Trying To Conceive #1+ Vent Thread

[Wudbmumhopful]

Thankyou for responding to my rant ! I too did my research and found out that it could be because of a luteal phase defect. I am planning to see my RE again and discuss this possibility.. My cycle and ovulation are erratic and that seems to be the only cause.. I'll look up vitex too! Willing to try anything at this point.. Everyone I know has gotten pregnant .. The pressure keeps piling [/QUOTE]

Oh yes! It's the same with me. Everyone I see/know/hear seems to be pregnant or having a baby. That feeling sucks. Every passing month adds up to my sorrows. Really hoping for a miracle, if there such thing out there. Speak to your RE and try temping and Vitex. Good luck and let's hope that we will be one of someone else' envy one day lol
Lots and lots of baby dust

 

[akddoubleo2]

Hey! DON'T WORRY. I have quite a similar situation! I'm starting to sound crazy to my other half and my doctor. I am currently waiting for my March AF. I already missed January AF and had 4 day spotting in February (which I've already convinced myself was a week 1 miscarriage).
LMP: 12/28/15
So...

Had 3 doctor appointments already! The third one being in the ER for rash I'm getting around my hips, belly and lower back, forearms, elbow creases and armpits. Even redness down the central region of my face.

4 hpts - BFN
One blood test - BFN

With all the symptoms adding up every week, I really think I could be pregnant, why all these BFNs? Ughh. #TWW

 

[Safire3]

HI ladies! I'm in a similar situation and sooo frustrated! My cycles have always been regular, even after coming off of birth control 5 months ago, I had 26-27 day cycles consistently. Currently I am on CD32 and 20dpo. I have been doing tests from 9 dpo, all BFN and every time I see that stark white test my heart breaks. Tired of testing now and just want to wait for af but keep wondering where the hell she is??
In addition I have sore heavy breasts, feeling like my heart is racing and pounding for no reason, increased hunger and lots of thin white cm. Been googling everything, don't know what to do anymore. Should I keep testing every day ( don't know how much more I can take ). Should I go to the doctor or wait some more?? So confused.

 

[Wudbmumhopful]

HI ladies! I'm in a similar situation and sooo frustrated! My cycles have always been regular, even after coming off of birth control 5 months ago, I had 26-27 day cycles consistently. Currently I am on CD32 and 20dpo. I have been doing tests from 9 dpo, all BFN and every time I see that stark white test my heart breaks. Tired of testing now and just want to wait for af but keep wondering where the hell she is??
In addition I have sore heavy breasts, feeling like my heart is racing and pounding for no reason, increased hunger and lots of thin white cm. Been googling everything, don't know what to do anymore. Should I keep testing every day ( don't know how much more I can take ). Should I go to the doctor or wait some more?? So confused.

Yeah I know how it feels like. If you still haven't got your af I would suggest you see the doc and get a blood test done. That could give you some idea. Waiting longer for a BFP and ending up with nothing is more painful. I would rather want to end it sooner instead of piling up my hopes.

But if it's a BFP there is nothing much you can ask for. Fingers crossed for you. Good luck .. Keep posted !

 

[Duraiza]

I am eleven days late now .. Hpt's all negative I don't feel any symptoms either what's happening ��

 

[Wudbmumhopful]

Are you sure you ovulated this cycle? But it's better you see the doc. Either you can wait for few more days for your af to up or just see a doc to get your hcg blood test done. HCG will confirm preg even if your hpt are negative.

Actually I had regular but short cycle of 23-27 before ttc and taking fertility drugs. I have missed periods few times and af will show up after 46-50 days. So there are chance of you having one such cycle. It could be anything. Our body doesn't behave at its best only when we expect it to do so.

 

[chocolatechip]

Uggggghhh. Just tested at 10dpo - BFN but I know the fate of this. And everyone around me is announcing their pregnancies right now, including my best friend and my sister. I'm excited for them but this is getting harder every day.

 

[greenarcher]

Holy crap. I remember why I got on birth control even before I was sexual active. After 11 years on pill patch shot, I just started my AF, and she must be a linebacker because she knocks me on my ass! I have to take advil around the clock or I'm in so much pain, I can't function. In high school, if I forgot to take advil, I would throw up from the pain. I don't let myself get to that point anymore.

2nd reason for wanting a kid? NO PERIODS FOR AT LEAST 10 MONTHS.

 

[Amsterdam]

I've been TTC for the last 7 months and I'm now at 11dpo, but I feel like my period is coming for sure. I had some frequent urination in the first week and I got really excited because a friend of mine who's about to give birth had the same symptom too. But now I'm thinking I was just making things up in my head.

All the women in my family are very fertile, and my sister only had sex once (ONCE) in her fertile window when she got pregnant with her first. Recently two friends of mine got pregnant and all my cousins have children too.

I don't understand what's wrong, because I don't have any diagnosed problem. We started TTC in October and when nothing happened my husband did a semen test in January which came back really bad...we really got upset with that but he repeated the test last month and apparently now it's normal...noone ever explained to us why this happened, but when I heard his sperm was good after all I was finally able to breathe...and now is the 2nd month after the good results that it seems like we didn't make it. I don't know what to do anymore and what we are doing wrong.

I'm just so tired and don't get why it has to be such a struggle.

 

[greenarcher]

Nothing is *wrong* with you at all. Don't look to other women's experiences. Fertility is not necessarily genetic.

Now that husband's sperm is on the up-and-up, you're really only on month 2. I would ask for explanations so that you can avoid having bad months again. Maybe he did a lot of hot tubbing? Smoked?

