Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[MrsBlaque]

Hi
my partner and i have been ttc for 8 months now and i just feel like everyone around me is having a baby but is. I want to be happy for them and i am but also just wanting to run into another room and cry. I feel like ita never going to happen for me my thoughts and love go out to women who have been trying for longer than i have.
You can't help but feel disappointed in yourself. Its definitely taking its toll on me....

i totally understand. i might be the wrong person to reply cause im crying just reading this. i just wanted to say that i feel your pain. i wish you luck.

 

[deafgal01]

Well, I want to start trying insemination asap. Spouse doesn't think that be a good idea with grad school coming up so he wants me to wait and hold off for another 8 months. Blah... I might as well never bother trying again at this rate. I can understand his concern for me balancing pregnancy/baby and school but it could very well take more than half a year or so to get pregnant?!

 

[Firefly Skies]

Hi
my partner and i have been ttc for 8 months now and i just feel like everyone around me is having a baby but is. I want to be happy for them and i am but also just wanting to run into another room and cry. I feel like ita never going to happen for me my thoughts and love go out to women who have been trying for longer than i have.
You can't help but feel disappointed in yourself. Its definitely taking its toll on me....

i totally understand. i might be the wrong person to reply cause im crying just reading this. i just wanted to say that i feel your pain. i wish you luck.

Me three! I'm about to watch ANOTHER person go from not TTC -> TTC -> pregnancy -> birth, all in the time span that I've just been TTC. In that time, someone else I know has gone from a somewhat new relationship to marriage and is starting TTC. And as I write this, I'm on CD51. Maybe. I don't even know. I feel like I don't have a chance because I don't know what my body is doing, ever.

 

[cntrygrl]

Ladies I was in your very frustrating place not that long ago. I had started TTC in November of 2011. After 3 failed IUI's with the gyno and 6 cycles of clomid I was finally referred to a specialist in November of 2013. In January 2014 I began the same fertility meds as if I was doing IVF. I was closely monitored and we did IUI with these meds. We were finally pregnant with our first cycle. I now have a healthy 4 month old son. If you can I would highly recommend seeing a fertility specialist.

 

[tankel]

Ugh so annoyed another first cycle tcc-er with their first post something like: "af was due 5 days ago. What should I do? So confused." I wish they would just go to the pregnancy threads and stay off the tcc ones--especially stay off the ttcal. Sorry if this sounds mean. Just feeling sorry for myself...

 

[tobeamma]

hi all....
I have been in ttc for few months.....then came to know that i have bilateral PCOS.....but doctor said not to worry and gave medication..this month we were in BD almost every other day...i had severe boobs pain,nausea,fatigue metallic taste..al that are there in early stages of pregnancy...then just 2 days before my actual date i started bleeding...very light pink..i used pad but no use...but the 2nd day it got very heavy followed by 3rd day...4th day was normal and 5th day nothing except whenever i use loo....was it implantation bleeding or actual periods...as the doctor has given me tablets for fertility....is it normal to have it now or wait for one n then take a test n start medication???but now i dont have pains in boobs but other things are same....
anybody there to help me??

 

[Mrs. and Mrs.]

Ugh so annoyed another first cycle tcc-er with their first post something like: "af was due 5 days ago. What should I do? So confused." I wish they would just go to the pregnancy threads and stay off the tcc ones--especially stay off the ttcal. Sorry if this sounds mean. Just feeling sorry for myself...

AMEN, sister.

Tobeamma, sorry, but that sounds like a full blown AF if it lasted for 5 days...that's pretty average. If you think you could still be pregnant I would take another pregnancy test. Implantation bleeding doesn't normally last for days, from my understanding. It's normally just a few streaks or so.

MY TTC frustration has to do with a dr prescribing fertility meds but only having hours / availability during the most random of times. I'm sorry that my uterus and eggs aren't complying to your schedule! GAH!

 

[Asda1989]

Hi just need a bit of help I'm two days late after having our first Iui... Took a test and I think there's a line so took a 2nd think it bfp but having period cramps am I just imagining ?

 

[Mrs. and Mrs.]

Well that's clearly a positive test.

 

[tankel]

not the place for s...yuck! did you not even read this thread?

 

[Tryin4No2]

Hi just need a bit of help I'm two days late after having our first Iui... Took a test and I think there's a line so took a 2nd think it bfp but having period cramps am I just imagining ?

This is a vent thread...a place people go so they don't see BFPs...not the place to post this. Sorry.

