Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Bree_Morey]

I just got another negative trying to stay positive

 

[Chrisrine]

I'm so sorry to hear that Bree. I just started today after being 4 days late so I'm also very disappointed right now too.

I'd have to say whats the worst is just the waiting. From the day of ovulation to the day I'm supposed to start my period and if its late then the waiting gets really bad. I always wait until I'm at least a week late to take a test because I can't stand the feeling of being let down like that every month. This month I was 4 days late and I wasn't really showing any of my typical "going to start" signs so last night I actually let myself get my hopes up only to be crushed again. I'm already just so tired of it.

 

[MillieTTC868]

Hello everyone new to this thread been a member to this site for quite some time. After Reading the previous posts tears just started to come down my eyes I feel each and every one of you all pain. I've been ttc for a year and some and at the moment when I think I am a big disappointment when AF shows. I'm tired of going to my doctor and getting the results I wanted I suffered from pcos back in june 2010 I believe I felt like it was going to be a tough journey in getting pregnant and I was right never thought it would take this long for me ..im 11dpo today feeling very depressed cause im getting all the usual signs except for tingly nipples which always occurs during ovulation straight to when af arrived. I also started using this tea called Fertilitea it suppose to help with pre conception has anyone ever took this. But idk I keep thinking m body is broken and pray to God its not. My mother had a dream I told her I was pregnant im so wishing it comes true. everybody else is having babies m best friend is pregnant with her 9th but it will be her first born and sometimes she seems so ungrateful ..UUgh.. I appreciate the opportunity to vent and not get judge

 

[ld276]

I am just so frustrated - I look at forums like these all the time to find answers and I just feel like telling my story...

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about a year and a half... we have both had tests and no problems have been found so my dr put me on clomid 50mg cd2-6.

I was told to start ovulation testing on cd12 – it’s now cd20 and no sign of ovulation! I am still hoping for things to work out and my mind is all over the place - Is it possible I ovulated earlier? Is it possible I’ll still ovulate later in my cycle? Or that the tests just didn’t pick it up??
I’m just so confused and frustrated because I’ve ovulated naturally on previous months that I’ve used ovulation tests... I just don't understand how I didn't ovulate using clomid!

I was hopeful this month starting clomid... now I am just feeling defeated again.

 

[Phoenix82]

I am just so frustrated - I look at forums like these all the time to find answers and I just feel like telling my story...

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about a year and a half... we have both had tests and no problems have been found so my dr put me on clomid 50mg cd2-6.

I was told to start ovulation testing on cd12 – it’s now cd20 and no sign of ovulation! I am still hoping for things to work out and my mind is all over the place - Is it possible I ovulated earlier? Is it possible I’ll still ovulate later in my cycle? Or that the tests just didn’t pick it up??
I’m just so confused and frustrated because I’ve ovulated naturally on previous months that I’ve used ovulation tests... I just don't understand how I didn't ovulate using clomid!

I was hopeful this month starting clomid... now I am just feeling defeated again.

Oh hun that's pants!!!
I never got positve OPKs and couldn't work out why, so I got bloods done at the docs which showed I was. I got a fm last cycle and it showed me ovulating cd21!!!!! Then this cycle I got a positive OPK on cd13!! Maybe your cycles up the swaney and you are missing it too.
Some people ovulate early so it is possible.

I know how you feel every month bfn it's rubbish. Xx

 

[ld276]

Thanks Phoenix82... it helps to hear from someone!

 

[Phoenix82]

Thanks Phoenix82... it helps to hear from someone!

 

[littlegirl87]

I am just so frustrated - I look at forums like these all the time to find answers and I just feel like telling my story...

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about a year and a half... we have both had tests and no problems have been found so my dr put me on clomid 50mg cd2-6.

I was told to start ovulation testing on cd12 – it’s now cd20 and no sign of ovulation! I am still hoping for things to work out and my mind is all over the place - Is it possible I ovulated earlier? Is it possible I’ll still ovulate later in my cycle? Or that the tests just didn’t pick it up??
I’m just so confused and frustrated because I’ve ovulated naturally on previous months that I’ve used ovulation tests... I just don't understand how I didn't ovulate using clomid!

I was hopeful this month starting clomid... now I am just feeling defeated again.

