Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[babymoma89]

I hear you on that baby making is some seriously hard work!

 

[babymoma89]

so I am totally confused!!

Just missed period #2 took a test and still neg doc wont see me again till next monday and i have never been more than 2 days late for a period and now ive missed my second one!!! I didnt show positive till i was almost 10 weeks preggo with my daughter. Doc did ultra sound couple weeks back but couldnt find anything said maybe i conceived later than usually and maybe it was to early to tell? Also mentioned that I had alot of follicles in my ovary. What is that supposed to mean? Hubby and I have been trying for about 7 months now for baby # 2.Has anyone had this happen to them before?

 

[Firefly Skies]

I'm so frustrated with my body right now. So, so frustrated. I had another 40+ day cycle, and I can't tell if it's CD49 or CD3 right now! I had basically a day and a half of very muddy-colored CM, and it was just starting to get to the point where I was comfortable with dubbing it AF, when it up and disappeared on me.

I took a break from temping and testing this month because I was so exhausted from throwing everything I had at the cycle before it, and having a particularly emotional cycle the one before that. So I don't know when I ovulated, if I even did. So I might have had an anovulatory cycle.

I just wish my body could do what it was supposed to do. I feel like I would be more okay with TTC if I knew I wasn't fighting an uphill battle, and it was just a case of bad luck instead of my reproductive system just not working at all. But then, I guess having mysterious infertility would be much more frustrating...

 

[babymoma89]

Im in the same boat firefly except no spotting at all

 

[Phoenix82]

Don't worry!!! It could be a good sign, I had the same before a very faint positive and now I'm 7 weeks plus 3 days preggo

Fingers crossed for you xxx

 

[babymoma89]

Congrats Pheonix!

 

[Firefly Skies]

Don't worry!!! It could be a good sign, I had the same before a very faint positive and now I'm 7 weeks plus 3 days preggo

Fingers crossed for you xxx

Thank you, and congratulations!!

I'm still holding out for a positive. I think I'm going to wait until next week to test if a more definitive period doesn't show.

 

[Phoenix82]

Don't worry!!! It could be a good sign, I had the same before a very faint positive and now I'm 7 weeks plus 3 days preggo

Fingers crossed for you xxx

Thank you, and congratulations!!

I'm still holding out for a positive. I think I'm going to wait until next week to test if a more definitive period doesn't show.

Thanks hun

Fingers crossed and baby dust to you
Let me know how you get on xxx

 

[Firefly Skies]

So I tested with my one last test. Ahh. I didn't have my hopes up very much anyways. Of course I'm always hopeful but I expected to see it.

Very much a TTC vent: my metformin is kicking my butt. I started it back in April/May, but lost track of taking it easily (I'm *awful* at remembering things like that, I was the same way with birth control). I stopped for about a month because I'm sure I wasn't getting the full benefit by not taking it regularly, and then when I was ready to get started again I was in the TWW and didn't want to confuse side effects for possible pregnancy symptoms again.

So I recently made a resolution to get back on it and stay on top of it. Got a phone app that reminds me to take it 2x a day, and lets me record when I've taken it. But now I've gone from being awesome and productive, to running to the bathroom all morning and feeling tired all the time. Frustrating! But hopefully once I get used to it, it'll improve.

 

[catcodieleigh]

I have been trying to conceive for about 2years now and I've been to the doctors and they said everything is fine, but atm I'm in agony I have pains going through my lower abdomen and around my back and I have taken a few test lately and they say negative don't know what to do, I'm scared even though it's what me and my fiance want. I'm 21 and he's 24 it'll be our first and we are both looking forward to become parents but I just don't know what's going on, can anyone help me out please? x

 

[Phoenix82]

I have been trying to conceive for about 2years now and I've been to the doctors and they said everything is fine, but atm I'm in agony I have pains going through my lower abdomen and around my back and I have taken a few test lately and they say negative don't know what to do, I'm scared even though it's what me and my fiance want. I'm 21 and he's 24 it'll be our first and we are both looking forward to become parents but I just don't know what's going on, can anyone help me out please? x

Hey Catcodieleigh

it's great news you are all good fertility wise, has your oh had a sperm analysis?
Do you monitor ovulation, temp or anything?
I know this sounds dumb but how much are you bding?

I'm only asking these things to get a better picture of what's going on for you.
I'm assuming you have been referred to the fertility clinic (usually in England you are at 12 months then get offered IVF on the nhs at the 2 year mark) I'm not for a second saying you need that just FYI xxx

 

[LouOscar01]

My sister has come in from a night out and has more symptoms of pregnancy from her hangover than I have!! Making me very irritated!