 

[Mrs. and Mrs.]

Vent:

Pay nearly a grand to get frozen sperm shipped to your house and take crazy making drugs to have egg be ready just in time.

Egg's not ready. Won't be ready till next week.

Sperm will thaw by the weekend. Can't afford to buy more sperm right now.

(We're forcing ovulation on friday and inseminating then... the egg will still probably be too small, but it's better than just flushing the sperm. At least I'll feel like we tried.)

 

[LeeNJerm410]

I'm Leeann first time on this site. I'm currently using a glow app it charts everything
Me and my fiance have been trying a few months now with no luck yet
I chart everything. Just yesterday and today I've had positive opk were having enough
Sex. We've had two mc in the last few years. It's very frustrating, just bought a ttc kit
From conceive easy so I'm moving on to try that I just don't get it I was fertile a week ago according to my app but positive opk week later I'm just a little confused? I also have hpv and going for a colposcopie here in like two weeks so I'm really nervous. Any advice input would be great!!

 

[sweetscarlet]

To everyone who keeps telling me to "quit trying so hard!" "you're just stressing yourself out"

I am not stressing myself out yet. I'm FINE, really....
My husband and I work opposite schedules so we have to schedule/make time to BD...its not as easy as just doing it before we go to bed at night. We're lucky if we see each other for 30 minutes a day except on the weekends. So, yes, it is important that I know where I am in my cycle. Charting and trying to figure out my body is difficult, but its because we can't just be lazy about it. It's not because I'm losing my mind over not being pregnant yet. Stop making assumptions about things you know NOTHING about. I'm not a fertile myrtle that can get pregnant by looking at sperm. You know nothing about what it's like to have to really work at it so just do me a favor and mind your own stinkin' business.

/end rant

I think I feel better.

 

[Mrs. and Mrs.]

Preach.

 

[starryjune]

Hi just need a bit of help I'm two days late after having our first Iui... Took a test and I think there's a line so took a 2nd think it bfp but having period cramps am I just imagining ?

Thanks for making me angry for:
1. Posting somewhere you definitely should not be. We are all childless and TTC, not posting BFPs.
2. Not being able to write a proper sentence.

Boooooooooooooo!

 

[deafgal01]

I really enjoyed being unplugged from facebook for a week... Came back... Still seeing lots of preg posts/pics... Blah. I need to move to an island where I can be isolated from that type of news.

 

[joysousgirl]

At the end of my two week wait and trying not get my hopes up. I confided in a co-worker about the anxiety I'm feeling and where I am in my cycle, she's been supportive in the past, and I got really sensitive and upset when she told me "it won't happen wen you're waiting for it, it'll happen when you give up or aren't thinking about it". I was really just looking for someone to talk to other than OH and for someone to hear me, then I remembered why I joined BnB, she doesn't understand. I'm not going to give up, I'm not going to stop thinking about it. I felt like she was telling me I must not be pregnant because I'm thinking about it. I know she was trying to help in her own way but it just felt insensitive. Going forward I'll keep the TWW to myself other than OH and the forum. I don't like all the " my friend or this girl I know...go pregnant when they gave up", am I supposed to believe people only get pregnant by accident?
<end rant>
Thank you, I needed to get that out.

 

[stiletto_mom]

Ugh, on cycle #6. Really thought I would have been far along by now. It's so discouraging.

The last month or so, I've had irregular periods too. I'm READY, why aren't our bodies cooperating!!

 

[Hopeful.89]

I am so THANKFUL I came across this thread.

DH and I are on month 13 of TTC, beyond frustrated as almost all the women in my family get pregnant by looking at their Husbands.

I tried to stay positive and was abnormally positive last cycle... then AF arrived while I was on a mini holiday with DH. Two days later my best friend told me she was 5 weeks... they weren't trying. Not that I am not happy for her but seriously I don't understand how that happens. Top that off by finding out 8!!!! YES I SAID 8 friends are all pregnant!!! This cycle has been absolutely horrid for me and the worst part is, is that with every AF I get my DH is starting to show more emotion and frustration. Unexplained Fertility...How can I stay positive and stress free when I cannot do what I was made to do! Being a mother is the only thing I have felt that I was meant to be!!

Also I know that it is frustrating when people who have a child cannot conceive again but you at least get the opportunity to parent, that is something I may never get the opportunity to do and it breaks my heart.

Once again so happy I found this page.