xx

Believe me, I was annoyed. I really really don't know what goes through people's heads when they say things like that... They seem to enjoy rubbing salt in the wound... Anyway...

 

[Scari]

hey everyone this is my first time a little new at this.

but ttc for about a few months now. Got my hopes up this month no period but negative when i took a test

my last period was jan 14th and

my periods are never off and i was suppose to get it feb 14th
well on FEB 2 (sunday) i had spotting then it disappeared by thursday. it was really light jus when i wiped. my friend told me it could be IB which i know nothing about. the doctor said to still look for my period when i had a pap done that following monday that it could of been IB. now its feb 19th and stilll no period and still a neg test.
never had that happen to me

could i be pregnant

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

hey everyone this is my first time a little new at this.

but ttc for about a few months now. Got my hopes up this month no period but negative when i took a test

my last period was jan 14th and

my periods are never off and i was suppose to get it feb 14th
well on FEB 2 (sunday) i had spotting then it disappeared by thursday. it was really light jus when i wiped. my friend told me it could be IB which i know nothing about. the doctor said to still look for my period when i had a pap done that following monday that it could of been IB. now its feb 19th and stilll no period and still a neg test.
never had that happen to me

could i be pregnant

Hey hun, I'm not sure of the answer to your question but you might want to post it over in TTC - this is the vent thread and you might not get the answer you need, you'll just see me complaining about not being pregnant and various other gripes about life!

Hope you get the answer you want

 

[scorpiomama]

I am so emotionally tired.

I just wish my body would work they way it's supposed to. I wish I would ovulate regularly or actually just ovulate. I wish I had regular cycles. I wish I didn't get sad when someone announces their pregnancy, I wish I could just be happy for everyone. I wish I could hold a baby without feeling empty.

I just wish something would work out TTC wise. I wish my body would work itself out. I feel like a failure as a woman.

 

[Hopefull83]

hello All

New to this... i guess i am just looking for advice on how others are coping with the stress of TTC, its been hard ... My husband has been very supportive, but i am not understanding why things are clicking where they are suppose to be, ovulation is on key, sonohystography showed no complications. Trying to cope with all this is hard because i am not sure where to start, and the irony in all this is being stressed about ttc is puts more stress on your body

 

[Hopefull83]

PS : missed out on a few words, i guess no matter how much you proof read you still miss something lol it was supppose to say * i am not understanding why things are not clicking*

 

[Pippy83]

PS : missed out on a few words, i guess no matter how much you proof read you still miss something lol it was supppose to say * i am not understanding why things are not clicking*

We knew what you meant. and I totally understand. It's so hard to constantly remind yourself that none of this is in your hands. My body totally faked me out this month. I ALWAYS spot five days before and I didn't, so I thought, Yes, this is it. NOPE. AF showed up with no spotting for the first time ever. So it almost feels like your own body is playing mean tricks on you. Hang in there and remember you are not the only one going through this!!! You're really not.

 

[selmaa]

Baby dust to you doll! GL!

 

[selmaa]

Hold on to hope ladies, I can totally sympathize with you. I have a friend in who is only 22 and has 3 kids my 3 different guys and one who actually hooked up a year ago and he was 16 years old.....okay so a girl who had multiple abortions and is quick to open her legs for any guys can have kids like its nothing, but a girl who is stable and is dying to be a mother, even to 1 child, who is loving and caring and settled can't? of FRIGGIN unfair! ARGGHHH!

 

[Phoenix82]

Ashntony

:hugs;

It's rubbish when everyone is getting preggo when we aren't.
Your mother in law sounds mean!!!

She's probably afraid of losing her son especially when you have a baby, silly really.
Keep her out if it so she can't rain on your parade and stress you out.

My frustration (I have3) neg OPK even tho nothing wrong, bfn, pregnant women everywhere!! (I'm pleased for them but want it to be me, especially as they all seem to say it just happened)!!!!