EVERY month I FREAK out that I'm not going to ovulate and I am not going to get a positive OPK. You are totally not alone at all

 

[ld276]

12-05-2014
AAhhhhhh!!! I think I'm officially crazy...
On clomid 1st cycle, still using the ovulation tests from cd12 and nothing! cd 23 now... I'm thinking to just give up peeing on sticks everyday as I'm going insane and I can’t be ovulating this late... surely? On my 3rd pack now.
I think I need to make a dr. appointment to get some more advice on whether to increase my dosage or to persevere – sometimes I wonder if there’s any point... It’s just more money out of our pocket and no answers to why this is happening to me!!!
I just don't understand why this isn't working for me :_(
I'm so fed up.. so angry at the world.. so upset with myself - with my body!!!
I just feel like this is never going to happen for me... and I don't know why! Why is it so difficult for me?
If it sounds like I’ve lost it, it’s because I have! I just need to get my feelings out somehow...
I don’t know if I can take another month of disappointment...

 

[Phoenix82]

12-05-2014
AAhhhhhh!!! I think I'm officially crazy...
On clomid 1st cycle, still using the ovulation tests from cd12 and nothing! cd 23 now... I'm thinking to just give up peeing on sticks everyday as I'm going insane and I can’t be ovulating this late... surely? On my 3rd pack now.
I think I need to make a dr. appointment to get some more advice on whether to increase my dosage or to persevere – sometimes I wonder if there’s any point... It’s just more money out of our pocket and no answers to why this is happening to me!!!
I just don't understand why this isn't working for me :_(
I'm so fed up.. so angry at the world.. so upset with myself - with my body!!!
I just feel like this is never going to happen for me... and I don't know why! Why is it so difficult for me?
If it sounds like I’ve lost it, it’s because I have! I just need to get my feelings out somehow...
I don’t know if I can take another month of disappointment...

OMG you are not insane - most of us feel the same for different reasons.

You should persevere, you are only on cycle 1 of Clomid right?

One of the warriors I've met on here tried for years, with mc and heartache but it got here there in the end.

I know it's tough hun, I'm with you - I've been trying a year with no luck, everyone around me falling pregnant and giving birth and I'm still no further forward. My plan is I'm going away next month and we are not trying. I'm sure I'm not preggo this month I'm 11dpo brown spotting since ovulation and a bfn so far. I have a referral when I get home so after this break we will see what happens.

Do you think you should take a month off and go somewhere nice?

I know it won't change how you feel at all but maybe the break will do you good? Trust me I REALLY don't want to stop for a month as it feels like wasted chances but I know I'm obsessed now so I need to switch off for a month xxxx

 

[praying4my1st]

Hi all!
I'm new to baby and bump, not sure if this is the right posting are, but I've been ttc since 2010 sorry to be starting my posting to the forum as a vent...hubby work makes him travel 6 to 7 months each year so I only have half a year to try every year...my af is expected in 3 days (may 30th) and already I had 2 bfn...
I was diagnosed with crohns Dec 2011 so had bowel resection. Clomid 50mgx3 in 2012=bfn, surgery Jun 2013, he has SA with no issues found and i had dye test with no blockage or scar tissue Feb 2014, starting March 2014 clomidx3 (50mg, 100mg, 100mg)...last clomid 100mg was accompanied by Novarel trigger shot when one follicle on each ovary was large enough to be released...and now I'm 8dpo today...
So frustrating bc hubby will be leaving next month....ughhhh...am I stressing my pregnancy away?....

 

[Phoenix82]

Hi all!
I'm new to baby and bump, not sure if this is the right posting are, but I've been ttc since 2010 sorry to be starting my posting to the forum as a vent...hubby work makes him travel 6 to 7 months each year so I only have half a year to try every year...my af is expected in 3 days (may 30th) and already I had 2 bfn...
I was diagnosed with crohns Dec 2011 so had bowel resection. Clomid 50mgx3 in 2012=bfn, surgery Jun 2013, he has SA with no issues found and i had dye test with no blockage or scar tissue Feb 2014, starting March 2014 clomidx3 (50mg, 100mg, 100mg)...last clomid 100mg was accompanied by Novarel trigger shot when one follicle on each ovary was large enough to be released...and now I'm 8dpo today...
So frustrating bc hubby will be leaving next month....ughhhh...am I stressing my pregnancy away?....

Hey Sweetie

You poor thing, what a nightmare!!!! Don't worry about venting, that's what it's here for. So many of us just need to say what's eating us on our ttc journey. It's a whole lot tougher then most of us ever knew until we started ttc. I guess we all just assume it's easy because people just fall pregnant at the drop of a hat!!!

For you it sounds really tough, only having half a year!
Gosh I'm finding it tough after a year with no BFP having to keep stopping must be sooo frustrating.

How are you finding Clomid? I'm hoping to be prescribed it when I see my gynaecologist at the end of June (irregular cycles since coming off bc) xxxx

 

[cravemyheart]

My biggest stresser (well, two actually) is that I just came off bcp in april, and I haven't gotten a real AF yet. I was due yesterday, but it still hasn't showed up. I dont know when it will, or if Ill ovulate any time soon.

