TTC #1 and over 30

[cfox]

hi guys. quick question...m having this aroused feeling for 4 days now. does anybody have this? We BD every other day, then how come i still feel this? rawrrr...

I don't know if this is the case for you. However, the more we the more I want it

lol! that's probably it. we do it every other day.

I'm not usually wanting to go at it like a rabbit but knowing that we're approaching O day, we've the last 4 days - both of us were completely exhausted the last 2 nights and joked about how unromantic this was getting!
.... And I still feel like I could go again! I keep thinking we'll give it a night off but then once the opportunity arises, we both think it's a good idea to go for it again, just in case of course
I think all this is good for us all!
to everyone.

 

[Veganlily]

Thanks Lilli..your chart stills looks good..don't count your self out yet...

Thanks sweetie but stark white bfn and I know my body pretty well-I'd bet a good amount of $ that temp drop and hit tomorrow

 

[cfox]

Thanks Lilli..your chart stills looks good..don't count your self out yet...

Thanks sweetie but stark white bfn and I know my body pretty well-I'd bet a good amount of $ that temp drop and hit tomorrow

Drat. On to testing for July?
I had the same thing happen last month - straight up BFN, then AF the next day - and that was OK. Last month didn't feel like the month for our :BFP:

Hoping yours is soon.

 

[Veganlily]

Thanks Lilli..your chart stills looks good..don't count your self out yet...

Thanks sweetie but stark white bfn and I know my body pretty well-I'd bet a good amount of $ that temp drop and hit tomorrow

Drat. On to testing for July?
I had the same thing happen last month - straight up BFN, then AF the next day - and that was OK. Last month didn't feel like the month for our :BFP:

Hoping yours is soon.

July testing for march babies sounds great! Thank you soooo much-made me feel better tonight.

I'm gomna miss md aRound here - and still miss preg pilot!

 

[MrsChezek]

Oh my gosh MD that's fantastic news!!!! I'm SOOO happy for you! I shrieked when I read your post! DH nearly had a heart attack standing next to me Your stick looks positive to me too! Yay!!!!!!
Happy and Healthy 9 months!!! Hope the bean is super sticky

And FX for you Lily!!!! Hope you're wrong and AF doesn't show


nikkih - we'll be looking in the Short Hills area next summer! I guess NJ isn't that big Sounds like you Oed to me…I'm not sure if I did as I haven't had any ovulation pains and my temp hasn't really dipped or spiked! But got another +OPK today so perhaps it just hasn't happened yet…BDed tonight though

sasha - sorry the got you GL with the next cycle!!!

Luna - sorry you're onto a new cycle too Any new plans?

baking - oh no, she's here! I'm so sorry hun Best of luck and I really really hope this next cycle is the one for you! FX I'm hoping for a lucky 7 myself (current cycle). May it be the one for all of us!!! (Luna included)

piglet - increased sexual drive is a symptom of ovulation coming, or so I read. I get it around my O time for sure! So get to work!!!!


AFM, +OPk this afternoon so not sure if I've Oed yet but keeping the going! I have a mix of EWCM and some watery CM so that's good. No O cramps yet so hopefully soon!!! I'm always so anxious to get into the TWW but then when I'm in it, I hate it! LOL Go figure!

to all my ladies!!! xx

 

[MrsChezek]

PS Where is my cycle buddy kmae?? How are you chica?

 

[bakingbabe]

Thanks Lilli..your chart stills looks good..don't count your self out yet...

Thanks sweetie but stark white bfn and I know my body pretty well-I'd bet a good amount of $ that temp drop and hit tomorrow

Drat. On to testing for July?
I had the same thing happen last month - straight up BFN, then AF the next day - and that was OK. Last month didn't feel like the month for our :BFP:

Hoping yours is soon.

July testing for march babies sounds great! Thank you soooo much-made me feel better tonight.

I'm gomna miss md aRound here - and still miss preg pilot!

Lily,
I hope the stays away! July testing for march babies sounds great to me too. Count me as hopeful for month #7!! The glass of wine helped my morale a bit. Working on being more positive tonight and tomorrow.

 

[luna_19]

MrsChezek I feel like we're doing everything right! I really don't want to turn into that couple where bding is a chore, or that avoids certain positions or spends money on all sorts of suppliments ...

