TTC #1 Hopeful and Obsessed! lol

[StarGazerRose]

(sorry girls I was on another forum *giggle* trying to work out some ideas for my crafts) --- yeah I'm a bad employee ... I'd rather be doing everything BUT my work.
(I grew up in the south so it's 'soda' to me.)

Crystal Light actually has aspartame in it (I spent like 5 mins looking at all the boxes down that isle couple weeks ago).
I bought a vitamin B Mio (which actually tastes rather good). And I found a "Real Lemon/Lime" thing which had a HORRIBLE after taste (great while drinking it, bad when you aren't) -- so that's junk now.
I don't bring water with me every day so I don't drink it like i should. < I really need to start drinking more water, plain or flavored...

I can "quit" soda if I don't think about quitting it. The thought of actually wanting to quit makes me want to drink more of it. --- thus the super addictive part of it. If I find something else to drink, I just simple don't bring the soda with me (which gives me a better option to not drink it), but I usually need a second drink at one point or another, and i usually go get a soda from the vending machine.

I've tried "Ice" drinks, they package them with flavors I don't like, which sit in my pantry for ages until i figure out what to do with them. Those were the best. The flavors I liked the most are only found in a few stores, and Walmart just stopped carrying them [like there isn't even a spot on the shelf anymore :sad: ]

Urgh i think Soda companies just plan out the other drinks to be just as bad as they are so you can't come off 'em! Conspiracies!!!

 

[StarGazerRose]

I don't think i could use a menstrual cup. I'm squeamish when my tampon gets full. I think I might loose my cookies if I use a cup. And I'm clumsy so I'm sure I'd probably spill it and just get it everywhere ... and then it would look like I murdered some one in the bathroom stall ... and yeah .... I can just see it going down fast!

 

[greenarcher]

Oh good lord, don't say that, I'll end up doing it! I have really light flow, so I'm hoping I'll only need to empty it at home.

Guys, my husband didn't get the job he interviewed for. I'm really upset, and I'm sure he feels like shit. It wouldn't bother me so much if he just helped out more without my asking. Did my laundry. Cooked anything. cleaned anything. I hate being the nag, and with all this free time on his hands, why can't he take the initiative!?

At this rate, I'm liable to quit my own job to put some fire under him.

 

[StarGazerRose]

haha Well I'm used to heavy flows, so perhaps if I find out with these close cycles, I won't need to keep buying the ultra tampons -- I barely needed my regulars this cycle! That was such a nice relief. I just would rather stick to tampons ... not in the mood to learn something new, think about how it's doing ... (plus it reminds me of the digital one that syncs with the phone ... at the commercial)

That sucks about the job -- I know that feeling!

OH I feel ya about the lazy bum... My hubby says that he'll do all this stuff... but it boils down to what? him vacuuming the living room and maybe -- wait ... nope I do that. Oh ... cleaning the bathroom *cough* i mean tub ... haha ....
I do the laundry (all of it), dishes, yard, trimming, dusting/straightening/tidy up, sweep/mop. So um what's left? vacuuming? yeah I end up doing that too. Scrubbing down the bathroom, yup I end up doing that too, cause this big strong man can't seem to get the spots off the tub or walls.
I ask him to put the dinner (pizza / chicken tenders) in the oven, and the world has ended...
I noticed the air filter needed to be changed. I pulled it down, put it almost in front of the vent. I left it there....He nudged it cause the plastic was covering the vent like an inch. I asked him if he'd change it. It sat there for 2-3 more weeks. I gave up and I changed it... He got all defensive about only being asked once ... Should I really have had to ask you ? ....
Then he was "cleaning the towel" and i noticed he wasn't using cleaner. I passivly said that it works better if you add bleach or cleaner. He said something about the bleach under the cabinet... and I'm like *opening cupboard to show my line of tampon boxes, hair basket and toilet paper stash* no bleach ... We haven't had bleach in over a year, but yet he uses it ... *glare* yeah right!

Men! Seriously! I love the bugger, but he sure gets under my skin!

 

[greenarcher]

Ugh, god it almost makes me want to start dating women.

 

[puma1986]

Oh good lord, don't say that, I'll end up doing it! I have really light flow, so I'm hoping I'll only need to empty it at home.

Guys, my husband didn't get the job he interviewed for. I'm really upset, and I'm sure he feels like shit. It wouldn't bother me so much if he just helped out more without my asking. Did my laundry. Cooked anything. cleaned anything. I hate being the nag, and with all this free time on his hands, why can't he take the initiative!?

At this rate, I'm liable to quit my own job to put some fire under him.

Make sure you fix that NOW because having a baby isn't going to get better. It'll get worse. He'll find excuses. I promise. I'm the bread winner, too. My husband cooks, cleans, grocery shops, and does laundry. And he's a manly man type of guy. So if my hubs can do it, so can yours! I'd be irrate if I busted my ass working and my husband sat around all day.