 

[melewen]

Hi everyone! This is my first B&B post and my first pregnancy-related forum post, too! I've been trolling what seems like hundreds of TTC threads ever since DH & I started TTC last month. Last month I had the weirdest list of symptoms, from an unexpected wave of cramps and dizziness right around when implantation would have been, to frequent twinges in my ovulating ovary and uterus in general. I was so so so convinced I was pregnant that when I took a HPT and got a BFN, I was like, "Whatever! It's just too early! I'm DEFINITELY pregnant". AF is usually never, ever late so when I missed her by two days, I even called my OB/GYN's nurse and asked what was up. She told me to wait til 31 CD and bam, got AF overnight. I was so disappointed I started crying in bed that moment.

Now we're on my month #2 and DH is "convinced"--I think he thinks he just did a damn good job on one of our BDs--but I was using the Ovia fertility app.... which very incorrectly predicted my ovulation! This is my first month charting and I had had a small temp dip so I figured Ovia was right.. wrong! Fertility Friend moved my O date and by that point we had stopped BDing, so we only BD'd the first two of the four "green" fertile days from FF. This month I've gone from overly sensitive to symptoms to overly skeptical. Cramps around implantation day? MUST BE [insert pregnancy-unrelated symptom]! Cravings? MUST BE AF!

I took a digital HPT (Clearblue, 9 DPO) yesterday and got a BFN... and then pried it apart (once I realized one could DO such a thing) with my bare hands like a deranged woman. Saw a tiny faint line, knowing full well that there's always two lines in those things.. or there were or.. whatever.. but go so excited at the idea of seeing A line. I took an OPK (out of HPT) this morning and didn't get a positive, but not really sure how that works anyway... and went out a little later and grabbed from First Response Early's. BFN. I told myself this go-round I would wait til I was expecting AF, but I'm like a POAS-addict here! I've been so bummed all day and have been feeling cramps.. looks like AF is approaching. Bah! So frustrating. And if I talk to friends/family about it, they swoop right in to remind me I'm obsessing, it'll-happen-when-it-happens, etc. I know they mean well, but I already feel this weird sense of failure, like I should've made a dang baby already! Lol.

A complicated ride, eh?

Anyway, thanks for this thread. It's great to vent!

 

[melewen]

My sister has come in from a night out and has more symptoms of pregnancy from her hangover than I have!! Making me very irritated!

Ugh, how frustrating! I hate to admit when I see teen moms and things like that I literally think "Oh, of course, you didn't even WANT to conceive".. which is crazy because I used to be the same way! Sans teen pregnancy that is..

 

[Wcpp]

Hi everyone,

Just here to vent. I have always wanted to have a baby. For as long as I can remember. I just want to be a mom but I'm 38 going to be 39 soon, over weight and have been trying for at least 1 1/2 year and nothing. I had my fsh levels tested and it was a 6.

At what point should I just give us and accept that I am not meant to be a mother?

 

[melewen]

Hi everyone,

Just here to vent. I have always wanted to have a baby. For as long as I can remember. I just want to be a mom but I'm 38 going to be 39 soon, over weight and have been trying for at least 1 1/2 year and nothing. I had my fsh levels tested and it was a 6.

At what point should I just give us and accept that I am not meant to be a mother?

I'm sorry for your troubles! Have you been to a fertility specialist to see if it might be something you can pinpoint? I know you said you've had your levels tested..

 

[Frekls]

This is my first time posting on anything like this also...not really sure where to start. My DH and I have been trying for #2 for 8 mos now...more specifically NTNP for 6...and since nothing became of that, we started full time TTC 2 months ago. My AF is so irregular that basically everything having to do with my fertility is a guessing game. DD is 3, so we have decided it is time for a sibling, but life isn't really letting that happen. It took about 8 mos of NTNP to conceive DD. I know I haven't been trying for as long as a lot of ladies out there, but it still hurts just as much seeing that BFN.

 

[Starlight34]

I have a friend who wasn't really trying, just threw away her birth control, and her and her hubby just carried on like normal. Pregnant right away. I'm happy for her, but seeing that BFN for another month is discouraging.

 

[havingmyfirst]

I dont normally get so ... annoyed as to want to post about it but. We really tried this month - I started thinking there were symptoms that there obviously werent because on BFN test and a day late AF came.

AF still visiting - and I'm finding hard to perk up and think we might be lucky in September.

My day involved going on a playdate with my DS (age 2) only to find another boy had been invited and his mummy came with her gorgeous 11 week old baby - which of course I loved cuddling for half and hour - but left me feeling sad that our DS hasn't got a sibling.

I have seen pregnant women EVERYWHERE today.... and at the park this afternoon everyone had at least 2 children.

I am venting and I know its partly the disappointment of the BFN and still having AF.

I also know I am lucky to have one DS.

 

[Minnie00]

Hi everyone,

So I was on birth control pills for 7 1/2 years and went off of them in June. I got my withdrawal bleeding on time but nothing since. It is now CD82 and I had 6 days of spotting after starting on some acupuncture but nothing since. I ordered Fertilitea and it is on its way. My gyno wants to wait until 6 months of no AF before checkung me out. My DH and I are TTC and I am tracking my ovulation but nothing yet so that makes it a little hard. Anyone have a similar experience or advice???