Thinking about trying temping though, I've avoided it because for one I always get up at least once a night so I don't know how accurate it would be and I imagine it stressing me out...on the other hand I guess it's the only way to know I'm actually ovulating.

 

[Alisa SD]

MrsChezek I feel like we're doing everything right! I really don't want to turn into that couple where bding is a chore, or that avoids certain positions or spends money on all sorts of suppliments ...

Thinking about trying temping though, I've avoided it because for one I always get up at least once a night so I don't know how accurate it would be and I imagine it stressing me out...on the other hand I guess it's the only way to know I'm actually ovulating.

Hi luna, I get up at least once a night too; I drink a lot of water. But I take my temperature everyday at 5am and I am confident the bathroom trips are not effecting their accuracy. The benefit of BBT charting is that it allows me a firm grasp on my body's natural cycle. It's fascinating how our hormonal cycles are so evident by our BBTs. Unfortunately it is primarily helpful for identifying ovulation and not much else. Perhaps a steep dip the day of or before AF, but elevated temps after ovulation are likely with or without a pregnancy.
But I highly recommend it. It's actually fun using the graphs and tools on Fertility Friend. Go sign up! Its free. And get a good thermometer. They have em at any drug store, usually pink, lol. I didnt chart the first 2 months and I wish I would have. It brought TTC to the "next level" if you will.

 

[gypsygirl1018]

Just curious, I started temping this month with fertility friend, how do I show my chart in my signature?

 

[babysa]

Hi Ladies...
MD...wooooohooooo!!!! That's fabulous news!!!! Super chuffed for you! Let's hope you've started a trend in this thread!
To all the ladies who's AF arrived...that sucks...but onwards and upwards. I'm on CD9 today...so gearing up for ov and lots and lots of bd...exhausts me just thinking about it ;-)
It's officially been 12 months now...so DH and I had a chat about whether we should get tested. DH is a medical rep and chats to the leading fertility specialist in our city every few weeks and he has been giving dh lots of advice. Which is awesome because it would be really expensive to be getting this advice from him normally. And the FS reckons that you shouldn't do tests before 2 years as knowing there is something wrong can often play on your mind and stress you out to the point of not ovulating. He said that 90 something% of people having regular sex will fall pregnant by 2 years even with some problems. So I was thinking that if we get tested and find out something is wrong I will get stressed out...and if we test and nothings wrong then I will be very relaxed. However, I am not super stressed about it...we have only recently come back to SA after 6 yrs in England and recently bought a house and still trying to accumulate furniture and do some renovations, get our careers on track etc. etc. So I said to DH that maybe it hasn't happened yet because it's just not the right time. So maybe we should just wait a bit and maybe in a few months re-look at getting tested. But I'm still not 100% sure it's the right decision. What are your ladies thoughts?????? Has anyone been tested and found out something was wrong and it's made you more stressed? Or has anyone tested and found out all is fine and it's still taking time to fall preggie?
Sorry bout the novel! Just need some advice.
Have a lovely day x

 

[Veganlily]

MrsChezek I feel like we're doing everything right! I really don't want to turn into that couple where bding is a chore, or that avoids certain positions or spends money on all sorts of suppliments ...

Thinking about trying temping though, I've avoided it because for one I always get up at least once a night so I don't know how accurate it would be and I imagine it stressing me out...on the other hand I guess it's the only way to know I'm actually ovulating.

Hi luna, I get up at least once a night too; I drink a lot of water. But I take my temperature everyday at 5am and I am confident the bathroom trips are not effecting their accuracy. The benefit of BBT charting is that it allows me a firm grasp on my body's natural cycle. It's fascinating how our hormonal cycles are so evident by our BBTs. Unfortunately it is primarily helpful for identifying ovulation and not much else. Perhaps a steep dip the day of or before AF, but elevated temps after ovulation are likely with or without a pregnancy.
But I highly recommend it. It's actually fun using the graphs and tools on Fertility Friend. Go sign up! Its free. And get a good thermometer. They have em at any drug store, usually pink, lol. I didnt chart the first 2 months and I wish I would have. It brought TTC to the "next level" if you will.