***EDIT: AND my husband suffers from severe ulcerative colitis and is tied to the bathroom most days. (which is also why he isn't currently working) GET ON THEM LADIES! There is no greater sign of disrespect than a man who isn't working and can't even do the simple things required to make life a little easier on you when you get home! You think you're mad now? Wait until you're doing everything you're doing now AND changing the baby by yourself, waking up by yourself, and feeling totally and completely isolated with postpartum depression. How dare any man sit on his ass and and allow his wife/fiance/girlfriend to do all of the work.

I promise. A man should be ashamed of himself for not helping out.

EDIT 2: Not to say they aren't totally awesome in other ways! ( why else would you be trying to have their baby!) But my husband rants and gets really angry at men who allow their women to do all of the work while they kick back. Every one of you deserve the best! And that's exactly what I want for you!

 

[BelleNuit]

Puma I don't think you could have said it any better. My husband does most of the cooking and the dishes/kitchen work. I do other things around the house (clean bathroom, living room). We both do our own laundry and we both work.

Green I could not imagine the amount of pressure you must be under having to do all the work inside and outside the house. It's just not right.

 

[StarGazerRose]

I didn't mean to make it sound like he sits on his butt while i do all that. Don't get me wrong, if I do ask him, he finds a time to do stuff. Just more often than not, I'm the one who ends up doing it cause when I ask I wanted it done before I asked.
I'm honestly just as "lazy" as he is. Come home and don't wanna do anything.
He works outside doing manual labor, so he's pretty tired when he gets home, and I understand that. So I let him play his games and chill a bit.
He actually likes to cook, when we ever cook at home.

Anyways ... how's everyone day going?
I'm trying to figure out my CM for the past couple. I feel wet, but my liner is dry....

 

[BelleNuit]

Days okay. Got frost for the first time this AM. I think we are headed for a brutal winter. Time to pull the garden!

 

[StarGazerRose]

Frost already? Where do you live?
I'm in NC, we're still getting 80+ days...
I probably won't see frost til maybe December ...probably January, we'll have a snow day in middle of February.

 

[BelleNuit]

I live in Northern Alberta (Canada). Sometimes we get a warm September, but its not uncommon to get frost by now. Often we have our first snow in early October. By November we often have a good pile of snow accumulated, and it usually sticks around till April. December/January/February are our coldest months. Ironically heaviest snowfall is usually in November and March when its a bit warmer. When its -20C its too cold to snow. Winter is pretty awful. The last few years have been pretty mild so we've been lucky, but I've heard this year won't be.

Our early winters are part of why Canadians have Thanksgiving in October. Our harvest has to be pretty much wrapped up by then. But the leaves are pretty right now We get about one month of fall, so you have to enjoy it!

 

[StarGazerRose]

If we had snow for that long we'd be considered in a "state of emergency". We can't handle anything more than a few days. We aren't prepared for it cause we don't end up with anything of magnitude.
We southerners just don't know how to handle snow (or ice). Although I miss actual snow (whether it sticks or not) We tend to get ice, which melts and creates ice for the next day, which melts and creates a mess .... and so on.
Although I'm not much for the cold, I think that I'd probably really like being where "snow" was really snow and not "ice"!
Hubby's parents are from NY and talk all the time of snow... and they keep telling me that i wouldn't like it as much as I think I would. will never know, cause i probably won't be going to NY any time soon.

 

[greenarcher]

Wow, I can't imagine frost now. We're still having days where we hit the hundreds (according to my car thermometer), and daily 90s unless its raining.

 

[StarGazerRose]

Archer you must be farther south than me to still be hitting the 100s!

 

[GoldenRatio]

Archer, My husband was the same when he first lost his job and i remember complaining on here about how he doesnt do anything but create mess at home for me to clean. And girls here told me to FIX things otherwise when baby comes, its gonna get worse which made me worry even more. I know you guys were trying to help but it wasnt helping at the time since you cant fix a person.

I was like omg Puma said its gonna get worse, she has a kid already so she probably knows it best, what am i gonna do, maybe we will have to get divorced. I was just confused.

At the end, I did absolutely nothing to change him, i just kept nagging and nothing changed. After our first ultrasound, he started changing. He cooked so many meals that i didnt know he was capable of. Does dishes, cleans around the house and keeps telling me to rest. Now that he has a job, he still does his duties like hangs his clothes when he gets home, preps the table for food, helps me when im cooking. So maybe thought of being a father did change him, and thats the motivation he needed not me trying to change him with my nagging.

Honestly just give him sometime, its not easy for guys to sit at home and do all these things. Dont worry about it too much, im sure when there is a baby, he will step up his game.