The second stresser is I only see DH 2 weeks out of the month. So I have to make sure we ovulate in those two weeks. I think taking b6 delayed my period even more than if I had just come off the bcp itself. I leave friday to see DH for two weeks. I hope I ovulate in those two weeks.

 

[HunnyBunny19]

Im new to this site. I'm newly married. About 6 weeks. I'm 27 and my husband will be 30 in a few months. We do not drink or smoke or have any health issues. This is our 2nd cycle of ttc. Last month no luck. I got so sad and lost hope already.(some ppl get pregnant so easily)I read about robitussin and preseed. So I'm giving those a try. I'm tracking my ovalating using one of those apps lol. Supposed to be ovalating tomorrow. We bdb almost everyday. After I stay on my back for as long as I can then lay on my stomach. But as soon as he does his"stuff" everything leaks out. I bought some softcups. But I'm too nervous to use them(they look so huge) might try those tonight. Can anyone give me any advice.

 

[KayeChay]

Ugh! Ok, I swear everyone around me is getting pregnant! They make it look so easy! DH and I have been trying since sometime last year. One girl fell pregnant and just had her baby (She was 7.5 months and had her baby early) but the doctors think that she was doing drugs while pregnant and her bf sells drugs. WTF?! like seriously?! and this one couple lives with mommy and daddy and they made a baby! One day I asked (because I'm nosy) "Congrats, were you planning on getting pregnant?" She said "Yes" I was thinking in my head: for real?! You and your bf lives with your parents and is working at mcdonalds!!

I know, I know, I shouldn't b*tch but damn it's hard not to get frustrated. One of my dearest friend recently found out she fell pregnant but sadly she MC. She was so excited.

I just don't understand how the people that wants a baby struggles to have one and then some can just have it. I hear stories of mothers killing their children and some stories where the parents don't take care of their babies.


Thanks for reading my rant, now I'm going to sit in a corner and eat oreos

 

[Firefly Skies]

This... is why I don't share that DH and I are TTC. I got my first "LOL WELL STOP TRYING AND YOU'LL GET PREGNANT!!! NO, SERIOUSLY!! DON'T DO ANY OF THAT CHARTING STUFF! SO-AND-SO DID THAT AND IT WORKED FOR HER."

... 'Kay. Well. I've only been doing the chart thing for maybe two months? This is going on cycle #7 now?? Of ACTUAL trying, NOT including the MANY months (years) of NTNP. Yeah, something tells me "just not trying" isn't working.

 

[Phoenix82]

This... is why I don't share that DH and I are TTC. I got my first "LOL WELL STOP TRYING AND YOU'LL GET PREGNANT!!! NO, SERIOUSLY!! DON'T DO ANY OF THAT CHARTING STUFF! SO-AND-SO DID THAT AND IT WORKED FOR HER."

... 'Kay. Well. I've only been doing the chart thing for maybe two months? This is going on cycle #7 now?? Of ACTUAL trying, NOT including the MANY months (years) of NTNP. Yeah, something tells me "just not trying" isn't working.

Oh no!!! People have no idea how hard ttc actually is.
I still don't even get with 20% chance each month how people accidentally get preggo! My sis did 4 times!!!! She keeps saying I wish I could help and I feel bad that I could and you can't - it doesn't help me as much as she tries.

She offered me her eggs if I needed them - I did think jeez I've only been ttc a year with irregular cycles so don't actually know how many months we've bd at the right time!!!

Shut them out and keep doing what your doing. I strongly believe it will happen just when it's good and ready. It's just natures way of making us more thankful when we've had to wait lol xxxx

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Having a really bad few days its only 3 weeks since I mc and I think I have possibly been putting a brave face on it.

My dh came home yesterday from work and was in a foul mood I had to help him with some things only to be roared at. Then later he apologises and says that he got upset on the way home from work shed a few tears re his nana who died last year his dad who has passed and his mum and now our baby. the baby was only 8 weeks but we where looking forward to it so so much but it was not to be.

I have been doing what I normally do and put a smile on my face and been passing it off as something that happens blah blah blah. My boss then turns around and says hes having Friday off ok I reply to which he responds well I thought she as in me has had so much time off im going to have Friday off, I replied to that oh well im so sorry for having a mc. total insensitive twit. he responded oh oh I didn't mean it like that glady hes not in todayor tomorrow.

Sorry for the long rambling post I think I just needed to vent somewhere

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Add to the above my boss has just used my mc as part of the reason that I might like to reduce my hours at work just kick a woman when she's down seriously

 

[littlegirl87]

Add to the above my boss has just used my mc as part of the reason that I might like to reduce my hours at work just kick a woman when she's down seriously

That is total crap....I cant believe that they could get away with that!