Just wanted to chime in that I TOTALLY agreeee with this!

 

[Veganlily]

Well..much to my shock my temp spiked today buuuuutttt stark white negative hpt (ic) so I'm not over the moon (yet ) or anything. I also had a (delicious) drink (ok 1.5 drinks) last night because I was so sure I was out, and that tends to raise my temperature a little (but not by that much!). We shall see-I'm trying so hard to be patient and positive. "symptoms" are that my period usually comes today, my boobs and especially nipples are getting bigger/more tender by the hour, I'm breaking out like a teenager, I'm a little constipated, and I'm definitely emotional. Buuuuuuuttttt all this can be normal for me before af - so who the heck knows?? Will test every am til af shows and keep y'all posted!

Thank you so much for the kind words, everyone! Even if shows I can't tell you how much your support and loving thoughts mean. I find days 7-12 DPO to be the absolute hands down hardest emotionally of the cycle-the roller coaster of hope and losing hope...it's hard.

Gypsy-ff has a link with a code to your chart and then you can add it on bnb to your sig by copy/paste. Message me if you have problems and I'll help you.

 

[MrsChezek]

MrsChezek I feel like we're doing everything right! I really don't want to turn into that couple where bding is a chore, or that avoids certain positions or spends money on all sorts of suppliments ...

Thinking about trying temping though, I've avoided it because for one I always get up at least once a night so I don't know how accurate it would be and I imagine it stressing me out...on the other hand I guess it's the only way to know I'm actually ovulating.

Hi luna, I get up at least once a night too; I drink a lot of water. But I take my temperature everyday at 5am and I am confident the bathroom trips are not effecting their accuracy. The benefit of BBT charting is that it allows me a firm grasp on my body's natural cycle. It's fascinating how our hormonal cycles are so evident by our BBTs. Unfortunately it is primarily helpful for identifying ovulation and not much else. Perhaps a steep dip the day of or before AF, but elevated temps after ovulation are likely with or without a pregnancy.
But I highly recommend it. It's actually fun using the graphs and tools on Fertility Friend. Go sign up! Its free. And get a good thermometer. They have em at any drug store, usually pink, lol. I didnt chart the first 2 months and I wish I would have. It brought TTC to the "next level" if you will.

Just wanted to chime in that I TOTALLY agreeee with this!

Me too!! I regret not temping earlier. This is my second full cycle as I started mid cycle back in April. It's so informative! And you don't have to temp every day...you can temp starting about a week before you O and then just a couple days after to confirm O. I was stressed that I might not be ovulating and temping has brought me peace of mind

 

[MrsChezek]

Well..much to my shock my temp spiked today buuuuutttt stark white negative hpt (ic) so I'm not over the moon (yet ) or anything. I also had a (delicious) drink (ok 1.5 drinks) last night because I was so sure I was out, and that tends to raise my temperature a little (but not by that much!). We shall see-I'm trying so hard to be patient and positive. "symptoms" are that my period usually comes today, my boobs and especially nipples are getting bigger/more tender by the hour, I'm breaking out like a teenager, I'm a little constipated, and I'm definitely emotional. Buuuuuuuttttt all this can be normal for me before af - so who the heck knows?? Will test every am til af shows and keep y'all posted!

Thank you so much for the kind words, everyone! Even if shows I can't tell you how much your support and loving thoughts mean. I find days 7-12 DPO to be the absolute hands down hardest emotionally of the cycle-the roller coaster of hope and losing hope...it's hard.

Gypsy-ff has a link with a code to your chart and then you can add it on bnb to your sig by copy/paste. Message me if you have problems and I'll help you.

SEE! It's all that dust we're throwing your way!! Hope she stays away for 9 months!!!!!! FX


gypsy - under the "sharing" menu there is a "get code" link. Copy the code to your chart and paste it in your signature here [to edit your sig here go to User CP and in the left hand menu there is an 'edit signature' link] Easy peasy!!!!