 

[BelleNuit]

Lol Star snow turns to ice! Bah! There's just no winning with winter. If we get a heavy snowfall, cars will drive on the snow, pack it down and the heat from the tires will melt it into this hard packed icy snowy mess. Then we have to sand and salt the roads so it turns into a brown mucky mess.

Winter is beautiful!! From indoors by a wood fire. Lol it's also much more enjoyable in shorter bursts.

Golden glad to hear your husband is shaping up. Hope he's just as helpful when baby comes.

More ewcm today, opk not positive yet, will probably be positive tomorrow

 

[BelleNuit]

ooh more ewcm again today. I've been getting way more than normal (or maybe I just forget what its like every cycle?? LOL). Maybe the acupunctures helping! I'm looking forward to my next treatment on Saturday. I usually get up to 3 days of ewcm and then I O, so should either O tomorrow or Saturday. Still waiting on that positive OPK

How are you ladies doing?

 

[StarGazerRose]

Glad to see that he made a turn. I'm pretty sure that DH will do the same. (maybe not cater to me, but at least helps out around the house)
Shoot I'd be happy if he just would wash his clothes (i never change the dial on the washer, all he has to do it turn the nob, add soap and shut the lid!


A little early morning griping on my end:

Noticed my CM is not lining up with what I should have (which is the creamy sticky stuff)... I think I finally saw a little creamy yesterday evening, but it's still dry on my liner. I put "nothing seen, nothing felt" and the app's messages told me that it's not right for the point of cycle i'm in. But i'm new to most of the tracking stuff, so I might just be putting the wrong thing!

My back hurts like crazy. I can't bend or twist or breathe without it knotting up. I got it to pop a little by slightly twisting, but it killed the other side... Been bending at the knees all morning cause yeah, it's that tense!

My boobs are annoying me. Not like the symptoms you'd normally hear about. -- I had surgery many years ago (i think nearly 9 yrs ago) on one breast, I have scar tissue still, and the big scar is still there from the incision. I think it stunted the growth of that boob. It's like noticeably smaller than the other, my shirts/cami's all twist and I have to adjust my bra so they look almost the same size (meaning I have to hike up the one to flatten out the larger >,< )
I'm thinking about padding my one cup. Not sure what I should do, but it's like crazy noticeable (or at least to me).

I felt a little down last night. I think i'm out this month... I mean I have my progesterone test tomorrow morning, so that will suggest whether I O'd or not, or even perhaps have the right level for this point of the cycle. But I just kinda feel lost --- idk maybe that's a "sign" haha

 

[puma1986]

Ack!!!! WTF man! I think I'm roughly 7 dpo based on CM and patterns in the past. I am dying. Seriously so turned on and my MIL is visiting!!! There is no TMI is this forum so I'm just going to ellaborate. I feel like my entire under carriage is softly vibrating and receiving a high amount of blood flow. Does this make sense? This is pretty normal around ovulation but certainly not right now. This is the WORST. My BBs aren't sore yet either which is WEIRD. They are always sore by now.

Golden: Im glad your DH has stepped up!

 

[puma1986]

Glad to see that he made a turn. I'm pretty sure that DH will do the same. (maybe not cater to me, but at least helps out around the house)
Shoot I'd be happy if he just would wash his clothes (i never change the dial on the washer, all he has to do it turn the nob, add soap and shut the lid!


A little early morning griping on my end:

Noticed my CM is not lining up with what I should have (which is the creamy sticky stuff)... I think I finally saw a little creamy yesterday evening, but it's still dry on my liner. I put "nothing seen, nothing felt" and the app's messages told me that it's not right for the point of cycle i'm in. But i'm new to most of the tracking stuff, so I might just be putting the wrong thing!

My back hurts like crazy. I can't bend or twist or breathe without it knotting up. I got it to pop a little by slightly twisting, but it killed the other side... Been bending at the knees all morning cause yeah, it's that tense!

My boobs are annoying me. Not like the symptoms you'd normally hear about. -- I had surgery many years ago (i think nearly 9 yrs ago) on one breast, I have scar tissue still, and the big scar is still there from the incision. I think it stunted the growth of that boob. It's like noticeably smaller than the other, my shirts/cami's all twist and I have to adjust my bra so they look almost the same size (meaning I have to hike up the one to flatten out the larger >,< )
I'm thinking about padding my one cup. Not sure what I should do, but it's like crazy noticeable (or at least to me).

I felt a little down last night. I think i'm out this month... I mean I have my progesterone test tomorrow morning, so that will suggest whether I O'd or not, or even perhaps have the right level for this point of the cycle. But I just kinda feel lost --- idk maybe that's a "sign" haha

You aren't out yet mamasita! The back pains sound hopeful! And pregnancy results in lots of CM or no CM so I wouldn't worry too much about that!