 

[clucas1988]

Well I think my biggest stress is with ttc is my mother in law.... She is constantly telling my husband all sorts of negative things about me. Of course he will say something about it to me. Well I put a status up about how I make my own decision s and if anyone had a problem with it to come to me. Well shes telling us we do not need a baby and how we need to hold off... she is constantly bringing in negativity into something that is supposed to be joyful... most of my stress comes from her... how can i solve this issue?

mine said the same thing, after her daughter had a baby.
she was totally up for us having a baby when we got engaged tho..
dont worry what people say , who cares! do what makes you happy!

 

[addisontaylor]

We've been ttc our first for almost a year now and it just isn't fair. I am spiraling into a depression. I don't like going out anymore because seeing other people with their little kids depress me. And when people are asking when we're gonna have kids, its not like we're not trying but you don't wanna say you are because then they look at you like something is wrong.
All my friends either have little ones or are pregnant, its just unfair.
We are both finally deciding to get fertility tests done. I don't know what to hope for. If something is wrong, then we know and can do something about it but I don't want anything to be wrong because then it means we're just that unlucky. Argh!
Its probably all this stress that we're putting on ourselves!

 

[Phoenix82]

We've been ttc our first for almost a year now and it just isn't fair. I am spiraling into a depression. I don't like going out anymore because seeing other people with their little kids depress me. And when people are asking when we're gonna have kids, its not like we're not trying but you don't wanna say you are because then they look at you like something is wrong.
All my friends either have little ones or are pregnant, its just unfair.
We are both finally deciding to get fertility tests done. I don't know what to hope for. If something is wrong, then we know and can do something about it but I don't want anything to be wrong because then it means we're just that unlucky. Argh!
Its probably all this stress that we're putting on ourselves!

Hey Addisontaylor - I know it's tough hun but try and stay positive. I'm with you 10 months it feels like it's taking ages and in my case there is nothing wrong which is great but also sooo annoying as a lot of people who don't get preggo straight away have no root cause for it!! It seems insane to me.

I'm sure you'll be all good. Do you know what to expect from the tests? Xx

 

[Abii]

My dh and I are coming up on 9 months of ttc for #2.
Our dd was planned but she took a little over a year to conceive(we were ntnp).
So I am pretty new to the actual ttc game but we have been trying really hard and it seems like the harder we try the more frustrated and depressed I become when we fail. We have literally tried everything we could besides going to a fertility doctor(we have to be ttc at least a year before they will see us since we have a child) and Im just loosing hope and faith now. I just want to be pregnant dang it pointless rant just wanted to get it off my chest.
Yay for vent threads

 

[SoInLoveWithU]

So after 50 days of not getting af...she finally decided to show up today and with a vengeance at that...horrible cramps that I have to sit down from time to time at work ughhhh!
Abii & Addisontaylor its hard for me after only 2 months I couldn't imagine going 9 or 10 months without anything happen...I wish you guys luck everything happens for a reason maybe its just not our times yet...baby dust to all of you guys!!! ****

 

[Mizzthibs]

Hi all ! I'm new here , I don't really know what I'm expecting out of all this, but you all seem great and sometimes a woman just needs support !! What better place to come right hehe . .

So my hubby and I have been ttc now for over a year, him being 40 and I'm 24 . He used to be prescribed meds for the longest time that actually hurt his semen count, now that we have been ttc he has stopped and been trying everything to get it back to normal and ready to go!! My cycles go anywhere from 29-34 days lately , this month is the first month I stopped testing to see when I O (I'm a little drained from it all) and we only bd once this month and if I go by my app on my phone it was on the day that I would of O . . I thought for sure I was out this month. .

I started feeling really bloated and mild cramps (usually mine are horrible and cauE me to be stuck in bed) and I had headaches and thought oh wow AF is here for sure !! Days wet by and my nipples have been crazy sore and sensitive , even the pressure from my bra is irritating �� . . And I went to a restaurant with the hubby and his father and all the smells of the food just nauseated me and I wanted to run out , I love onions and hot sauce and when they were at the table I nearly had to run to the bathroom . . Sooo weird for me , so I decided to test with first response yesterday day being day 31 and - negative . . I'm so confused seeing as my nipples still kill, I feel bloated , crazy headaches , can't sleep at night , nauseaous waves hit me often , and none of this is like me . . So today being day 32 I promised I wouldn't rest again just to see a BPN �� one second I feel like this could be my lucky month and the very next I'm convinced AF is here an I'm out

 

[jojo82413]

Hi all ! I'm new here , I don't really know what I'm expecting out of all this, but you all seem great and sometimes a woman just needs support !! What better place to come right hehe . .