 

[piglet24]

Oh my gosh MD that's fantastic news!!!! I'm SOOO happy for you! I shrieked when I read your post! DH nearly had a heart attack standing next to me Your stick looks positive to me too! Yay!!!!!!
Happy and Healthy 9 months!!! Hope the bean is super sticky

And FX for you Lily!!!! Hope you're wrong and AF doesn't show


nikkih - we'll be looking in the Short Hills area next summer! I guess NJ isn't that big Sounds like you Oed to me…I'm not sure if I did as I haven't had any ovulation pains and my temp hasn't really dipped or spiked! But got another +OPK today so perhaps it just hasn't happened yet…BDed tonight though

sasha - sorry the got you GL with the next cycle!!!

Luna - sorry you're onto a new cycle too Any new plans?

baking - oh no, she's here! I'm so sorry hun Best of luck and I really really hope this next cycle is the one for you! FX I'm hoping for a lucky 7 myself (current cycle). May it be the one for all of us!!! (Luna included)

piglet - increased sexual drive is a symptom of ovulation coming, or so I read. I get it around my O time for sure! So get to work!!!!


AFM, +OPk this afternoon so not sure if I've Oed yet but keeping the going! I have a mix of EWCM and some watery CM so that's good. No O cramps yet so hopefully soon!!! I'm always so anxious to get into the TWW but then when I'm in it, I hate it! LOL Go figure!

to all my ladies!!! xx

O happened on June 1, because i had injection on the 31st of May. Until now I still am sooooo you know. i want to do it even if i'm working. this is crazy!

 

[MrsChezek]

Hi Ladies...
MD...wooooohooooo!!!! That's fabulous news!!!! Super chuffed for you! Let's hope you've started a trend in this thread!
To all the ladies who's AF arrived...that sucks...but onwards and upwards. I'm on CD9 today...so gearing up for ov and lots and lots of bd...exhausts me just thinking about it ;-)
It's officially been 12 months now...so DH and I had a chat about whether we should get tested. DH is a medical rep and chats to the leading fertility specialist in our city every few weeks and he has been giving dh lots of advice. Which is awesome because it would be really expensive to be getting this advice from him normally. And the FS reckons that you shouldn't do tests before 2 years as knowing there is something wrong can often play on your mind and stress you out to the point of not ovulating. He said that 90 something% of people having regular sex will fall pregnant by 2 years even with some problems. So I was thinking that if we get tested and find out something is wrong I will get stressed out...and if we test and nothings wrong then I will be very relaxed. However, I am not super stressed about it...we have only recently come back to SA after 6 yrs in England and recently bought a house and still trying to accumulate furniture and do some renovations, get our careers on track etc. etc. So I said to DH that maybe it hasn't happened yet because it's just not the right time. So maybe we should just wait a bit and maybe in a few months re-look at getting tested. But I'm still not 100% sure it's the right decision. What are your ladies thoughts?????? Has anyone been tested and found out something was wrong and it's made you more stressed? Or has anyone tested and found out all is fine and it's still taking time to fall preggie?
Sorry bout the novel! Just need some advice.
Have a lovely day x

I think it really depends on your personality. I know that I'm the type that will stress if the doc tells me something is not perfect but I will also stress if he tells me everything IS perfect if I'm not pregnant by 12 months. So for me it would be stressful either way But if you think it will give you peace of mind, then go for it! Stress is not good for conception so do whatever you think will keep you the most ZEN and happy

 

[nikkih1288]

Hi Ladies let me preface this by saying this is a rant.

I have been taking botox injections for painful muscle spasms for 5 years now. As soon as we decided to try to get pregnant I stopped the injections. No way I am going to inject poison into my body and risk god knows what. Well now my dh is mad at me and yelled at me this morning saying he does not understand why I won't get injections to help myself. I am in tremendous pain my hand is swollen to double it's size. However, I am still not willing to risk my future child's health. He is mad at me and I feel like crap. What would you guys do? I talked to the OB and she agreed no botox. Dh found research online last night that said in 1 study 18 women received botox for my condition and 16 carried to full term. One had a miscarriage and one lost the baby in delivery. I just don't know what to do we are going on a romantic over night trip tonight and now I feel like we are going to spend the night fighting instead of relaxing. He thinks I'd rather suffer and says it is not only effecting me but him as well. I get that but won't having a kid with birth defects be worse? I am in tears and he went off to work to enjoy his day. God I hate men sometimes.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[OperationBbyO]

