TTC #1 at 35+

[Leilani]

Hi Deb - I bet you feel so much more relaxed now.

Glad to hear it went mostly well. Was the specialist nice?

Good luck with getting the swabs done and I'm glad you can get them done by somebody you know, I expect these test are more for checking your well-being than anything specifically fertility related (though what would I know?). I know at the clinic here, you need to get loads of tests done first, so they can tick all the boxes and make sure your lady-parts are healthy and you don't have any STIs.

Make sure you time your hubby's sample collection once you have no need for him this cycle, which I guess is the same time you get you post-ov bloods done.

 

[EllaMom2B]

Good for you, Deb! I imagine it's hard to know how to feel: Would it be good if they could find something, so it can be fixed? Or better to be all clear without knowing why ttc is taking so long?

If nothing happens for me this month (I'm 3 dpo), then I go on the drugs...

 

[Deb111]

Good for you, Deb! I imagine it's hard to know how to feel: Would it be good if they could find something, so it can be fixed? Or better to be all clear without knowing why ttc is taking so long?

That's exactly what I've been thinking. I guess ideal scenario would be - oh there's something minor wrong that can be easily fixed ... either that or a magic wand!

 

[EllaMom2B]

Wave that magic wand my way too!

 

[Lisa1]

My big bro gf still in labour she got started last night at 11 poor thing is in agony and freaking out. I just called at the hospital on my way home my bro is White as a sheet she is only 6cm dilated and has got an epidural so she is slightly calmer!

So hopefully a baby shortly!

 

[Beanhopes]

Well I made it through the appt

Nurse took some info, then we saw the specialist, who took some more info and then finished by saying ... "So how do you feel about having some swabs done and an internal scan whilst you're here?" How do you answer that?!

Not sure if I've mentioned it before but I suffered with primary vaginismus for many years and had counselling etc to deal with it and whilst I'm fine with and have been for a few years now, smear tests etc are not easy for me at all - last one took nurse well over 20 mins and nearly ended up having to go back and be drugged for it!!

Anyway, I decided I might as well try whilst we were there, so had some blood tests done and then internal scan which was fine - couldn't manage the swabs though so I'm going to try and get that done with nurse at my drs who's used to me!

Got to have some bloods done just after next ov and hubby has to have a SS analysis and we go back for appt in 6 - 8 weeks

Hope you've all had a good day and thanks for the support

Deb xx

Love the new banner by the way!

Hi Deb

You must be relieved to have had your appointment they sound as if they are sorting you out quickly and efficiently. You should feel very proud of yourself for getting through the tests. Probably better that you weren't prepared for them.

I get totally worked up when I have a smear and clamp down on the instrument they insert. It of course hurts because my muscles are holding onto the instrument and they can't get it back out! They have to talk me through it and help me breathe before I release it. The nurse said last time there is nothing wrong with your pelvic floor muscles!

Did you find your FS through your doctor's referal or are they private? Just wondered as I live quite close to Bham and will be looking for a FS myself if we don't get a in the next couple of cycles.

xxx

 

[Beanhopes]

Good evening / morning / afternoon as we are all over the world!

Update - I'm approx 9/10dpo the spotting stopped yesterday. My bbs are still incredibly uncomfortable. I have stitch type niggles low down on the right side yesterday and left side today.

I have a nasty cold which is affecting my sleep and making me feel very tired. It is just nasal congestion but I don't want to take any decongestion tablets just in case there is a little egg trying to make up home.

The strangest thing happening to me is in the past 3 days im really gassy and keep burping . I never ever suffer with gas so it is completely alien to me and they keep taking me by surprise. Thankfully when no-one is around to hear me

I'm still a little bit hopeful that there could be something going on so I'll try to keep my PMA for a few more days. One way or the other we'll find out next week.

How are you all getting on?

 

[Tigger_lass]

Hey all

Beanhopes - everything sounds as though its going well. Fx'd for you.

Hope everyone else is well and keeping positive for whichever stage you are at in this rollercoaster ride.

I'm kinda thinking of giving up on this month. Been reading back through a little diary that i've been keeping over the last 10 days and thought that it would help me understand what's going on. I've noticed something strange - my temp is really low and is worrying me.

I've only been temping since Saturday and probably still dont have the hang of it. I'm using a digital thermometer which i keep beside the bed and i usually wake up c7am like clockwork but i've been waking in the early hours of the morning at random times - maybe because i'm so fixed on TTC this month, who knows? Anyway my temp has been consistent at 35.9c/96.6f apart from one dip. I've been googling low BBT temp's post ovulation and it seems to suggest that i've not ovulated and that my temps are far too low.

AF is not due until 24th but i can't see any chance of being pregnant with a BBT that low.

 

[Deb111]

Hi Deb

You must be relieved to have had your appointment they sound as if they are sorting you out quickly and efficiently. You should feel very proud of yourself for getting through the tests. Probably better that you weren't prepared for them.

I get totally worked up when I have a smear and clamp down on the instrument they insert. It of course hurts because my muscles are holding onto the instrument and they can't get it back out! They have to talk me through it and help me breathe before I release it. The nurse said last time there is nothing wrong with your pelvic floor muscles!