So my hubby and I have been ttc now for over a year, him being 40 and I'm 24 . He used to be prescribed meds for the longest time that actually hurt his semen count, now that we have been ttc he has stopped and been trying everything to get it back to normal and ready to go!! My cycles go anywhere from 29-34 days lately , this month is the first month I stopped testing to see when I O (I'm a little drained from it all) and we only bd once this month and if I go by my app on my phone it was on the day that I would of O . . I thought for sure I was out this month. .

I started feeling really bloated and mild cramps (usually mine are horrible and cauE me to be stuck in bed) and I had headaches and thought oh wow AF is here for sure !! Days wet by and my nipples have been crazy sore and sensitive , even the pressure from my bra is irritating �� . . And I went to a restaurant with the hubby and his father and all the smells of the food just nauseated me and I wanted to run out , I love onions and hot sauce and when they were at the table I nearly had to run to the bathroom . . Sooo weird for me , so I decided to test with first response yesterday day being day 31 and - negative . . I'm so confused seeing as my nipples still kill, I feel bloated , crazy headaches , can't sleep at night , nauseaous waves hit me often , and none of this is like me . . So today being day 32 I promised I wouldn't rest again just to see a BPN �� one second I feel like this could be my lucky month and the very next I'm convinced AF is here an I'm out

hi there & welcome!! i've only been on this site for a month now, but i'm really starting to like it. it's a great support system!! I feel like you & I have similar stories this month! although, this month me & DH did BD alot (CD 13, 14, 15, 16, 17 & 19) i'm currently on CD33. My longest cycle since I started tracking them back in June was 31 days. I want to be excited, however I took a HPT on CD 31 in the late afternoon (got a little overzealous), and got a BFN. I took it because out of all 8 months I had tracked so far, only one other cycle was 31 days. So I thought I would try because I just couldn't help myself!! I was getting too excited & I figured, I had only bought it at the dollar store & I had 2 other ones. What was the harm?! BFN. then the next morning, I woke up with no AF yet again & thought, well, i'm officially late, so maybe CD31 was too soon. I also thought, maybe if I use first morning pee like it recommends, maybe it will detect it. So yesterday, CD32, first thing in the morning, I took my second dollar store HPT - still BFN!! But here I am, CD33, no AF, but I refuse to take another HPT for another couple of days since I just had 2 days in a row of BFN!! I haven't really been feeling any symptoms of pregnancy, but I haven't really felt any AF symptoms either. The only thing is that for the past 4-5 days, I've had minor cramping on my lower left side, similar to menstrual cramps, but not as bad. Also, when I get menstrual cramps, it's usually on both sides. Also, I usually have some spotting 1-2 days before AF - no spotting whatsoever. I'm actually afraid i'll see spotting every time I use the bathroom!! The weird thing is, I tried temping this month for the first time - never saw a spike, but when I saw my gyn 2 weeks ago & i expressed my concerns w/ that, she said she's almost positive that I am ovulating b/c my cycles are way too normal to not be. So, in one way, I feel like maybe the temping thing was user error, but in another way, I feel like it's just wishful thinking! i feel like i'm going nuts over here!! haha. i have my fingers crossed for us that it's our month

 

[Phoenix82]

Mizzthibs & Jojo



I know it's tough especially when your sure you could be preggo and then it works out it's not

I've worked out in the last 10 months that in the 2ww your body tricks you into thinking it could be this month and it's just changes from the hormone rise and falls!!

I'm nauseous most months around o, sometimes I can't eat, smells make me want to vom. Also 2 cycles ago AF was 5 days late for the first time in years.

I've read your body thinks you are pregnant until AF turns up, as it acts the same either way (not sure if it's true or not tho).

This month I've had AF type aches for the last 2 days and I think I'm about 4/5 dpo this is probably just my body tricking me

I'm going to expect AF in 10 days, if she doesn't show I'll test xx