Hi Ladies...
MD...wooooohooooo!!!! That's fabulous news!!!! Super chuffed for you! Let's hope you've started a trend in this thread!
To all the ladies who's AF arrived...that sucks...but onwards and upwards. I'm on CD9 today...so gearing up for ov and lots and lots of bd...exhausts me just thinking about it ;-)
It's officially been 12 months now...so DH and I had a chat about whether we should get tested. DH is a medical rep and chats to the leading fertility specialist in our city every few weeks and he has been giving dh lots of advice. Which is awesome because it would be really expensive to be getting this advice from him normally. And the FS reckons that you shouldn't do tests before 2 years as knowing there is something wrong can often play on your mind and stress you out to the point of not ovulating. He said that 90 something% of people having regular sex will fall pregnant by 2 years even with some problems. So I was thinking that if we get tested and find out something is wrong I will get stressed out...and if we test and nothings wrong then I will be very relaxed. However, I am not super stressed about it...we have only recently come back to SA after 6 yrs in England and recently bought a house and still trying to accumulate furniture and do some renovations, get our careers on track etc. etc. So I said to DH that maybe it hasn't happened yet because it's just not the right time. So maybe we should just wait a bit and maybe in a few months re-look at getting tested. But I'm still not 100% sure it's the right decision. What are your ladies thoughts?????? Has anyone been tested and found out something was wrong and it's made you more stressed? Or has anyone tested and found out all is fine and it's still taking time to fall preggie?
Sorry bout the novel! Just need some advice.
Have a lovely day x

I didn't even wait for 12 months to hit because I knew something was off. Turns out I was right. Had I not gone to find out what was wrong, I would have kept having MCs. I'm so glad I went. Now I can't seem to get pregnant again, but knowing that I have the medication support I need and knowing that I'm not insane, there IS actually something wrong with me gave me the peace of mind to go with the flow. We will try for one full year and then move to something more drastic, like IVF.

I have several friends who tried for 2 and 3 years and never got pregnant only to find out that they had major issues. In the end, they were only able to have one child because they put off finding out what was wrong for so long. I want several kids, so that choice wasn't the right one for me.

 

[MrsChezek]

Hi Ladies let me preface this by saying this is a rant.

I have been taking botox injections for painful muscle spasms for 5 years now. As soon as we decided to try to get pregnant I stopped the injections. No way I am going to inject poison into my body and risk god knows what. Well now my dh is mad at me and yelled at me this morning saying he does not understand why I won't get injections to help myself. I am in tremendous pain my hand is swollen to double it's size. However, I am still not willing to risk my future child's health. He is mad at me and I feel like crap. What would you guys do? I talked to the OB and she agreed no botox. Dh found research online last night that said in 1 study 18 women received botox for my condition and 16 carried to full term. One had a miscarriage and one lost the baby in delivery. I just don't know what to do we are going on a romantic over night trip tonight and now I feel like we are going to spend the night fighting instead of relaxing. He thinks I'd rather suffer and says it is not only effecting me but him as well. I get that but won't having a kid with birth defects be worse? I am in tears and he went off to work to enjoy his day. God I hate men sometimes.

Thanks for letting me vent.

AUGH! MEN!!!!! My DH would so totally do that...start a fight. upset me and then go off and have a nice day. Whereas I'd be in tears for hours. So sorry nikkih!!!! I think you're being very brave and strong to put your future baby ahead of your needs. I bet you're in a ton of pain and if that isn't hard enough to deal with, having someone get mad at you for it all is just not fair. Is there anything more "natural" you can do to help ease the pain? Maybe some supplements that are safe or physical therapy or massage or acupuncture? I don't know what your condition is but I bet there is some baby friendly way to help alleviate at least some of the pain. You can try seeing a physical therapist or a holistic doctor about it

I wish I had an answer for you but I definitely agree that your DH is being a bit too harsh. HOWEVER, to play devil's advocate. He's probably just distressed by seeing you in pain and not being able to help you. Just think how upset you'd get if he was in a lot of pain and not able to take medications to alleviate it. Us women turn to compassion in these sort of situations whereas men get angry cause they feel helpless. No man likes to feel helpless when it comes to taking care of their loved ones.