Don't lose faith at 11 DPO, it's early. It could be that you have fertilized eggs in the past, but the embryo was genetically incapable of life. That's not your fault! That's totally random chance. I hope you get a positive result soon, but know you're not alone.

 

[Amsterdam]

Thank you greenarcher, it feels good to know I'm not alone. I don't know anyone who has had or is having this type of problems and I do feel that people who haven't gone through it have trouble understanding how bad it can feel.

I really don't know what was wrong with my husband's sperm, noone really explained. Since the second test was good, we weren't referred to a specialist, the GP only said that it happens sometimes (?!). The thing is he doesn't smoke and is generally not exposed to the usual risk factors. He did start taking vitamins in February, so perhaps they worked, although you can never really know (that's the frustrating part).

Anyway, better luck next month I hope. Thanks a lot for your support

 

[TTC3329]

Aghhhhh! I just want to go back on the pill and never think of babies again, the more I read on the internet the more I'm convinced it will not happen for me I keep searching for things to make me feel better and it always leads to a cry fest in the bathroom

 

[greenarcher]

Aghhhhh! I just want to go back on the pill and never think of babies again, the more I read on the internet the more I'm convinced it will not happen for me I keep searching for things to make me feel better and it always leads to a cry fest in the bathroom

I feel you. I do. I find it's much easier to handle when I stop coming to the forums, stop googling symptoms, and try to focus on work or home projects. Easier said than done.

 

[Quindalyn]

AH! I'm just so angry and frustrated because we've been trying for so long and boom my friend tries for 3 months and gets her BFP!

 

[Rawan]

I am feeling stressed too. The feeling that you want to be pregnant so bad but so far can't is stressing me out....never knew ttc could be this hard...
Everytime I see my friend's baby, I really want to have my own baby too.

 

[Hld1455]

Hey ladies. I'm kind of new here, but I figured with the way I'm feeling right now, "Vent Thread" is exactly where I need to be. 😂 AF is due in two-three days and, of course, I feel pregnant. Breast are tender, swollen, veiny. Backache, headache, acne, thirsty all the time and my gums bled while brushing this morning. I'd be SO hopeful if these weren't almost identical to how I felt last month. But, of course, AF got me. Honestly, I'm just frustrated and wishing I didn't want this so bad so I could stop feeling like crap all the time for no reason. The only things different this month is the crippling backache and the fact that I literally gagged over the smell of old cheese earlier this evening. But... Come on, it's old cheese. Who wouldn't? DH thought it was hilarious though and said "You're pregnant." Bless his heart, he didn't understand how bad it hurt me to hear him say it out loud. Just grrrrr. Sending good vibes and prayers to all the frustrated ladies here. Thanks for listening 😘

 

[StarGazerRose]

I'm pissed more at myself than anything.... Wasted so much time not knowing that I should have called the doctor back and researched this 5 years ago, I probably would have a baby by now!
Plus i'm surprised my mom didn't bring it up, we never really talk about that stuff, so I'm not all that surprised.
It's just that I guess I expected someone to follow up with me, and not me follow up with them, why can't that be?! ... Ya know?
I was wanting a family before I turned 30, and BAM, i'm 30 and I only have a fur baby (which I love, but it's nothing in comparison)

Just having to learn the hard way I guess...

 

[scrappydoo531]

Hi ladies =)

DH and I are on our fourth month TTC our first. I'm a bit disheartened this month because I keep thinking about that statistic - 70% of women who track their temps are pregnant within 3 months. To add to it almost all of our friends and family were preggo within the first three months or they ended up on the other end of the spectrum struggling for >1 year and had some type of issue.

I never hear any in between stories of couples with normal cycles who tracked temps and consistently tried during the fertile window, but didn't get pregnant until 3-12 months with no real issues. Anytime someone says it took them 6 months, they weren't tracking temps, didn't have regular cycles, had PCOS, etc.

Anyone out there have some pick me up advice? So tired of hearing, it will happen when it happens! Just relax!, etc. Hoping this is our month =)

 

[Jaxie086]

A big f-ing middle finger to you, menstrual cycle!!!!!!!

 

[clara_nb]

My SIL is pregnant. I am so happy for her, because she has been TTC and has had 2 M/C's already. She is newly pregnant (5-6 weeks), so I am really, really honestly hoping this one sticks.

I am also devastated. It just stings every time someone announces their pregnancy. I am trying to stay hopeful. It's been 1.5 years for us, with 12 attempts (5 IUI, 7 KD with the DIY method). I am mostly venting because of the medical treatment I've received. The clinic that did my IUI's only ever did blood work for screening, and took $8K from us without ever doing an ultrasound or other testing to determine that I had a uterine polyp. My ob/gyn found it within 1 month of working with her. I had the surgery in the summer, and now I'm dealing with slightly elevated prolactin and possible diabetes (or pre-diabetes). I have done a huge overhaul of my diet (not that I really ate poorly before) and I'm back at the gym. I'm also taking Metformin (but am dealing with nasty side effects from that). I feel like I am doing basically everything I can. I am doing acupuncture regularly and am taking TCM herbs. I am also doing regular relaxations and meditation (and massage therapy) to de-stress and lower my cortisol levels. Our donor just did a semen analysis but has not shared any results with us yet (if he has them). It's only been a week since he had it done. It is taking everything I have not to text and ask him lol but I want to respect his privacy. I know he will share if there is something to worry about. Our next steps are either to continue to work with him (if all is well), or go to a different clinic in another province. Both options have their pros and cons. My ob/gyn is great but so busy that it's impossible to get in there. I just feel so helpless in the whole process. It's like, I can do everything within my power, but it still doesn't seem to matter.

That's all for now... thanks for reading!