Did you find your FS through your doctor's referal or are they private? Just wondered as I live quite close to Bham and will be looking for a FS myself if we don't get a in the next couple of cycles.

xxx

Hiya hun

Thanks - I have to admit I'm pretty proud of myself but also a little annoyed at myself for not getting through the swabs but my nurse will persist for as long as I am prepared for her to do so and I have eventually managed smears every 3 years so I know I CAN do it.

Women have to go through so much! I mean, what do men go through that compares with periods, smear tests and childbirth?! lol

My GP referred me to the FS. They are a unit based at University Hospital, Coventry (nice, as it's not actually in the hospital which also would freak me out ) They were one of the first and leading fertility and IVF centres so their website says and they have evening clinics too which is great to avoid having to keep having to have time off work and explain. I'm not sure what choice you would have if and when you are referred - whether you could ask where to be referred to or whether you have to stick to your local health trust

Anyway, hopefully it wont come to that for you

Deb xx

 

[EllaMom2B]

beanhopes those are AMAZING symptoms!!!

I just read yesterday that a cold (stuffy nose and all) can indeed be a sign of pregnancy. Apparently, your immune system shuts down so as not to attack the little foreign life taking hold, leaving you more vulnerable to viruses.

I'm trying NOT to have a glass (or two) of wine tonight. It's still too early for implantation -- 3 dpo -- and I SO SO SO want one, after my hellish day at work. Sigh. If I KNEW I were preggers, then resisting would be easy!

I have slightly (SLIGHTLY -- I'm imagining it) sore nipples, and LOADS of creamy CM. Had this before, though. My skin hasn't gone to shit like ususal though -- at least not yet. I'm so so so hopeful!

to all!

 

[Lisa1]

Omg beanhopes sounds really good!

 

[Beanhopes]

Just thought we could all do with a bit more of this.

xxx

 

[Hope4BFP]

Hello :wave: I am 35 and TTC #1. We got married last year and decided to start trying 6 months ago but 1 of those months we missed timed completely! ... and the optimist in me reckons that 2 other months weren't exactly timed that well! Can't wait for a little !!

to you all!!

 

[EllaMom2B]

Hi Hope! We're similar (Lisa too): I've been trying since Sept. with one month off (OH was sick), though I'm older at 37. Oh to be 35 again!!! How great to have 27-day cycles... short! Are you ov'ing now? Charting or using opks?

So Lisa are you 4 dpo too? I'm suddenly feeling out already... poo!!!

 

[Lisa1]

I got a little niece actually a big niece after 36 hours of labour my big bros gf had a section and little Lucy Hopkins was born at 3.46. I havent seen her yet but will tomorrow. Just been to my OH nieces 21st which was arranged ages ago.

I called with my bro yesterday at the hospital they had a long haul Laura didn't dilate past 8-9 cms poor thing had been induced on Wednesday at 4pm.

I am proud to introduce Lucy hopkins weighing in at 9lbs 1oz with a huge mop of hair, first pic is 5 mins after she was born the last one is with the apple of my eye Rhianna my little princess who I have has the pleasure of being special auntie which includes doing makeup dressup and us havingladies who lunch. She has asked me before Lucy was born if it was a girl would I still love her as much as I did poor little thing. I told her she was my special princess and always would be xx

 

[Lisa1]

so tonight at 4dpo I am holding on to hope that I am next on storkys list!!! i have had a fluttering in my belly not much today but yesterday and the day before.

Sooo hoping it's my turn being the special aunt is fun but being a mum would be awesome and I would labour for a week to experience what Laura is experiencing now.

Good luck to us all and remember it's not impossible it may take a while but it will be worth it.

 

[Deb111]

Hi Lisa

It must be so hard for you right now - of course you are thrilled about your new niece but I know how hard it is too so sending you lots of

Thinking of you tomorrow when you get to meet her xx

 

[Lisa1]

Hi Lisa

It must be so hard for you right now - of course you are thrilled about your new niece but I know how hard it is too so sending you lots of

Thinking of you tomorrow when you get to meet her xx

Thanks Debs x

i really can't wait to see her and give her a cuddle if this month is not my month or if it never will be my month at least I can steal a cuddle which will keep me going

But PMA for this month and babydust for us all come on Team 35+ lets start the rolling xxx

 

[Deb111]

Did you find your FS through your doctor's referal or are they private? Just wondered as I live quite close to Bham and will be looking for a FS myself if we don't get a in the next couple of cycles.

xxx

Where abouts do you live hun?

 

[Hope4BFP]

Hi Hope! We're similar (Lisa too): I've been trying since Sept. with one month off (OH was sick), though I'm older at 37. Oh to be 35 again!!! How great to have 27-day cycles... short! Are you ov'ing now? Charting or using opks?

So Lisa are you 4 dpo too? I'm suddenly feeling out already... poo!!!

Hi Ella (and Lisa)! So nice to know I am not alone

My cycles are usually 26/27 days (11/12 day LP), although it went to CD34 last month! Think it was me experimenting with extra B-Vits (stopped taking them after 2 wks as Ov wasn't happening)! I am charting AND using opk sticks

Nice to meet you all!!! x